There was a recent thread on missed opportunities which made me think of this. You need to expect the unexpected or at least be ready to handle it. When a girl out right hits on you, you need to be ready to deal with it and deal with it quickly. Most of my lost opportunities come from this. A blatant pick up attempt that I zoned out on or wasn’t man enough to deal with it the way I wanted. These range from very subtle comments to outright blatant unbelievable **** that I didn’t know if she was being serious or not. I miss so must subtle **** all the time it isn’t even funny, I think we all do actually.

I am going to give an example of the most blatant thing ever said to me; I know some guys dream for a moment like this. What I never considered before is how much time it took her to asking say this (considering saying it) or if she just said it without thinking too much.

I was in training school and we were all lacking sex because of the training (this was in the military). We are all hanging out one weekend night I don’t even recall what the conversation was if it was anything at all. There are several people around and this girl looks at me out of the blue and asks me “Do you want to go ****?” I just paused and thought to myself so many things, first is she serious, what should the answer be, and all these people are around. Before I could formulate my words (within seconds) another dude in a laughing manner says hell I will, or if he doesn’t I will or something to that effect. She just said okay and they went off and did it, I know because I walked by later and saw them.

I am not saying that I would have done it or wouldn’t have but I wasn’t expecting the unexpected.

Thats a damn good point man, we should all be ready to deal when the unexpected hits. I had a similar experence, not to the same degree but similar and it sucks. it definatly pays to be on your feet.