I sometimes feel like I've"blown it" or 'Screwed up" if I've had a game plan for a casual meeting and havent addressed what I hope i wanted to. I guess this is blowing it but, does anyone here ever get upset or disapointed about how somthing turned out, even though nothing bad happend?

My situation as ive written about before on here is that I have a friend taht ive been hangih out with regulary...she mentioned getting dinner and going to my hot tub one time when hangiin out, so we made plans for monday.

Today we got coffee and i wanted to be flitartious and set the stage sort of for monday. However, we just ended up talking and catching up with eachother and i was about to walk home when she asked to take me home in her car

We are still on for monday, but i still felt like i could have done more to cultivate some emotions in her, or not just "caught up". However, im not sure what i should have done, or even if i messed up any chances. I jsut dont want to puss out of a great opportunity to do some "exploring" with her.

So,does anyone ever get disapointed when things are just normal and nothing excitign happens, or am i overreacting? Honestly what profound thing could have happend at a coffee shop at 3 in the afternoon.

I am tired of small talk/Catching up and want to have something happen. Hopefully she is just as interested in the hottub as before...

Peace

I understand

I would usualy do the same thing you did, and have the same regrets afterwards, but one day when I was cursing at myself for still being such an afc I realised that planning that much was stupid, when you make plans just think about where to go, in my experience its usualy when you over-think something that you end up screwing yourself. so dont plan conversations and dont have any "expectations" exept that your meeting her, just some food for thought......

Honestly, dude, you did just fine. For one thing, you got some of the catching-up out of the way, so other things can happen sooner. For another, chatting like that helps make her more comfortable with you. Now, if you're going for a physical relationship, that's about it. If, however, you're looking for some emotional connection, then the meeting you described went very well, b/c you helped her feel closer to you. Either way, despite the fact that things didn't go as you expected, you obviously came out ahead.

Yeah, I've overreacted.

We all lose control of our feelings. We all have doubt, anger, fear, sadness, pride, etc...but if you let them run your life, then you end up losing control of yourself.

It's OK to have feelings, you just need to be in control of them. And sometimes the best way to do that is to just not give a f--k.

I never miss out on a chance to include some touching in each meeting. If you at least did that, just move it forward on your next meeting.

Each time you put of the flirting and touching during a meeting, you step one step closer or further into the zone.

I overreact all the time.