About 9 months ago, met a girl at a party. Life was going well, so I was naturally giving off great vibes - confidence, self-assurance, C&F, challenge etc.

She went for it big time and insists that I walk her home. I ended up staying the night at her place. Didn't end up having sex, but we did everything else besides (use your imagination).

Next morning I feel like death because I've had too much to drink and not had enough sleep. I leave really early in the morning because I NEED to go home and get some sleep (and throw up). She wants me to stay but I say No. She says "call me" as I leave.

Call her up a few days later and ask her out for drink (as courtesy only) but she blows me out by making all sorts of excuses. So I email her and say 'it was great meeting you, blah blah blah, take care yourself.' I am extra C+F in the email and bust her balls a bit about her excuses. I don't call her again and the email implies that.

Cut to 1 month later. She ignores me at another party. I'm told she has a new guy but also told that he's a bit of plaything for her.

Cut to 3 months later, another party, and she's surprisingly friendly and chatty to me. I'm looking for signals from her, but they're not strong enough for me to make a move, so I don't bother.

Cut to last weekend, another party, and she's sort of making herself available. She's throwing off a few 'availabilty vibes' but I'm simply polite to her but I blow her off a bit and talk to other women at the party.

Here's the question:-

Is she genuinley interested or is she on an ego trip by trying to entice me into making a move so that she can just blow me out?

I think she likes to be in 'control' and it pisses her off that I'm not fawning over her like a love sick dog and that's she's not in control of the situation. Not sure if I'm being overly cynical here.

Does anyone have any thoughts on this situation? Thanks

Anybody that tells you what she's thinking from the limited information you gave is lying.

The good thing is that there's a sure fire way to find out. Ask her out on a date and take it from there. Treat her like would any other girl by slowly escalating, and seeing how far you can go with her.

The worst that could happen is that she could say no. So you'll be exactly like you were before, except you're not wasting your time trying to read the mind of some random and ultimately insignificant girl.

Thanks for the input, Quick.

I don't want to go through the whole dating thing. I don't think she's the type of girl that I want to get involved in a relationship with - she's a bit too much of a 'little princess' for that.

I see her as more of a potential semi-regular fvck buddy - you know that type who's a friend of a friend and you meet up every few months at parties and get togethers etc.

I know this is going to sound strange, but I think asking her out for a drink is too much of a big step because it disrupts the power balance (its an odd situation) and besides I honestly don't think that she would want to go on a date or go for a drink.

But I do think its quite / very possible that she wants 'no strings attached' sex - I'm honestly not deluding myself. She's very successful in her career, manges her own dept, has a very good salary etc, and I suspect that may want to be in control of her men / love life as she is in her work.

Would be useful to know what the likelihood is that she's on a ego / power trip though.

Is anyone else prepared to offer an opinion / experience or has Quick put everyone off?