Disclaimer

Many people I'm sure have read the original v 1.0 which can be found in this thread:

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=29598

Anyway, this is a slightly upgraded version that I feel is superior. Again, a lot of this stuff has been said before but the purpose of this is mostly for the newbies that just want quick to the point tips that will help them out.

Table of Contents

Step 1: Analyzation of Self
Step 2: Presentation of Self
Step 3: Girls, They Don't Bite
Step 4: Terminology index
Step 5: FAQs

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Step 1: Analyzation of Self

First, DJing is 1% women, 99% self. Women can play a role but it is up to you, the person, to make the move. Society is still traditional in the fact that men should approach women. It happens vice-versa but its rare. You don't want to wait for the rare moments when there may be HB8-10s looking and wanting you but you are too big of a p***y to go for it.

1) You are the s**t. Try to say that to yourself. Say it enough times to where you believe it. This will help to boost up your confidence. Even if its not true when it comes down to it, you will eventually believe it.

2) Be a better conversationalist. Nobody likes a person with the personality equivalent of a block of wood. Why? People want to enjoy themselves in life and why would they talk to some boring stiff when there is the fun guy right next to him. Small talk can go a long way.

3) Be witty. Its a skill that takes time but it is possible. It doesn't matter if you got the joke from Seinfeld because most comments and humor are never original. Chances are that someone has said them before. Being funny makes you fun. Which is why its called funny.

4) Speak with confidence. I'm tired of hearing people hit on girls with this weak ass girl voice. How the hell is a girl supposed to like you if you're too quiet and timid? I suggest for everyone to get a mirror. Talk to it as if it was a person. Is it lame? No. Practice speaking with confidence. Talk like people give a damn about what you say and they will if you got the voice to back it up. Talk like you got a pair is the key here.

5) Live life. I also get tired also of social outcasts that become bitter because they have no social life. Simply put, live your life the way you want to. You will be happier and more confident. You get one life; its best spent not being a p***y and think of what might have been later in life.

Step 2: Presentation of Self

This is an important aspect of DJing. You've followed what I said and you're a much more confident person that has a love for life. Good. Even though ugly and normal guys can land hot women, you have a much better chance of getting better girls if you're well presented.

1) Lose weight. If you're fat or have traces of fat, lose it. DIESEL has put together arguably the best cutting up plan.

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18059

Look at it, study it, and utilize it. Start immediately. He has hit the nail on the head and from personal experience, it does in fact work.

2) Once you get cut down to the fat weight you want, its time for you to start getting buff. Again, DIESEL has offered a nice thread for you to do.

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18040

3) Ok, you're buff and you're cut. Excellent. Having a great wardrobe is essential. A lot of people here emphasize wearing Armani stuff and generally classy clothing. Wrong. Wear what you feel expresses yourself. As for me, I love urban wear. My rotation includes P. Miller, Rocawear, and Cash Money shirts. My shoes are And 1 KG Lows. I wear like these ghetto ass shorts with symbols on them or black shorts and I've been very successful at getting women. Why? Because I love what I wear. I don't wear $300 classy shoes and Polo brand clothing. Just as long as they look nice and clean. Expressing yourself does NOT mean going down to Goodwill and get tattered shirts. Express yourself as long as its clean.

4) Shower daily. I think morning is best because during the night, you have at least 6 hours for your body to get dirty. Wash with soap that smells masculine but something you want. I personally have Zest or Irish Spring in rotation. Shampoo with whatever smells good and masculine ie not Strawberry Banana Kiwi or whatever feminine kinds there are. Get something that shows you're a man, not a woman. I use a medicated shampoo but thats because of a scalp disorder I have.

5) Brush. Brush after every meal. Nothing is worse personally than an idiot who has terrible breath because he didn't brush. When you do brush, get something that smells good. I love Spearmint myself. So I have spearmint mouthwash, toothpaste, and always a pack of Doublemint Spearmint on hand at all times. I always brush after every meal or if I can't, I pop in a stick of gum. It also keeps your teeth white because yellow teeth are not attractive. Regardless of if you drink coffee or not, they should always be their whitest. Try to get some toothpaste with Whitening in it or use those strips. The strips honestly work.

6) Smell good. Wear deodorant as long as its not in excess.

7) Clean shaven. A common myth is that having growth is attractive to women because of the rugged look but if you're outfit is that of a mountaineer explorer, thats good. However most of the time, we're not explorers of the wild so shave your face daily or more than once daily to keep yourself nice and clean.

8) Keep your hair combed if possible. Keep your hair nice. Have it short. Sure some guys get women with long hair but again, the purpose of this guide is to be at prime shape for women. I have my head shaved. Its a good look and can project a masculine image if you got the right head for it. Being skinny with a big ass head does not work. If you got bumps and so on, don't have it. If you do shave your head, shave it daily or every other day. Otherwise, keep it short but nice. If you see the Maxim hair commercials, look at the mens' hair. That is some good hair for you to follow by. Its kind of messy but you are well groomed.

