what are some ways to help a girl decide that she wants to have sex with you......like ways for her to make up her mind?

im thinking you can do all you can to comfort her in the decision so she feels as if nothing is gonna change. . .my ex was scared to have sex with me due to the fact that she was afraid that that was all i wanted and that if we had sex then it would be over and there would be no more love between us but i think you really have to comfort her bout it and allow her to come up with the answer . . .. .and if she says no say okay still continue to comfort her i guess eventually she will come around and the relationship will evolve . .. .convince her that is not all you want . .. . .of course im not a professional advice giver so i dont know how well this will work but it is worth a try if it doesnt work then at least you know you tried and what to look for next time when trying to get some.. . .oh and yeah when you are talkin to her dont refer to it as "sex" sex is kinda saying you just wanna bone nothing mutual or loving just "sex" say something like you wanna make love or you wanna explore your love together .. . .things like that make them feel a little more self assured that sex is not all your looking for in the relationship . .. . but then here is my point of veiw and you might disagree but we are all different i would rather masterbate then try and get a girl to have sex with me if it evolves to that then great im all for it but till then im not about to pressure her into it cause then there is like a certain look she gives you whenever you talk like subliminal messages in her eyes man like they are saying "i hate you why do you want that what is wrong with our relationship now... " and stuff like that if your ever in that situation then you will know what im talkin bout . . .well thats all the help i think i can give right now so write back if you get some or not either way im only here to help and be helped. . .

No. A girl will decide whether she WON'T have sex with you within the first minute. After that, it's still iffy, but you've made it out of the dugout.

okay i agree with both of you but did what i said make any kind of sense? i mean thats just my point of view if not its cool no harm done i just wanna know if im going in the wrong direction with girls too then. .. after reading what you both had to say bout this subject.. .

yeah nates thats alot like my situation.......i will have to use some of your advice.