You gotta hear this story...

wysiwyg6000 · Jun 9, 2003

WOW...last week I contacted this girl from an online dating site, and we met this past weekend for some coffee. we talk for a couple of hours, she seems to like me, we exchange numbers at the end. I call last night for the first time, nobody answers. I call a second time a little while later, the mother picks up and tells me that she's out with her friends for the night. ok, no big deal. I call just now, nobody answers again, the machine picks up. Not even 10 seconds later does her mother call me back. She says "Who is this?" i'm like "Hi, I'm looking for so-and-so, this is <insert name here>." she says "STOP CALLING AND HANGING UP, SHE'S NOT INTERESTED IN YOU, GOT IT?"...i was like "ok"...boom, she hangs up. last time I use web dating.

-Zero_h0uR- · Jun 9, 2003

Don't get me wrong...

I'm NOT NOT NOT an advocate for web dating. I dislike it.

HOWEVER, the problem you had isn't web dating. It's caling. And calling again. And again. And again... get my drift?

I wouldn't have called a second time, HOWEVER, the second time, when you talked to her mom... The ball's in the girl's court now. You should have waited about 3-5 days for the girl to call back, and if she didn't then you try again. If you miss her that time... NEXT.

That's my opinion.

Stick to personal meeting,s not websites... Something about it seems so much better to me.

-- Zero-

ApocalypseCow · Jun 9, 2003

Web dating is OK. You can meet some quality girls there (although there are a lot of LOSERS as well).

The problem here seems to be psycho mom. Look, this girl wasn't put on earth so you could have a bad internet dating experience. The web was merely a means by which you met this unpleasent woman.

wysiwyg6000 · Jun 9, 2003

Originally posted by -Zero_h0uR-
Don't get me wrong...

I'm NOT NOT NOT an advocate for web dating. I dislike it.

HOWEVER, the problem you had isn't web dating. It's caling. And calling again. And again. And again... get my drift?

I wouldn't have called a second time, HOWEVER, the second time, when you talked to her mom... The ball's in the girl's court now. You should have waited about 3-5 days for the girl to call back, and if she didn't then you try again. If you miss her that time... NEXT.

That's my opinion.

Stick to personal meeting,s not websites... Something about it seems so much better to me.

-- Zero-

Dude, I called a grand total of 3 times in a 2 day time span. Twice the other night because she didnt pickup the first time, the second time she did (I figured they mightve went out)... and I only called once today...that's it. It's not like i was calling 12x a day man, I only called twice last night because nobody picked up the first time. Today, I was just trying to reach her because she was "out" last night. I normally never call to be honest with you, I used to wait until they came online to talk.

-Zero_h0uR- · Jun 9, 2003

Yeah.. my bad. I misread that.

I thought you meant 3 times in one day.

-- Zero-

wysiwyg6000 · Jun 9, 2003

Originally posted by -Zero_h0uR-
Yeah.. my bad. I misread that.

I thought you meant 3 times in one day.

-- Zero-

lol no way, that reeks of desperation (and psychoticness).

Starman · Jun 9, 2003

you are still calling way too much.

What did she do to give you the idea that she seemed to like you?

I think the Psycho mom may have ruined it for you by making it seem like you kept calling and hanging up..otherwise I would think the mother is either lying..or the girl told her mom about some internet guy she met..that she isnt interested in.

wysiwyg6000 · Jun 9, 2003

Originally posted by Starman
you are still calling way too much.

What did she do to give you the idea that she seemed to like you?

I think the Psycho mom may have ruined it for you by making it seem like you kept calling and hanging up..otherwise I would think the mother is either lying..or the girl told her mom about some internet guy she met..that she isnt interested in.

she told me everything about herself, willingly gave me her number etc...there wasnt a single moment of disgust on her part. that's why i dont understand. I think the mom might have me mistaken for someone else or something, because i was never rude on the phone, i was always polite...so it's not like I was being an *******. My working theory is that someone kept calling her and hanging up (average neighborhood jerkoff), and then I called and she thought I was that person.

Umbra · Jun 10, 2003

She's got your number, too. You've already called too much. It's her turn. If she calls, you can find out if it was just her mother being obnoxious.

