I am 26 and had to move back in with my parents back in November 2002. My father is laid back and does not nag, but my mother is overprotective and very negative. She yells alot and is very loud when she talks. She is always nagging at me, don't do this, you cannot afford to do that. She is not very supportive in what I do either. It really hurts your confidence because you are basically still being told how to live, have to call and let them know where you are going and cannot bring girls back to the house. I cannot afford to move out now, and my only hope is grad school oin Jan or Fall 2004. Anyone else have this problem?

Nagging Mother

Yeah, i know how you feel, bro. I'm almost 23 and still haven't moved out of my parents' house. I actually live in the basement (I guess I'm a walking a cliche). I just graduated from college and have yet to find a job which is a real blow to my self confidence. Do what I do. Just tune it out and continue to work on your self improvement. I'm willing to bet that my mother is 100 times worse than yours in the nagging department.

What I do when I need a place to bring a girl in the summer is head down to my grandmother's beach house in Seaside.

Bye the way, I see you're from Toms River. Do you ever frequent any of the bars on the boardwalk there?

Hell man...make the best of your situation. You could use this time to save and try to get ahead in your life. Maybe you should of saved some money when you were growing up? If you did you would be more of an indenpent person and would have your own place by now. But, that is all in the past now.

Just try to take this time with a grain of salt. Use this time to save and plan your future. It really does'nt matter if you live with your rents, you gotta live somewhere. Maybe your mom nags you because she still feels that you are not mature and still need her? At 26 though your mom should back off.....she just wants to best for you though.


I'm surprised you dont see that your mom nags you because she wants you to make something of yourself? Hell man my mom kicks my ass if i'm hungover and cant get up for school/work.

Everytime my mom gets on my case i tell her i'm moving out...I have a suitcase already packed under my bed. I can afford to live on my own but i would rather not because i'm a student and like the benefits and freebies from living at home. If she pushes me hard enough she knows i would leave......thats why i make sure i save about half of all my paychecks.

Start saving man, so you could gain your freedom. You should of been thinking about that 10 years ago.

Good luck man

Look for a part time job, then organise a place to rent with some mates. Easy to say, I know, but you have to put some effort into it and really make it happen.

Once you are living on your own (or rather, with some mates), your confidence will rise dramatically, as will your self-esteem. Sadly, a lot of parents have negative effects on both of these.

Also, with a few males in the house, you'll be feeding testosterone off them all the time, as will they with you. Why is this a good thing? Read the most inspirational article ever, by Pook, in the DJ Book. (Second Article: "Secret of the Jerk"). Most girls are naturally very attracted to high testosterone.