Hey guys,

Since it's the semester holidays now I've been going to clubs quite often with friends...

Usually I'm the type who always dances together with friends, and unfortunately, as we all know in that scenario, we can't really be grinding with out guy or girl friends...otherwise 'complications' will occur that I don't need to get into:

Anyway, the main point of my post is a couple of things:

1) After reading alot of the posts here on the grinds and 'observing' these moves being pulled in the clubs alot, I decided to give it a try. I would say I'm a pretty good dancer. So anyway, I spot this fkn hot chick who is extremely good on the floor, so I 'moonwalk' to her and said "Hi, what's your name, your a really good dancer". Introduction bull**** over, we started to dirty dance. I'm swinging her hips along and she starts to ... go down on me, whatever that move is called. Anyway, soon enough we are grinding front on. Now, for some ****ed up reason I couldn't get my man pole to raise the flag. (Please don't laugh guys ) It was just limp. Is this a common occurence? As in, is it impossible to get a...stiffy when you dance, or was it just the alcohol in my blood? Needless to say, she had to leave and I didn't even go for a kiss (****) close coz I had lost my self esteem. Great night though. The best part was seeing the faces of all the guys who were dancing around this at least HB8 (it was dark, I was drunk, maybe it was 7) go glum when we started grinding front on.

2) I tried to get back what dignity was left and was dancing with another girl later on, I still couldn't even get a half mast, but we were making out. And then 10 minutes later, she tells me something like "sorry, I'm not looking".WTF?? I was just stunned. I used the excuse that I had to go back to my friends. Why do you think this happened, I mean, we were tongueing away and only after I had stopped had she said this. What could I have said to 'counter' this?

Thanks Bros.

Keep up the good work. Stay money.

sorry, I'm not looking???

"well neither am I, (bytch)"

ummmmmmmm

"I know you are doing much more than looking"

uhhhhhhhhhhh

damn I suck at these counters but I tried!!!

My best advice is to lay off the booze..stuff makes me limp as a wet rag!

I dont go to clubs very often (I'd like to though) and I've never grinded because I've never tried to dance in my life and I'm scared of makin a fool of myself. But I am working my way into it...are you sayin you're supposed to "raise the flag" when you grind? Girls expect that?

Originally posted by Drex
But I am working my way into it...are you sayin you're supposed to "raise the flag" when you grind? Girls expect that?

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I would think that's what they want right? I mean if your grinding, don't they want to 'feel a groove'? Or am I totally wrong here?

Grinding is the sort of dance expression that you can't really practice at home by yourself...It's quite easy to perform. There are a lot of good guides on this forum. The only thing is, alot of people do it from behind, start out of nowhere and start grinding. I like to 'formally introduce myself' and then show the girl that I'm a modest dancer. After busting some moes will I then slowly start sliding along closer to her. That's how I get to the 'front grinds' most of the time.

"Sorry I'm not looking"

- "Of course you're not!It's rude to keep your eyes open when you kiss!"


THEN pull your "I gotta go" BS.

It really depends if you're feeling the girl, but I have noticed that when I am pretty drunk, and I am not sure who I am dancing with, chances are I can't be aroused. Plus I have heard from girls that they rather not have your flag being raised...I don't know too many guys that i kick it with raise their flags when they're grinding (from what they told me).

Haha. Sleeper that is a good one.
I just thought of a counter: "Hey, me neither, I'm just here to have fun, and I did, so see ya!"

htemorp: I thought they rather grind on something hard right? Isn't that what it's all about?

Another thing guys, is what should you do when your grinding heavily with a chick and she stops and says "I have to go..."? Do you follow her? Or?

Originally posted by megatron
Now, for some ****ed up reason I couldn't get my man pole to raise the flag. (Please don't laugh guys )

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Sorry, man, too late I, I busted up.
The little sad-face makes ya sound so pathetic

But really man, I wouldn't worry 'bout that. Once at a Winter Formal, my date and I were having a really good time. It's probably the best "dance date" I ever had. We didn't do too much actual dancing, but I held her hands from behind and my crotch was perfectly aligned and rubbing up against her ass.

I closed my eyes to savor the moment and some people had the nerve to accuse me of sleeping!

Anyway, this chick and I went out for a very breif period, but then we broke up, so I felt freer and more open with her (AFC days...). I told her that during that dance, she had "raised the flagpole" as you say. She got really disgusted and hates me to this day!

So, in my experience, they don't like it. But then again, the chick I'm talking about was a supershy "goody-girl." Maybe the booty-shakin' freaks out there like it? But it's not something you should be losing sleep over. Miniscule really.

As for the chick that told you, "I'm not looking."
You should have said, "Really? Hm. Stop being such a ho and you won't need to tell people that! Then leave.

Originally posted by megatron
Haha. Sleeper that is a good one.
I just thought of a counter: "Hey, me neither, I'm just here to have fun, and I did, so see ya!"

htemorp: I thought they rather grind on something hard right? Isn't that what it's all about?

Another thing guys, is what should you do when your grinding heavily with a chick and she stops and says "I have to go..."? Do you follow her? Or?

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Actually not really, it all depends on who you dance with. You don't go raise your flag to every female touching you...unless you're a virgin of course.

Come on man, stop worrying about dumb stuff. i usually get my flag (LOL) up when i dirty dance, but i dont drink so i have no problem with that. some girls prefer a guy with stiff ****, and some might think "oh my he's sick" (there are fvcked up b!tches like that too) . .. so just dont worry about it and enjoy the dance. remember, different pace, direction, rotation. and lotsa of hand moving

"Sorry, I'm not looking."

I think that's ******** for "If what I feel is your 'raised flag' then I will pretend to have no knowledge about your Mini-Me."

Errrr... correct me if im wrong, but isnt crackin a fat on the dancefloor a little bit immature?

I think thats what women think anyway. If she can make you that excited (im talkin a full boner) just dancin with her, and she knows it, then i dunno but it seems like she'll think you're a creep. A bit of a turn off dont you think?

Ive never hardened up on a dancefloor no matter how down and dirty i get with her, ive got control over it. And i wouldnt have it any other way.

This dancefloor-boner talk is too odd for me.