All the sosuave discussion on different strategies or how to deal with specific situations is a good beginning point for newbies. Ultimately though, if you want to maximize your success with women you will either have to become a 'seduction jock' (doing NLP, speed seduction, etc.) or become an alpha male. This is a guideline on becoming the alpha male, summarizing info from other posts on sosuave (see appendix at bottom).

The alpha male is simply the dominant male in any group/social circle. There are varying degrees of alphaness (i.e. there isn't always just one alpha and the rest are betas), but this much is certain: the more alpha you are the better looking will be the girls you attract, the more girls will you attract, and the easier it will be for you to get physical intimacy. You should already know the evolutionary reasons behind that. Now here are my definitions of alpha attributes:

- Fierceness. It isn't the specific stature or strength of the man that counts, but merely the fierceness quotient. Bruce Lee is one of the fiercest men of the modern era, though he lacked size. Agent Smith in 'the Matrix' is fierce just b/c he wears a scowl. Nonetheless, alpha males GENERALLY have more lean muscle and/or are taller than other males in the group. In some way -- be it through height, strength, athleticism, fighting skills, meanness, etc. -- the man has to be fierce. If he isn't himself too fierce, then he makes physically fierce allies, whom he dominates through his intelligence/competence. The point is that no one wants to mess with an alpha b/c of the dire physical consequences.

- 'Take no dirt.' An Alpha Male doesn't accept b.s. behavior from other people. If he has a problem with the way someone is treating him, the alpha male lets the person know it often in a ****y & funny way.

- Non-antagonistic/ a group builder. There is a misconceived notion that an alpha male is always antagonistic with other males. Quite the contrary -- only beta males have to conflict other males due to their own need to assert dominance. Alphas already feel dominant and don't have to prove anything. They don't have to put anyone down, but as already mentioned neither do they have to suck up to anyone. An alpha will try to coalesce people to form a bigger group b/c he understands that the more allies he has the better it is for his pack. Consider the behavior of Vince Vaughn's character Trent in Swingers and compare that behavior to Sue's in the same film. Sue points a gun at another guy to assert his dominance, whereas Trent invites those same guys over to play video games. Clearly Trent is the alpha here and he didn't have to resort to violence to prove any point.

- Courageousness. Though the alpha isn't antagonistic, if there is a threat on the group he will take action (not necessarily through violence). He will be the first to back up his friend in a verbal/physical conflict. He has a higher threshold of pain. Since most people recognize his courageousness, no one tests him on this.

- Authoritativeness. People take his opinions/ideas seriously. Part of this is having a serious, robust, and deep voice. Think Vin Diesel.

- Attractiveness. When an alpha male enters a room, heads turn -- both male and female. Attractiveness covers pretty-boyness, good clothes, demeanor etc. The oddest part of alphaness is that boyish facial features like Brad Pitt's are actually the most attractive and which get the most notice.

- Confidence. It's easy to have confidence when you exhibit the above features. Alphas carry themselves in a confident manner. Standing with good posture, looking people in the eye, having a firm handshake, smiling at girls, saying 'hi' to acquaintances.

- Seeking the best for himself and the group. Another reason why alphas are not antagonistic -- they know that petty fights get them in trouble and can hold back their success. Alphas have ambition. An alpha will try to find quality enthusiastic men with potential to join the group as his followers.

- Being the center of attention. Alphas are not pre-occupied with sternness and displaying alphaness -- they're more interested in getting attention wherever they go. This can be done through humor, performance in music, unique ensemble, etc. Alphas are required to be arrogant/self-centered.

- Non-speculative/man of action. Alphas don't sit around and think about stuff too much. Not that they're errant and stupid -- they make calculated decisions and then act on them quickly. They find enjoyment in physical activities more than reading/talking.

- Competence. For whatever the group is trying to achieve (as opposed to intelligence in general).

- The ability to acquire resources or having the resources themselves. When girls are young they gravitate towards the sons of rich families. When they're older they go for men with ambition and higher income.

A fine mix of all these qualities is necessary for an alpha. Plain and simple, an alpha is a highly masculinized, secure male who has some fortunate traits and skills that he utilizes for his own benefit and to lead a group of people.

part II

Girls are turned on by alpha qualities, but you must be alpha in a specific way to get a specific kind of girl. This is to say, you can be alpha all you want in group of male intellectuals and you will exhibit your intellectual dominance, but most young girls won't give a damn about that kind of alphaness.

In Part I I mentioned groups and group goals, I will now write more specifically about these two things. Think about the social circles you're involved in, hope to be involved in, or have the kinds of girls you like, (e.g. frat/sorority college students, young Hispanic professionals, musicians in their 30s, etc.). Determine what these group goals, qualities, and interests are. Now you know what mix of the qualities mentioned in the first part that you need to focus on (e.g. some groups require more fierceness than others). Also, you know which areas of competence are most important. Join the group, have the same interests, and lead the males. Remember your alphaness is based as much on how you act around males as on how you act around females.

