MikeYikes122
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This I gues is a continuation of my previous post....
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28732
Don Juan Discussion Forum - A good example of an insecure guy
So we've been out of school for a week and a half and things seem kind of normal. We aren't nearly as close as we used to be, but we aren't fighting or anything. I think you could easily attribute the distance to the fair amount of fights we have had lately.
But, the main thing is, her "friend", as she calls him, has made no attempts to contact her in any way. Well I guess I can't conclusively prove this. I know this is awful, but I had the opportunity to look through her caller ID and her cell phone, and he hasn't called her, nor has she called him. I guess the only confirmed contact is a real late night internet conversation I walked in on when I went over to her house. So I have concluded they are hardly talking at all, and when they do it's only on the internet.
I guess this would seem good to any person unfamiliar with the situation, but I think he is playing games. In this week and a half I've spoken with some people who know him pretty well, and I'm almost certain he's playing games. I think he is trying to make her miss him. I mean, this guy has game, and it's really bothering me. A girl who is a real good friend of mine gasped when I said the guy's name. She confided in me not to tell a soul, but she told me that he fooled around with two girls at once this year with one of her best friends and another girl. Both girls are pretty attractive. This guy comes off as an AFC, but I think he is jut a nice-innocent-guy type who knows how to handle girls. Even though I wouldn't show it in a million years, I am extremely nervous about this guy targeting my girl.
Another very, very, important thing has been brought to my attention from two different very reliable sources: this guy is still a virgin. This really puts my mind at ease because there is no longer any worry over her fvcking him.
I guess I really need to hear you guys' opinions on one thing in paticular. Why is there distance? I feel as though there are two possible reasons.
1. Another example of my insecurity. She likes her "friend" and she misses him just as I think he is trying to make her do. The evidence for this is pretty obvious because it seemed that she was really the only person who believed he was just a "friend." I have even talked to people who went to school with her who have asked me how I was dealing with our break-up. I figured I was exaggerating the amount of time they were spending together, but to have someone ask me that blew my mind.
2. We fought a lot this year. There was a lot of tension between us. She did cheat on me once, and when she was drunk, she did throw herself on a couple of other guys, but I guess nothing really happened.
And one final thing that is really bothering me.... She is coming to my school next year, but she tells everyone that she comes in contact with that it's not for me at all, and that she is coming to my school only because it's good for her major. I mean, sometimes it seems as if she is fvcking embarrassed by me, and she wishes that I didn't exist. She cheats on me, throws herself on other guys, has her own little sidedish "friend", and seems to have an extreme problem with mentioning to guys that she has FRIGGIN BOYFRIEND!!
Sorry I had a lot to let out....
Once again, please don't pull any punches here again guys, tell me everything and don't sugar coat it. You all really helped me out last time and I'm still thankful!!
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28732
Don Juan Discussion Forum - A good example of an insecure guy
So we've been out of school for a week and a half and things seem kind of normal. We aren't nearly as close as we used to be, but we aren't fighting or anything. I think you could easily attribute the distance to the fair amount of fights we have had lately.
But, the main thing is, her "friend", as she calls him, has made no attempts to contact her in any way. Well I guess I can't conclusively prove this. I know this is awful, but I had the opportunity to look through her caller ID and her cell phone, and he hasn't called her, nor has she called him. I guess the only confirmed contact is a real late night internet conversation I walked in on when I went over to her house. So I have concluded they are hardly talking at all, and when they do it's only on the internet.
I guess this would seem good to any person unfamiliar with the situation, but I think he is playing games. In this week and a half I've spoken with some people who know him pretty well, and I'm almost certain he's playing games. I think he is trying to make her miss him. I mean, this guy has game, and it's really bothering me. A girl who is a real good friend of mine gasped when I said the guy's name. She confided in me not to tell a soul, but she told me that he fooled around with two girls at once this year with one of her best friends and another girl. Both girls are pretty attractive. This guy comes off as an AFC, but I think he is jut a nice-innocent-guy type who knows how to handle girls. Even though I wouldn't show it in a million years, I am extremely nervous about this guy targeting my girl.
Another very, very, important thing has been brought to my attention from two different very reliable sources: this guy is still a virgin. This really puts my mind at ease because there is no longer any worry over her fvcking him.
I guess I really need to hear you guys' opinions on one thing in paticular. Why is there distance? I feel as though there are two possible reasons.
1. Another example of my insecurity. She likes her "friend" and she misses him just as I think he is trying to make her do. The evidence for this is pretty obvious because it seemed that she was really the only person who believed he was just a "friend." I have even talked to people who went to school with her who have asked me how I was dealing with our break-up. I figured I was exaggerating the amount of time they were spending together, but to have someone ask me that blew my mind.
2. We fought a lot this year. There was a lot of tension between us. She did cheat on me once, and when she was drunk, she did throw herself on a couple of other guys, but I guess nothing really happened.
And one final thing that is really bothering me.... She is coming to my school next year, but she tells everyone that she comes in contact with that it's not for me at all, and that she is coming to my school only because it's good for her major. I mean, sometimes it seems as if she is fvcking embarrassed by me, and she wishes that I didn't exist. She cheats on me, throws herself on other guys, has her own little sidedish "friend", and seems to have an extreme problem with mentioning to guys that she has FRIGGIN BOYFRIEND!!
Sorry I had a lot to let out....
Once again, please don't pull any punches here again guys, tell me everything and don't sugar coat it. You all really helped me out last time and I'm still thankful!!