Hey everyone, I've been on this board for a while but I never really posted but I think I should start now because I'm kind of having trouble with this girl. Let me give you guys some background info. When I'm around her I'm very confident, I say whatever I feel, I poke fun at her, I take care of her, we talk about anything/everything, I never give her all my attention (I talk to her friends a lot too), I tell her about my passion in music (I'm a DJ and she came down to a party to watch me spin one night), I'm never jealous when other guys talk to her, I'm always smiling, she knows I go out a lot and I'm really busy. Her friends tell me that she told them that she never laughed so hard before when I took her out. Her 2 very good friends have a REALLY REALLY good image of me. They think I'm a very decent guy and they try to help me out and make her get closer to me. Btw I'm 20 and she's 17. 18 in 2 months. Yea yea yea I kno what you guys are thinking... but anyway.

I met this girl at a party from a friend of mine and we started talking and drinking, getting along really well and all that good stuff. After that night I got her number and gave her a call a week or 2 later. I suggested to her that we should go watch a movie with my friend and her friend. So it was sort of like a double date thing. So my friend and I go down to her area and we meet up. Ate dinner, chit chat and headed to the movies. When we got there the movie was over an hour away and they suggested we go drinking. My friend and I agreed.

We head back to her friends house and we drink, have a good time then out of no where her friend and her start guy bashing saying how guys are all *******s and all that fun stuff. Then she asks me what do I think, I told her that a lot of girls play games too and that mind games are a way for girls/guys to filter out the losers. After that night she gave me 2 big hugs and we left. After that night we've been hanging out every weekend. Seeing each other maybe 2 times a week, sometimes less. I took her out on a date once and she asked me to go out with her once with her friend and her friend bf. We always have a lot of fun together and I never really shower her with compliments (I don't think I've even complimented her, maybe once, I forgot) but we always get close to each other. She is really into that horoscope kinda stuff and since I'm a Gemini and she's a Leo she believes we're compatible and how similar we and how we have so much in common. Like 75% opinions I give her she tells me "Oh me too! Yea exactly! OMG!" This past weekend we drank again and she got really drunk and started getting extremely close to me. Wanting to hold my hand and everything, I let her, I didn't mind. She was laying on me telling me to hold her and play with her hair a certain way and gave me constant eye contact. Then while that was going on she told her friend to put on the CD I burned for her because there is a song on there that's my favorite song and just so happens she loves it too. Now whats the problem you say?

The problem is... I call her maybe once every 2 days, sometimes once a day but she NEVER calls back. I do know her phone is really messed up but still. I call once (she doesn't pick up or goes straight to v-mail or i get other weird messages) and she doesn't call back, one time I called twice and then finally she called back. We text each other at least once a day with playful comments and thats about it, she doesn't call me to talk (only called me ONE time). I personally have interest in her and I really want to get to know her better before I decide whether or not I would want a relationship with her but it is very hard when we barely talk on the phone. We only talk when we're setting up a get together. I know she wants to take things slow because I'm pretty good friends with her friends. She even told me that she's very cynical when it comes to guys because she has seen a lot of her friends/family hurt by guys. Is she sending me mixed signals or is she playing some sort of mind game? I really have no clue... Any ideas? Thanks!!

Oh yea, here are some characteristics I found out about her.
- She HATES being restricted.
- When she sees how clingy and desperate her friend's BF is she tells me that is why she is scared of commitments.
- She hasn't had a bf for over 2 years but she's been dating.
- Tries hard to figure me out but she can't.
- I know she gets hit on by guys frequently, I've seen it happen.
- has a wall she puts on. Takes her a long time before she expresses her feelings to someone.
- Likes to bite, punch, pinch me.

ok i found out she's just a tease and she sees a lot of guys and she never goes for any of them. I pulled the lets just be friends on her. I'm gonna look for someone else.

Make sue you do look for ther girls, else youll just end up jaded.

see ya round

She's certainly playing mindgames. I guess she just wants to feel wanted. btw: don't call her that much!

Ok her friend told her in the morning today that I wanted to be just friends with her. Her first reaction was she was kind of angry. She said she was angry that I didn't tell her myself. At noon she woke me up with a text message asking if I was awake yet then she called me like 5 minutes later asking me if I wanna
go meet her up with her friends to chill.

I said I couldn't coz I have a final tomorrow and I have a huge project due tomorrow. After she got home from chillin with her friends she gave me a call and I started talking to her about how I felt. I told her that I felt that she was giving me signals that she was interested in me (laying on my lap telling me to run my fingers through her hair) and that I was confused because she said she wants to take things slow. I told her that she threw me off and I didn't know what she was feeling because I thought we were supposed to get to know each other better first. She told me that it was because she acts like that when she's drunk. I told her that I just want to get to know her better as a person before I can make a decision whether or not we should take it to the next level and that I am not looking for anything serious but just looking for a fun, casual relationship. I told her we should take things step by step slowly so it'll be better for us in the long run. She agreed to everything I was saying whole heartedly and started saying how I'm the only guy who agrees with how she views on relationships (casual, fun, unrestricted). Then she started saying how much fun she has when shes with me and that she really wants to hang out with me more. I said I enjoy her company as well and invited her to a party on Friday.

I'm not going to say I'm not interested in her but I'm not going to say I am. Right now I'm just going to go out with other girls and continue looking. What do you guys think is going through her head? Do you guys think I did the right thing to pull the LJBF card on her? I guess deep down I actually still kind of want to hook up with her but my mind is telling me to look somewhere else. I'm a bit confused right now...