People are guided in life by one of two things. Either it's to avoid pain or garner pleasure. Sadly for most people, it's the abhorrence of pain that is the determining factor.

Take the dating game. Most guys are afraid to approach women because they fear rejection and the (perceived) humiliation that follows rather than the "warm luscious pus*y" that's the reward of the determined DJ. The pain of a girl's rejection outweighs the euphoria of banging that HB.

What's the pain really? So what if she says to you "Get lost you loser!" (it's her big loss). So what if her jealous EX wants to do a Lorena Bobbit on you (it's only a hollow threat). So what if some alpha male tries to steal your girl and you put up a fight and he beats the crap out of you. Sure, your black eyes may require sunglasses for a week or two, but think of the elevation of her interest level in you seeing you stand up for yourself. The end game is that you get the sizzling pus*y! Pleasure driven action rather than the avoidance of pain is what separates the DJ from the AFC.

A bit of both

I go for the lesser of two pains: Rather talk to a girl, go for the number and get rejected than not talk to her at all. I always have fun, though.

My main problem is I have no fear. Im to agressive most of the time and that gets me in trouble. Im working on slowing myself down and not pushing as hard. So I guess I pleasure driven, I just seem to end up on the pain path for some reason.

nice observation..avoid pain and seek pleasure..but for some people ..avoiding pain seems like a safer bet..then the reward of seeking pleasure..

Most people dont understand that by avoiding pain..you make your skin weaker and weaker..

Those who take the risks eventually develope a thick skin..and the pain doesnt budge the ego..as much as it used to.

I had a hard time transitioning from one to the other...Now I just keep expectations to realisitic (50/50)..and just go out there and try..If I score..great..if I dont..oh well..its only 50%