ok there is this quality chick I've been hooking up with and I really like her and want her as a g/f but she said

"I don't want a b/f now... I just want to be friends and play"

which I know translate into 'I don't want you as a b/f but we can be f-buddies"

so how do I show her I'm b/f material..? or do I just say..

Hey I think your a great persona and I think we can have a great time if we become exclusive but if you say no then I will still be your friend but we will stop hooking up and you have lost your chance to by my g/f....

after reading jakethesnakes post about being bold and just asking for what you want I alomst said that exact thing to her...

but I kinda held off to see what you guys think and maybe get a new perspective...

thanks in advance for any and all replies..

Best

Jin

Dude lay off of her..and lay ON her..women (except for major sluts) tend to make an emotional connection with guys they have sex with..

If you start impressing her in the bedroom..and Give her Multiple O's, she'll be chasing YOU..if she is having sex with you..she is obviously attracted to you..so 1/2 your work is done..

You gotta start acting like you dont want her as your girlfriend..I'll bet you cuddle and spoon her after sex dont you?

thing is... I already do that... I actually jsut got my frenum (penis piercing) done and she loves it! I can make her *** twice in 5 min... so I don't think its that...

but whats wrong with cuddling..? are you saying I should just put on my pants and leave right after..? (serious question..)

I guess what I'm getting from your post is that I should blow her mind at night or whenever we hook up and avoid her at all other times so she'll miss me during the day time which creates strong attraction..?

I kinda get what your saying... act like I use her for sex and she will try to prove to me she's "worthy" as a g/f...? if I ignore her at other times....?

thanks for the replies... keep 'em comin'

Best,

Jin

Well,

if you are already baggin a chick..DONT initiate cuddling..I used to have women grab my arm after sex..and force me to cuddle them..

At that instant its OK to do it..because in the back of their mind they think they forced you to be affectionate with them after sex..

But my take with this girl is she somehow has the notion that you are eager ****** to be in a relationship..and that is turning her off..because you arent appearing as a challenge..so while she enjoys the sex..she knows in the back of her mind she can have you any day of the week she wants..start playing a little hard to get..talk about other women that keep calling you..be ****y and funny with her..dont get all boyfriend mushy gooey (if you do) with her..

You need to put the idea in her mind that she CANT have you whenever she wants and that she better act Fast or you will be lost.

Why are you so hell-bent on making her your girlfriend. If she says she wants multiple men, then you should take her at her word, and stop trying to make her be faithful. Chances are, even if she agreed to be exclusive, that wouldn't last for long because that's not where her hearts at.

What you need to decide is if you're okay with being fbuddies because that's all you're guaranteed with her. If you start things with her expecting to change her into what you want, you're doing it for the wrong reason. If being f-buddies will never satisfy you, then you should put her to the side and talk to women until you find one that's willing to be your girlfriend. You can still work on girl 1, but she can't be your priority.

As far as how to work girl 1, you give her exactly what she's asking for and see how much she really likes it. In my experience, most girls who want to keep options and only have fbuddies are living in a fantasy world where they think they can avoid getting attached to guys. Eventually they get jealous that the guy they're falling for is seeing other girls and want to redefine the relationship. If you follow the DJ guidelines, after a while, that guy could be you. What you have to remember is that you need to be less available than normal. She's not your girl, so don't fall into any pattern where she expects to see you every night or every Friday night. Do the two steps forward one step back routine. Be really into for a week, then ignore her the next week. Don't call that much. Don't simulate boyfriend behaviors without the benefit of being a boyfriend, otherwise she'll have no reason to ask for a change in status.

Remember, you need to be unavailable because you really are seeing other girls. This will make her realize she could lose you, will give you the chance to find someone who is gf material, and will stop you from getting stressed when she sees other guys.

I cant believe the word "B eaver " is banned on this site?

duhh...what If Im talking about the animal..sheesh

Originally posted by Starman
I cant believe the word "B eaver " is banned on this site?

duhh...what If Im talking about the animal..sheesh

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If you're talking about a large rat on this site, you deserve to be blocked out for that too.

It has nothing to do with the perfect thing you SAY. Your words aren't going to compell her to want a relationship with you. She might sinerely not be ready. But chances are she's just not into YOU enough to want to settle down. And when the RIGHT type of guy comes along, she WILL be ready. You just don't know. Just hang in there. Give her pleanty of space. Help her meet guys. Encourage her to go out with her friends. At the same time share fun experiences. Make the time you spend with her amazing. If it's her 'time' for a relationship and she's into you, you'll know. And if she's fvcking you until a more 'ideal' guy comes along, don't take it personally. The conflict is inside of HER, not you. The incredible, model, college grad may just as well have been shot down.

-Blitz

thank you everybody..!! I now have a plan and it invloves much of what Quick stated!

ahh... truely.... knowledge is power!

mwuhahahahah!!!

Best,

Jin