mahon83050
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Alot of guys talk about confidence and how it should be increased if you are physically fit, have a nice body, have a good job, highly educated, have a great skill etc, etc. I agree this helps confidence with women, but not as much as WE think. I think your confidence will skyrocket the more hookups, g/f and dates you have instead. This will help your confidence 10X more times than a great resume. This is my problem and I am sure the same for alot of other guys. Yea I'm tall, fairly good body, respectable face, speak two languages and I am going for my masters. That stuff is all good, but it is the LACK of experience (with women) that I have at my age that makes it hard to be confident and have high self esteem around girls. I would like to compare it to this analogy:
Let us say there is a war going on. There are two men, a lowly Private and a Lieutenant Colonel. The field, in the ****, combat zone or whatever you want to call it is equivalent to women. The Private (which would be equivalent to a below average looking guy, slightly overweight and only a high school diploma) has been "in the field" facing the opposition (women) for years and he is very confident because he has been in the situation many times. He knows how to act, is sure of himself and knows not to make the same mistake 2X.
The Lieutenant Colonel (equivalent to above average looking guy, Masters Degree, 6 '3", speaks 4 languages, well mannered etc) has a more impressive appearance than the lowly Private, has more pins and insignia on his shirt, but he is very inexperienced in the art of combat (women). He is not confident under fire and is not certain of himself. He is not very comfortable being "in the field."
My point of this thread, If my story made any sense is: Sure, having a nice appearance and all these qualifications etc is good and will make you feel better about yourself, but does not help too much with women if you lack of experience. Will it make me a super confident guy around women if a year from now I have a Masters, great job and now learned another language. I say NO, not if I am still going out on only 3 dates a year. TRUE CONFIDENCE WITH WOMEN, COMES FROM EXPERIENCE NOT YOUR GREAT LOOKING ASSETS.
Let us say there is a war going on. There are two men, a lowly Private and a Lieutenant Colonel. The field, in the ****, combat zone or whatever you want to call it is equivalent to women. The Private (which would be equivalent to a below average looking guy, slightly overweight and only a high school diploma) has been "in the field" facing the opposition (women) for years and he is very confident because he has been in the situation many times. He knows how to act, is sure of himself and knows not to make the same mistake 2X.
The Lieutenant Colonel (equivalent to above average looking guy, Masters Degree, 6 '3", speaks 4 languages, well mannered etc) has a more impressive appearance than the lowly Private, has more pins and insignia on his shirt, but he is very inexperienced in the art of combat (women). He is not confident under fire and is not certain of himself. He is not very comfortable being "in the field."
My point of this thread, If my story made any sense is: Sure, having a nice appearance and all these qualifications etc is good and will make you feel better about yourself, but does not help too much with women if you lack of experience. Will it make me a super confident guy around women if a year from now I have a Masters, great job and now learned another language. I say NO, not if I am still going out on only 3 dates a year. TRUE CONFIDENCE WITH WOMEN, COMES FROM EXPERIENCE NOT YOUR GREAT LOOKING ASSETS.