I understand dating women at work isnt ideal, however, I work for a college newspaper(sports) and am in the newsroom, maybe 10 hours a week. There are two girls that are new that are working this year. I havent had a chance to really talk to them cause they are in a different area.

My question is, if there are two and they work together, I must choose one to go after. However, how do I find out if they are dating someone, without flat out asking? I dont have time to socialize at work so I dont want to mention coffee to one girl and turn me down cause she is in a relationship, and have the other girl hear about it.

Also, do i go for the one im attracted too more, or do i go with the one i think i have a better shot with?

Any suggestions on how to find out the details without sounding like a douche bag?

Too late, you already sound like a douche bag. heh heh, j/k.

First off, I'd definitely go for the one you're more attracted to. I'm in a similar situation right now. The way you find out is to start chatting with them about random things, such as where they live, and ask them if they have plans over the weekend, and stuff like that, but don't sound like you're interested in them, just sound like you're making small talk.

Try to think of questions that might back them into a corner to say whether they have a BF or not. It works if you ask them to do stuff with you during a time when she would usually do something with her BF if she had one. Like after work or something, perhaps the only time that she and her BF might be able to do something together. She will then usually have to say she has one if she does, and if not, she might agree to go with you. Be creative, that was just an idea, but something along those lines usually works.

If they're hot though, it's almost guaranteed they have a BF (95% chance). I know that people here say that some girls say they have BFs if they're not interested in you, so that's a possibility too. I've never experienced that before though, they've always really had BFs if they've said so.

You're nuts.

You're nuts. Go have a wonderful time with another great *****... no look for about 10 more. Then use the confidence you gain from that to see them with a bigger perspective. Once they are both after YOU, choose the one you want.

Are you sure you want to date a chick you are working so close with? Look for fresh faces and give THEM a great time.

I agree with Suavedave,

Definitely go after both of them, or at least start talking to both of them, without worrying about anything, don't put too much emphazis, that way you won't get anxious; women, specially hotties, love competition. After you know both pretty well, pick the one that you are over all more attracted to. But don't stop talking to the one that you didn't choose. She will be your social proof, and help you keep the one in check.