And stop trying to pick up girls over the Internet.

wysiwyg6000 · Jun 10, 2003

Originally posted by Umbra
She's got your number, too. You've already called too much. It's her turn. If she calls, you can find out if it was just her mother being obnoxious.

And stop trying to pick up girls over the Internet.

Nope, she even banned me from AIM as well. I can tell this was BEFORE I ever called her because of the logs. idk what this chicks problem is, it's not like I'm grosteque and mean....hell, i even got her to talk about herself for like 2 hours with no problem. something doesnt add up, but I now i know why some of these women are online looking for dates...it's because theyre nuts and nobody else wants them. Stupid me actually thought you might actually be able to meet some quality people on there...I guess I was very wrong.

ApocalypseCow · Jun 10, 2003

I think meeting her for coffee and talking for a COUPLE HOURS was a little overboard. When I met someone for coffee, I'd keep it to 30 minutes tops.

I've met lots of girls (about 20) from online. I'd say about 25% were quality girls, and 75% were losers or people I didn't want to see again. I was lucky and met a really cool girl on my first internet date, so my first impression was good.

If I were you, I'd give it a couple more tries. It's good practice.

wysiwyg6000 · Jun 10, 2003

Originally posted by ApocalypseCow
I think meeting her for coffee and talking for a COUPLE HOURS was a little overboard. When I met someone for coffee, I'd keep it to 30 minutes tops.

I've met lots of girls (about 20) from online. I'd say about 25% were quality girls, and 75% were losers or people I didn't want to see again. I was lucky and met a really cool girl on my first internet date, so my first impression was good.

If I were you, I'd give it a couple more tries. It's good practice.

I know what you mean with a couple of hours being overboard. I got her to talk about herself and she just didnt stop lol....this is my second net meeting over coffee...the first time I kept it at about 1 hour because the girl was so boring and didnt talk...it was like talking to myself. Now that a day has a passed, I kinda view this situation as funny how there are some cracked out people out there...and worst of all, how a 21 year old girl has to get her MOTHER to do the dirty work for her. I think I lucked out on this one...

OddTech · Jun 10, 2003

I makes me sick that the chick doesn't have the backbone to tell you straight up. But I still think there were clues that it wasn't working out ... did you pay attention to body languages (yawning, lack of kino...)? Online sites are okay, but you gotta know when to call it off.

wysiwyg6000 · Jun 10, 2003

Originally posted by OddTech
I makes me sick that the chick doesn't have the backbone to tell you straight up. But I still think there were clues that it wasn't working out ... did you pay attention to body languages (yawning, lack of kino...)? Online sites are okay, but you gotta know when to call it off.

she was sitting forward the entire time, kinda fidgeting around a little bit with her straw. Ive analyzed everything looking for clues but something just isnt adding up. She was active and enthusiastic the entire time. It doesnt make sense that a woman would willingly give you her home phone number one day, and then block you from her buddy list and get her MOMMY to try to tell me off...good thing I have restraint, because I really couldve busted that mother's balls with her little aggressive attitude.

htemorp · Jun 10, 2003

You need to read more of the bible. First of all, ALWAYS leave a message when you call, especially if you don't block your caller ID. 2nd, one call per day, 2 or 3 calls a week at MOST. You call once, she didn't pick up, leave a message. If she dosn't return your call, wait at least 5 days or so and call again...still nothing, then it's time to move on.

That's all...

wysiwyg6000 · Jun 10, 2003

Originally posted by htemorp
You need to read more of the bible. First of all, ALWAYS leave a message when you call, especially if you don't block your caller ID. 2nd, one call per day, 2 or 3 calls a week at MOST. You call once, she didn't pick up, leave a message. If she dosn't return your call, wait at least 5 days or so and call again...still nothing, then it's time to move on.

That's all...

the most unnerving thing was her blocking my IM even BEFORE I called her! It's not like I did anything wierd to her.

htemorp · Jun 10, 2003

Maybe you had a bad read, she did not like you at all when you guys met.

I say move on and forget about it. But I would go read the bible some more, maybe you can figure out what you may did wrong on the date. But just remember the rules, always leave a message and never call more than once a day...and please don't ever call everyday, I say twice to three times a week at most.

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