To give you a specific example. Let's say you're in college and want to get the All-American hot chicks. Of course there are exceptions, but what are these girls looking for at this age? They want to be seen as desirable and popular. They want to have as much fun as possible. They drink and want adventure, but not to be considered loose. They don't want to be seen as stupid, but they're not so concerned about intellectual topics, religion, etc. They're not particularly imaginative and most are followers.

The guys they align with want to have fun, exert dominance, and get some poon. They have similar goals as the girls discussed in the last paragraph. Their interests are different only in that guys want to do masculine, action activities/hobbies.

So, if you're in college you know what you need to do. Befriend fellow guys who are popular. Make them your allies and subordinates. Dominate them through superior competence/performance on having fun (the group goals). Be the guy who is the life of the party. Suggest a spur-of-the moment trip. Lead the other guys around downtown. The other guys' following your lead is incumbent on your possessing the qualities mentioned in Part I

Once you have a group of good men whom you dominate to achieve common goals (here fun), then the girls will take notice. They'll see you as a leader. They'll see you socialize with other people and expand the group. You will be alpha in a way that interests the good-looking girls, since these girls are very concerned about guys' social alphaness/popularity. In addition, your alphaness will be demonstrated in all ways that you deal with women. (more on this a little later)

In the animal kingdom an alpha helps the pack achieve its goal of security and sustenance. Similarly, alpha male humans help their groups in achieving different goals. Do not confuse your helping one group achieving a goal with being an 'alpha' in general. I may help my study group in Physics class ace the test and may dominate the guys in the study group, but this isn't going to help me get girls (not even if there were girls in the study group). You need to be alpha where it counts the most -- in social cirlces, cliques, etc. -- these are the groups on which girls center their identity.

Also, note that some social circles are already more 'alpha' than others. In a social circle of high school band dorks, the least dorky guy is the alpha. If you want the best looking girls you should dominate the most alpha group (the popular people). You can always go down and pick up girls who are in lower groups, but you can't move up so easily.

Notice that my discussion of groups highlights the fact that you must have things in common with the girls you're gaming. If some guy who is an alpha of the Bushmen tribe in Africa tried to come over to a typical Yuppie social setting in America his skills/qualities would be of no use to him. An alpha can't be so far removed from the social setting that he is simply an outcast.

Some people think alpha men 'do their own thing.' Again, this is wrong. There are certain societal constraints that even he has to adhere to. An alpha can't just say "I'm feeling like shaving off my eyebrows." People won't see him as a leader -- they'll think he's nuts. An alpha is still a valid member of a social circle. If other people in the social circle wear Abercrombie, then he will too. However, he'll do his own thing sometimes taking his personal style to the edge. Maybe one day instead of a preppy shirt he'll wear a vintage outfit. But it's not like one day he'll show up wearing a devil costume (there was a guy in my high school who did this).

So you walk a fine line between being a part of the group and leading the group/doing your own thing. Originality and conformity are both required of an alpha male. Without originality you are simply the beta in a social circle. Without at least moderate conformity you aren't a member of the social circle.

part III

Previous posts have hinted at the idea that alpha males get chicks b/c the behavior needed to get girls is programmed into their psyche. This is true to a certain extent. After all, girls do want a man that exhibits all the qualities mentioned in Part I. Alpha males are natural at the body language cues to send to girls. However, an alpha still needs some additional knowledge.

There are differences in dating/mating/courting customs across social circles, eras, cultures, etc. In the movie 'The Godfather' Al Pacino's character brings gifts to the Italian girl on their first meeting. But at that time and place this was acceptable behavior and not seen as a 'nice guy' move. Today, especially in America, this wouldn't be acceptable (unless your first date is a homecoming dance).

Through experience an alpha male learns the commonly accepted norms in his social circle. He conforms to these norms, but also pushes it to the edge. He demonstrates the qualities mentioned in part I in his dating/courting/mating behavior also. Many of the newbies on this forum are behind alpha males because they lack experience. But this is why sosuave exists -- for you to learn acceptable dating/courting/mating behavior in today's modern Western social setting and to give you a few ideas on how alpha males push the envelope on these limits. Read the rest of the forum, especially the bible to get this knowledge. However, don't stay on this forum forever. You just need to go out and get some experience. At some point you will have to take off the training wheels (leave the forum) and go natural. It is imperative that you develop flexibility -- don't tie down to certain rules after you've got the basics down. (rules exist only for newbies' self-control). An alpha male doesn't come on sosuave to ask 'what should I do to get this girl?'

part IV

Parts I-III explained:
I) what are the qualities of an alpha male
II) what alpha males have to do with groups
III) how alphas leverage their alphaness to get chicks

It's now the time for you to become an alpha male. First you must develop the qualities mentioned in part I. Here are some basic ideas:

'Take no dirt,' 'group builder,' courageousness, 'being the center of attention,' 'man of action,' etc. -- these are all mindsets you develop through experience

-Fierceness: lift weights, learn martial arts, have a mean look at times
-Authoritativeness: read Lilian Glass' "Six Steps to a Successful Vocal Image' -- talk like a man
-Attractiveness: get some new clothes, an updated hairdo, get some dental work done
-Go get some money, become ambitious, succeed!