Step 3: Girls, They Don't Bite

You're confident, you're buff, you're groomed, and you got the style of clothing that fits you. Good. Now its time to get to the should be small part of this thing and thats the women. Like I said, the DJ Mind is 1% women, 99% self and I'm a firm believer in it. The reason being that if you got the previous steps down pat, you should have the ego, the charisma, and confidence to approach any woman you want.

1) Don't walk through the malls and say hi only like how some people here recommend. Why? Its a waste of time when you could be talking to women and getting their numbers. If you have to say it, use that mirror that I suggested you to use earlier and practice there. Get a mannequin head or whatever prop suits you and say hi. If you got the confidence, you should probably not even need to practice at all.

2) Girls are human. Lets face it, girls, namely any that are 7 on up are used to being hit on by lame ass AFCs that promise them roses, dinner, and expensive gifts. Many men promise them the moon but why? How many girls do you see that are doing that to men? 0. Why? Because they're people like you and me. By being bold and talking to girls like they're people and not Godesses on Earth, they will like you.

3) ****y and funny if you are C+F. This term is used but use it sparingly. Too much will make you either into an a*****e or be considered a clown. Its a great opener and when the opportunity calls for it. Say it confidently too.

4) Quick but effective conversations. Don't make it into an interview. If you have to ask a question, have it where its an open ended answer so you can stray from asking more questions. Interviews are boring because its predictable and shows that you really don't have much to talk about. Keep convos down to the single digit minutes if possible. Girls like to hit it off with men but the longer you talk to her, the chances you are most likely going down into friend zone-land where you are exiled from her body for good. I try to keep it within 5 minutes.

5) Get the number the first meeting. The whole point is to keep it sexual. Girls date men because they want sex from them. If they want someone to talk to, they have friends that are girls or AFC men who think they're going to get in her pants if they give her a shoulder to cry on.

The advice here splits into two situations:

You Get the Digits

~ Don't call the day of getting the number. Its desperate. The day after is very clichéd. Call after that whenever you feel is right. Many people said a few days is too long but thats BS. If you made a good impression and her IL of you is high, she will be just as interested if you called her 2-3 weeks after as if you called 2-3 days after. If you're "out of sight, out of mind", she is either: dumb or her IL of you was low enough and you should give her the axe either way. A lot of girls give out their numbers; her digits are not a valuable secret. However its the test to see how interested she is in you. She will remember who you are if she likes you enough.

~ Once you call, keep it short and sexual. Ask for a date the first time calling. Women aren't morons; they know a man wants to ask them out. So its best to do it the first time calling instead of deluding yourself that you need to build up 2-3 phone call's worth of rapport to finally date. Again, try to keep it in the single digits in terms of minutes. You're past the obstacle of getting her number, you can still enter Friend Zone Land if you spend too much time talking to her. Again, she probably has scores of female friends and AFC male friends if she needs to cry on anyone's shoulder or talk about what kind of haircut is best for her.

~ Action date. No dinner dates at first. If there is dinner, make sure thats not the only thing you do. No movie dates. Hell, go to a miniature golf course or something. Do stuff and do a lot of kino. Kino is thrown around here often but touching her is sexual to her. The whole point I think is to try to keep it fun but sexual from the minute you talk to the girl. Too many men are afraid of affection because they think the girl won't like it. You may as well cut to the chase at a reasonable pace than waiting forever. Women know you want to get in their pants so you may as well cut the charade.

You Get Shut Down

~ Next her. Life is honestly too short to get down. With millions of females, including thousands into millions that are 7s or better, you can't get hung up on one or two girls. No girls are worth that much time without a deep LTR investment.

~ Learn your mistakes. Many DJ experts often discourage analyzation but this is a good time to see what you may have done wrong. Did you come off too strong? Too many C+F jokes? Try to see what you may have done wrong and move on.

~ Never get discouraged. Some days you may have better luck than others. Sometimes it might be a week. Maybe it will be longer. Some women don't want to be bothered by DJs or may have been intimidated because they were never approached by a man before (as opposed to AFCs) If you get slammed down for months into years, see the previous step because you are doing something wrong.

Step 4: Terminology index

A lot of people ask about what IL is or kino, etc. This section is used to help out a little bit.

1) Interest level. Interest level is basically how interested the girl is with you. Its a way of gauging how interested girls are in you. Some girls are simply put, b****s. They feel that men have wronged them and in order to get her attention, you have to be the submissive AFC. A lot of people go by percentage but I'm going with stars.

*****
****
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5 stars means that she really likes you. She wants to jump your bones right away. This is the highest interest level meaning she feels a connection with you in a personal, physical, and sexual way. 4 stars is lesser than that but she still likes you and probably won't play any BS games to the extent that the three star IL girl is. This is the challenging stage. She will probably play games with you to see where you stand. Most AFCs crap their pants with this opportunity but as a DJ, you must beat the games and produce games yourself. She is a challenge. Two stars is where she most likely thinks of you as a friend or not enough for you to serious consider a relationship with. One star is the cold hearted b***h that I was talking about earlier. The two and one star girls are basically wastes of your time and you should pass on them.

