At one time or another, most of us crack our heads to figuring out the best way for that initial approach, or even to get the courage to start talking to a girl. I have found it much easier to approach women when its two people talking to one. Two heads are better than one, even if your friend is a chump, you will look good in comparison, and it is fun; both of you can talk to girls, and keep the convo going, even if its short. Remember, if you are not confortable with new approaches, yet, the purpose initially will be to just to loose the fear, not to score at the moment.

This approach will force the creativity out of both of you, you will learn some stuff, he will learn some stuff. Knowing that you've tested some of the techniques or conversations in a live environment, you'll be able to use them in the future for cold approaches. Both of you will be much looser, and initally she will feel less threatened. Since you have somebody on your side, this is your opportunity to be ****y/funny, and feel confident to try out stuff, no matter how odd, or whacky it might sound. One of my co-worker and I always do this when we go out to eat, works like a charm.

After a few minutes of conversation, you will definitely know which of the two is connecting better with the woman. Once rapport has been established, the third wheel can briefly split. Usually one of the two will like the girl more, also. This type of approach might also help keep her on her toes, because at some point, she really won't know who's the one that's interested; at that moment, she is in unfamiliar territory; she is not in control, like every other time somebody goes up to her to hit her up for her number;

Make sure you decide before hand who's gonna be the one interested, but be open for chances, since she might be interested in the other guy. If this happens, be willing to take one for the team. The last thing you need is two guys looking like insecure chumps trying to c0ck bl0ck eachother. Remember, take one for the team. Its better if one of you scores, than if neither does. Be a team player. It will come back to you in no time, specially if you approach enough.

This also helps in the sense that whoever is the least/or not interested in her, can make the approach, since it will be less pressure to try to impress her. Think about it, isn't it much easier to start conversations with girls who you are not attracted to? I know that it is easier for me to approach someone Im not trying to impress, or who I haven't had a chance to admire, because I don't put to much emphasis. Just like its probably easier for most of us to start talking to guys about anything.

In a sense, I equate this to getting an official introduction, even though neither of you know her. Your wingman/friend can soften the initial resistance wall that might be there; Just like a refferral, a qualified lead, it won't be a cold approach and its a great opportunity to build rapport, to practice, and even to close the deal.

I personally don't like having a wingman because theres too much unintended c0ck-blocking (Especially if your new). Guys have different pickup styles and sometimes they clash.

If you practice with a wingman all the time - your solo skills won't be as developed. You'l fear approaching by yourself. Don't get too comfortable with this.... I'm a firm believer in conquering your fear - by yourself.

isn't it much easier to start conversations with girls who you are not attracted to

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The best way to learn is to hit on obviously desperate chicks; by that I mean the ones who you KNOW you can score with. Pay close attention to their responses - they're the same as any 10 girl only slightly more prominent and forced. Once you've got the pattern down you can detect when any girl is saying "YES YES YES" or "HELL NO HELL NO" in girl-speak.