I successfully find someone that i can really have a good time with and maybe get a LTR with. One problem is that i know its sad but video games are getting in the way i tend to spend my money on games and also forget about her and whats important to me. Does any one else have this problem with video games or does any one know how to get rid of video game playing forever so that i can get a life.

Do you like video games more than girls? If not, then you shouldn't have a problem with marginalizing the gaming a little bit.

yes i do like girls alot more then games but it just seems hard to let go of games for some reason

Are you enjoying living in "gaming world" more than the real world? Do you base most of your self-esteem or sense of accomplishment on your gaming ability?

Maybe you need to find a real-world interest and try to focus and expand upon that. Maybe it is cars or drawing or a sport...whatever. If you can get exited about some real life (preferably social) activity that makes you feel good then you may not need the games so much anymore.

Also, if you are a real gaming-addict freak with several different systems, perhaps you could box them all up but one (maybe get rid of everything but an original NES or Gameboy....) Buy a locking safe and put it all in there. Give the key to your best friend and tell him to promise not to give it back until you can truly do without them. That's the cold-turkey extreme approach, but desperate situations call for drastic measures sometimes.

Or, just be like me... I broke up with my GF, our company restructured so almost got fired and my PC blew up - completely (i mean, the PS shorted out and took everything out) in a week.

I then had the choice, spend money on a new computer or spend it on myself, having fun, going out more. And let me tell you, im computerless and loving it. Ohh, and i also spent the extra $$'s on upgrading to a Queen Size bed

Go out, keep busy, do new things. Use your willpower, make yourself STOP.