I live in DC and this is chocolate city. I'm black and the girls I would be trying to talk to are probably gonna be black, too. Do the rules change for black women?

Aslo, is it a waste of time to try to talk to a pretty girl that I just see walking down the street or on the train/bus? I overheard some girls talking in my school and one said "If a guy is on a bus trying to talk to me, what can he do for me?" So, should I just try to approach girls at places like parties and school?

If it is not a lost cause to approach a girl on the street, should I use a regular approach or something special?

Hi, hopefully I can help you here. All you need in any pickup scenario is a way into a conversation with the girl. You then talk for a brief period (a few minutes at most), then you close for the number.
For a street approach, girls are usually walking somewhere, so you need to stop them. Try the following:-
1. 'Excuse me, do you know the way to (any place, eg library)?'
Then after she's told you, ask if she's single. If she is, carry on a conversation then close.
2. You could just be direct and say 'Excuse me...can I ask you a quick question....are you single?'
3. You could try mega eye contact and a smile with her as you pass her, the see if she responds.
The problem with street approaches is that even though you can initiate a conversation with a girl, it's hard to turn it into a fully blown conversation, therefore you need to be quick and find out if she's single as soon as you can then close.

For a bus or train approach, in my experience the easiest opener is simply 'excuse me, have you got the time?'. Then follow up with 'I need to get to (place you're going to) pretty soon, are we almost there?'. Or follow with 'I came out without my watch today...I feel lost not knowing what time it is'. Then ask where she's going and you can carry on a conversation then close.
Another opener could be 'Excuse me, do you know what time we get to (name of place)?'.

I have field tested all these ideas and they work, so do try them!

Wow good question and good answear i always wanted to know this, definately should be a must read thankyou both of you.

Never ask if they are single...if they are interested enough they will give you all the info you need about them...if guys would listen to everything a girl says and how she says it they would find that whole process easier....Just get them talking about themselves like you would any other person...they will know your interest by the way you look at them....

It doesn't matter if the girl is a 9.8 or a 1.0... and plus I don't live too far away from DC girls over there are mellow. This is what I do. I go near them and ask them a question such as where can you find (the place)? and take it from there.

Be prepared to follow up.

Some people have given great advice already. My advice? Be prepared to play off of what she says!

I used to dread conversations because I thought I had to make something up every step of the way. But if you listen to the girl, she'll GIVE you things to talk about!

I used to think this:

Me: Hi, how are you?
Her: xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Me: So, do you live around here?
Her: xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Me: So, what do you do for a living?

Now, I think:

Me: Hi, how are you?
Her: xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Me: Oh, xxxxxx is cool. What about xxxxxxx?

In other words, just go with the flow. Don't worry about planning the convseration 4 levels deep. You aren't Deep Blue.

Good tip ApocalypseCow! I used that all the time, the conversation is endless. I want to add something to your tip, initially, use what's she's saying and talk about that, but at the same time direct it toward talking about the subject that you want to talk about in order for you to lead to something that you want.

Lets say you want to talk about THE BEACH!

Me: Hi, how are you?
Her: I'm a little tired,
Me: Oh, your tired? What's wrong?
Her: I was up all nite studying.
Me: oh really? what are you studying?
Her: I have final exam on Chemistry,
Me: Wouldn't it be great if you could take a little vaction after all of your exams and go to the beach?

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This is what you do. It is a foolproof method.

When you see the HB, push some guy into her (make sure you can kick his a$s), hard enough to knock her over. Then immediately help her up and threaten to kick the guys ass who you knocked her over with. She will see you as her knight in shining armour and you're in. Or, you can just say "hi, what's your name" and start a convo. But if you try the first method, please post a field report.

Re: Be prepared to follow up.

Originally posted by ApocalypseCow
Some people have given great advice already. My advice? Be prepared to play off of what she says!

I used to dread conversations because I thought I had to make something up every step of the way. But if you listen to the girl, she'll GIVE you things to talk about!

I used to think this:

Me: Hi, how are you?
Her: xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Me: So, do you live around here?
Her: xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Me: So, what do you do for a living?

Now, I think:

Me: Hi, how are you?
Her: xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Me: Oh, xxxxxx is cool. What about xxxxxxx?

In other words, just go with the flow. Don't worry about planning the convseration 4 levels deep. You aren't Deep Blue.

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I'm not convinced you can just go up to a complete stranger and go 'hi, how are you?'. That implies you know them already. You are better following the advice I gave above. Maybe people in the USA are more open than UK people to having someone say 'hi how are you' when you don't know each other though.

Hi, what's your name.

It's all you'll ever need.

welcome to the site...read the DJ Bible.

If not, then just start saying hi to all types of women...then you'll eventually get the nerve to take it to the next level.

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Originally posted by Guitar_Whizz
I'm not convinced you can just go up to a complete stranger and go 'hi, how are you?'. That implies you know them already. You are better following the advice I gave above. Maybe people in the USA are more open than UK people to having someone say 'hi how are you' when you don't know each other though.

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Honestly, I've never opened with a straight, "Hi, how are you?" although I want to try it someday. What I usually say is, "Excuse me, do you go to school around here?" The next time I see a hot girl in sweat pants, I'm going to ask, "Excuse me, do you go to the gym around here?" I've just started running, so I think that will give us something to talk about.

"Hi, whats your name is all you'll ever need"

Obviously you need to be a good conversationalist to carry on convo smoothly.

You can't just say that and think thats it. lol

Just talk to anyone you feel like when you're out and about. doens't have to a be a chick. Just become comfortable talking with strangers no matter who they are.

Start a convo if you're on a bus. i know i'd rather have a convo than just sit there silent

Duff- I was just trying to illuminate how to start a convo. Not taking it and getting laid. Was that not obvious. If you want to talk to anyone out of the blue...that's all you need to say, "Hi, what is your name." Yeah, you have to go from there----c'mon. Anyway, this works for me...if the opportunity arises to start a convo more creatively, by all means take it...just use your judgement. But it's easy...once you know each others names, you can start asking her questions about herself.

I never used to think it was so damn easy...

yea i know.

I weren't saying that you meant that, just that you have to be a good conversationalist after that. Spontaneous thinker.

Alot of guys get stuck after saying that, they can't think of anything to say and come out with some weird ****.

How about, if it's one of those narrower sidewalks, and you two are walking in opposite directions, bump into her. If she's not interested, she'll be pissed and leave, if interested, she won't really care.(not anything drastic obviously, wouldn't want to injur her

this has to be done quickly and in a funny way ... it is fun and it lasts not more than 10 seconds
you see her coming towards you ....

you walk in her direction and when you both are one arm length away in front of each other you stop abruptly ...she surely will stop too... then when she starts to walk again you follow her like a mirror and walk in her direction too, she'll try to walk in the opposite direction ... you then QUICKLY walk in her direction too like a mirror (with a BIG smile this time and with a lot of eye contact)....she'll try the other direction this time and you copy her like a mirror again ... if you are laughing and smiling ... if she is smart she'll laugh too .... you are in ... you have an opener ....you can add something like:

"May be God wants us to meet ... my name is.... whats yours? "

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Originally posted by Guitar_Whizz
I'm not convinced you can just go up to a complete stranger and go 'hi, how are you?'. That implies you know them already. You are better following the advice I gave above. Maybe people in the USA are more open than UK people to having someone say 'hi how are you' when you don't know each other though.

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course you can ...and thats the idea ...pretend you know the person... theres no gap between you two...

why do you respond to an 4 month old post, then respond again 2 months later without anyone else posting?