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issue with immaturity<<< tips please?

slickdon

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Hey guys, I have a little issue with immaturity and wanted to hear your opinions on this. I am a very intelligent guy. I read, write and work hard at things I want to accomplish. Yet sometimes I tend to be alittle over happy or over excited and I do some rather stupid/immature things. It turns people off sometimes and I just was wondering if anyone has a similar problem or has ever been in a similar situation.
It really has been effecting my work, my school and my friend ships. Any tips would be great. Thanks in advance.

Nick
 

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Take a deep breath first of all. Don't talk too much, listen to what others are saying and then build upon it. Basically wait for a chance to pop in a witty remark and make people laugh, but also be unpredictable as well. Basically you need to develop your social skills.

However, never lose your spastic side. Just know when to use it well ;)
 

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Watch a couple of Clint Eastwood movies. Don't copy him to the point you are pulling guns and poping ****s. Also don't totally act like a stiff as he does, Be a free Clint if ya get what i mean LOL.
 

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Being immature isn't all the bad.


Usually.....
Immaturity=funny
 

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Hey guys, I have a little issue with immaturity and wanted to hear your opinions on this. I am a very intelligent guy. I read, write and work hard at things I want to accomplish. Yet sometimes I tend to be alittle over happy or over excited and I do some rather stupid/immature things. It turns people off sometimes and I just was wondering if anyone has a similar problem or has ever been in a similar situation.
slickDon-

i think i know exactly what your talking about

i could give you a couple tips if you could be more specific about what is happening in your life
 

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That is called innocence

Never ever change. What you are talking about is innocence. That thing that you see kittens, animals in general, children, doing. Dont ever change. Post this at the Discussion Forum (where older guys are), and see the answers. Read about this anywhere, teenagers are very very eager to look like adults, and then, they change and want to look young, and then, they want to behave like kids.
Behave like you do right now. What good will that so called ¨maturity¨ bring you in life? Have fun, just have fun.
 

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Man I know what your taking about! I am indeed a very intelligent and driven young man who often times is very laid back, but when I get happy I REALLY get happy, I talk incessantly and crack jokes with such alarming frequency that I am tring to engineer a way to feel like that on command. I also get very rambuncious and sometimes rude. When I am happy, I feel like there is nothing holding me down, thus I can often times say some very rude things that, otherwise, I would have never said; its like a freedom, it acutally feels good because my norm is rather slow. Since normally I am very mature(meaning I am polite, cool under pressure, and basically don't act like an idiot), when I change it is like I act like....I should be acting at my age. I don't know, my life so far really sobered me up early, its both my gift and my curse, but the good thing is that I can still have fun!
 

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1. immaturity is NOT happiness.

Kids dont ever act like idiots until they actually start talking, walking, and developing a strong ego.

This is when they are overly concerned with being "defined" by their society/environment and start projecting an "image" way too strongly.

A one year old sits there with a smile on his face and plays with his toys, this is happiness, for the sake of clarity, we shall call him "serene."


Then you get something like a 4-6yr old, put him into a social environment of peers and all of a sudden this child is acting like a lunatic.

Reasons behind it:

1. to get attention :)

Simple as that. "Hey who cares if they think im an idiot, at least they are noticing me, right!?" is pretty much the phrase you act upon.

I have been happy plenty of times, I have been extremely happy when I am alone, and I would do something like dance.

I have been happy when I am in a social environment, where now, the goal has shifted to being accepted and what better way then to project your happyness on everyone else.

(this is where you start laughing like a jackass and cracking jokes every 5 seconds, this isnt hapiness, this is paranoid over-excersion of commical remarks.)

You are trying TOO HARD.

i am sure you have heard that phrase.



The best way to cure this "immaturity" is to stop caring how others define you.

Define yourself! KNOW who you are, and you will no longer be psychotic laughing clown, you will be serene smiling man :)

Mature, happy, comfortable!? hmmm, and what a paradox, you will be better liked by society too!?
 

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Amen
 

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great advice everyone. oreo, your brilliant. thanks.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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Oreo, you made many good points. I agree that immaturity(or acting like an idiot) IS NOT HAPPINESS but only a result(for some people). But in reference to when you said " (this is where you start laughing like a jackass and cracking jokes every 5 seconds, this isnt hapiness, this is paranoid over-excersion of commical remarks.) You are trying TOO HARD" I believe that is not right. Everybody defines happiness for themselves, and what your defining is not happiness(see the delightful contradictions? cause TO ME what you define is NOT freedom, or what I feel) you can't define it for them, their definition may not be the same as yours but you CAN'T TELL THEM WHAT IS RIGHT OR WRONG. For instance, when I said that I "crack jokes with alarming frequency": I AM , my friend, NOT BEING IMMATURE. I get like I described in my post when I am happy, my actions CAN BE INTERPRETED as immaturity(just as you did, I guess), but for me it is a release, in my mind I no longer care what other people will think, I AM FREE (/me makes jets sounds). It is very hard to release, you should try it, but liberating; in my mind I think :"F- society, F- propreitiy, F- what all you other people are going to think of me because your not worth it, you never did anything for me, why should I care about you? I shouldn't my life is too short, I want to be happy!" then magically my mind is released and slowly all the pressure that I put on myself is gone, you almost float. I can say rude things when I am in this state, but it is said in such good humor that nobody takes that much offense, nor do I care if they do. I am not yet happy just for the sake of living, I can't just sit around like that kid and play with my toy and smile and be CONTENT with the world because, sh!t, I am not content, I think that I have so much to do, so much to say, so much to think, that I can't just BE, that would be giving up. so for that time when I am free, I am content, I don't care. Brillant, isn't it? no, well F_CK you!

Hmmmm, an interesting thought has come to me, depending on how one would define immaturity one could say that it IS happiness. IF, immaturity is defined as NOT BEING MATURE, and if maturity is defined as ignorance about life, then maturity is sorta like the act of taking on burdens, responsiblities, not being burdened is freedom, and ignorance is bliss, so...immaturity is like bliss, get it? well, oreo, what you defined in you post here:" Kids dont ever act like idiots until they actually start talking, walking, and developing a strong ego. '\n' This is when they are overly concerned with being "defined" by their society/environment and start projecting an "image" way too strongly." I just define that as being an idiot, just as you said. An idiot who CARES ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF THEM, this is a matter of the ego, not immaturity.
 
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