It seems there is quite a bit of confusion for some regarding one-itis. Hopefully this will answer some questions

What is one-itis?
A deep attraction/infatuation toward a specific person.

What's the big deal?
Well...

People can try to deny that they ever get a one-itis. THEY'RE FUKING LIERS!!!! Every man that gets into an exclusive relationship (and is happy with that relationship) will eventually develope strong feelings for his girl.

Now you may be thinking "what an idiot. One-itis is BAD BAD BAD and every true DJ knows this." Well yes I agree that one-itis is bad... but only when developed prematurely. An AFC will often become completely infatuated with a girl without even being in any type of relationship with her. This is when it's bad.

However, i believe that one-itis is necessary if you ever want to have a happy long term relationship with someone. Why? Because you cannot trust and love somebody if you do not care about them. That may sound like a bunch of circular nonsense (because it is), but there's actually some truth behind it. You have to let your guard down eventually in a LTR. Sure, there are guys that will say that they wouldn't care if their 2 year relationship ended. Now they are either the most optimistic mother fukers on the planet, or they are FULL OF SH*T. A relationship is not a relationship if the two people involed don't care about each other. And when relationships end, it usually hurts. You just gotta learn to deal with it.

As a DJ you will do your best to not allow yourself to be vulnerable to the pain of a screwed-over relationship. Unfortunately the pain, as well as the vulnerability, is inevitable... unless of course you can run two "exclusive" relationships consecutively (for insurance), but unless you're Jesus, good luck with that.

I believe you hit the mark their dbot. I think this will hopefully clear up some confusions for people, as I know myself I was never clear on the one-itis "policy" and even thought I had this for my girlfriend when I realised it was nessacary caring.

Thank you,

-Auron

Well this was supposed to be a reply under another topic, but I felt the information could be useful to others.

I think you're missing the original meaning of one-itis.

one-itis is not so simple as "a deep infatuation with someone"

the reason they call it one-itis is because it's when someone truly believes they have found "the one", the "perfect girl", blah blah blah

this generally happens before a guy has even talked to the girl or (almost 100% of the time) kissed her or been involved with her romantically at all.

it is NOT one-itis when you are in a LTR.

one-itis generally applies for someone who has never been involed with a girl, yet truly believes she is the most perfect girl for him, and they should be together for ever, and he'd do anything for her, blah blah blah blah afc crap...