2) Kino. Kino, I don't get why its called that, but its basically touching. Not in a creepy way but its a way for you to be very close to a girl to keep everything sexual. This can be anything from a playful slap on the arm to ass slapping. It keeps everything sexual and its the certain boldness you need to go far in a relationship.

3) AFC. AFCs are the DJs polar opposite. They are nice guys that feel that by being nice and emptying their wallets for a girl, they will get some or even get into a relationship. AFCs are generally socially defunct with women. These are the "nice guys" but there are many nice guys that get some actively from women. You never want to be an AFC ever with women.

4) Numbers for women. This is pretty self explanatory but it all comes down to preference. 9-10 girls got everything all wrapped up. 8s are attractive prospects but obviously don't hold a candle to the 9s and 10s. 7s to me are the pretty girls. Anything higher is basically hot. They are good looking but probably don't really excel in any physical part of the body. 6s are cute but to be honest, they're not that great looking. They're probably better looking far away. 5s are average. To me, I'd place Kirsten Dunst as average because she excels at nothing. She has an ok face, saggy boobs, and doesn't have much of a feminine figure as well as being ass-less. 4s are less than average. 3s or lower are ugly, probably fat, and really don't take good care of themselves.

Step 5: FAQs

Q: I read it but I still can't get confidence!
A: You know why? Its because you're a weak ass b***h p***y that can't leave your AFC days behind. Face it, you need confidence to get with women. Having a nice face, nice body, and nice clothing will only get you so far. Most women want a man who is fun that will talk to them. I know from experience and from what I see in friends, being good looking and all that will not land you women. Women talk a lot. Why? They love conversation. They like a nice body to go with them but come on. Being an AFC isn't a bad lifestyle if you're never going to expect getting p***y in your life. Its up to you to get confidence and the ladies will follow.

Q: There is this girl I like and I don't know if she's interested in me or what or blah blah blah I'm so confused
A: These questions or comments often times makes me feel sick to my stomach. Again, put yourself in the woman's shoes. Does she wonder if this guy likes her or not? No. She cares if she likes the man or not. Act the same way. Don't wonder "Will she like me?", wonder "Will I like her?". This is the mentality you need to have.

Q: I called her and she doesn't seem too interested and she already canceled a date before and I keep calling her...
A: Next that b***h. I see this often here and yeah, activities and events do go on in her life but it depends on how willing she is to reschedule. If she cancels a date because she needs to wash her hair, ditch her. If she's willing and sounds interested in you still, suggest another day. If she cancels it, move on. You're wasting time talking to her when you can spend that time talking to girls that will actually not flake out. A lot of girls flake out like that because they're not used to being approached by DJs. DJs take up maybe 0.001% of the world and thats probably a generous figure. If she doesn't sound too interested on the phone, I'd ditch her as well. Don't enter into the world of AFC land where she thinks that she can rule over you with an iron fist.

Q: I went on a date with her and it went off great. Do I call back and when?
A: If you feel it went great then call her 2-3 days afterwards. The days of being excessively busy may be over if you felt that you had a good time. Remember, keep the passion so keep your DJ skills up. I believe that you can bed most girls within a month if you keep everything sexual from the second you met her. If you try to be too nice then she will wait longer and longer until you get to meet her other smile. Try to set up more action dates until you are in a LTR and then maybe start doing the dinner thing.

Q: Do girls react differently after sex?
A: Yeah but thats thanks more or less to the ideology that having sex takes things to a whole other level. Yes it does as you will get some maybe daily or more than once daily or every meeting you have with her but the standard is that emotionally she is more connected to you. Only a h* will act the same. Keep the passion going. Remember, she likes you originally because you were so sexual. If after a month of this and you feel emotional attachment, that is when you get into a LTR. This site and all the guides here emphasize the beginning part because its the hardest part but once you feel emotionally attached to her (or you like her on another level), then its time to be in a LTR.

Q: My rep is bad. Will that hurt?
A: Yeah but its not the end of the world. Simply put, first impressions are the basis of any relationships. Its definitely possible to overcome your rep but its tough. This guide is to make DJing easy. My advice are to go to girls that don't know you because you will have a much better chance.

Q: She keeps playing games with me and I want her bad but she keeps playing games!
A: Play back. She does this often times to test you to see if you are good. You don't have anything really to prove to her but they're easy to overcome. Offer games of your own. Don't get too concerned about them.

Now that...was something.


Great work man, keep it up

re: improving your voice

This is very important!! Look at the effect a deep, strong voice has had for Vin Diesel.

You can improve your voice by reading Dr. Lillian Glass' 'Talk to Win: Six Steps to a Succesful Vocal Image.' I'm doing the exercises these days and can feel my voice changing to be more robust, deeper, sexier, and more authoratative.

personally who cares what kind of shampoo you use. at least you're using shampoo, and that's all that matters.

i still think this is more aimed at "what to do about yourself to be attractive to women" rather than "live life the way you want: love yourself, live for yourself and be happy; women or not". nonetheless, good advice.

Good stuff es_mer8, especially since you made it concise and organized.

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