Read Napolean Hill's 'Think and Grow Rich.' For those of you not familiar with this book -- don't let the title fool you. This is a book on self-improvement, and money is only a peripheral focus. It's the only book you'll ever need to help you with self-improvement on fierceness, authoritativeness, attractiveness, and becoming successful in your career.

Some of you may argue that you don't need to improve yourself and that it's all about the mindset. Bull****!! You can have the greatest most alpha mindset in the world, but it means nothing if other's perception of you isn't consistent with that mindset. Self-improvement is imperative for you to become an alpha male.

An alpha male wouldn't be reading a guide on 'how to become an alpha male.' So, if you're reading this post, you are probably still a beta male. Some think that alphaness is genetically pre-determined, but this isn't a healthy or useful philosophy. Assume that you can become an alpha male. Forget about how your past may have made you beta -- the past is behind you. You have some tasks to work on: develop the alpha mindset, take the steps for self-improvement, read the bible to figure out what is acceptable dating/courting/mating behavior, and get some experience.

Not now but sometime in the future when you feel that you already exhibit the qualities of the alpha male, declare yourself an alpha and do what comes natural to you. Don't ever ask 'is it alpha to do this' 'is it beta to do that?' Stop being a poser -- only beta males try to mimic alpha males. Simply let loose and live the life of a king!

appendix

Here are some other posts about alpha males on sosuave

recent discussion:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=11303

attributes of the alpha male:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30690

general description of human alphas:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16294&highlight=alpha+male

alpha in animal world and its human equivalent (read second response):
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=13363&highlight=alpha+male+book+of+shuma

how you can't pretend to be alpha -- you actually must be alpha:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=11303&highlight=alpha+male

a post on becoming more alpha (read first response):
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=11205&highlight=alpha+male

can there be multiple alphas in a group?:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=9917&highlight=alpha+male

alpha males don't get 100% of females:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16345&highlight=alpha+male

This is a damn good post

Nothing personal, but I don't entirely agree with this post. I think it is a little more complex then this. First, is there any consensus on what the exact definition of a human alpha male is? Is it a guy who gets chicks? Is it a guy who is a leader in some capacity? Or is it an extraordinary individual akin to Nietzsche's Ubermensch?

Was Winston Churchill an alpha male? Was he physically "fierce"?(actually he was short and fat) What about FDR? He was a paraplegic. Abraham Lincoln was just ugly, certainly no Brad Pitt in the looks department. So who is more alpha, Lincoln or Brad Pitt? How about Ghandi, who preached non-violent resistance, was he not an alpha male?

Last but not least, there were other great men in history, such as Einstein, DaVinci, Edison, Galileo, Darwin, Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, etc. None of these men were leaders, they were all "thinkers" something the OP just instructed is not alpha, yet they all profoundly changed the course of mankind and the history of the world. Centuries from now these men and others who are truly changing our world for the better will still be household names, wheras Brad Pitt and Van Diesel will probably be almost completely forgotten.

My point is that I think your definition of Alpha Male is too one dimensional, and there are many different types, or definitions, of a successful male and many ways to achieve that success. Your definition mostly seems to be successful in the sense of how to be the guy who gets the bimbo chicks in high school and college. Which, I guess, is the central goal of most men on this site lol, so your definition would make sense to them. I am not this kind of guy and never will be, nor do I want to be.

I look up more to a guy like Thomas Edison or Ghandi, the Dali Lama, Galen Rowell, or Galileo then I do to the the captain of the football team, Van Diesel and whatever other pretty boy, muscle bound movie stars are the current hearthrobs of chicks these days. If this makes me a beta geek, so be it.

Thats a good point steven.

I look up more towards a hero more than I do an alpha male. At the same time though, I think a preacher is a cool guy, but I wouldn't hang out with him. To me an alpha male is somebody who embodies my desires in life, a person who by studying reveals more of my desires, a person I can compete with, a person who doesn't annoy me. I also think an alpha male can't really be described, but this... this post by alpha king is one of the best descriptions I have read in a long time.

P.S. Alpha king has made 5 posts in 4 years. I doubt he'll respond to you.