Ok before anyone decides to go off and criticize me, go easy 
. I wrote this at 4:30 AM with a spinning head. Yes I know I float around a lot and go off tangent but I tried to put it all together somehow .
A rather intelligent man once told me, if you are training for a one mile race, practice by running two miles. I don't know if this was reiterated from another source, but it is very good advice indeed. Imagine, after running your maximum speed for as long as you normally do, you will begin to tire and slow down. However, if you increase your standards to two miles when your goal is one mile, you will probably not slow as much after the first mile. When competing with other runners who have trained by running a single mile, you will have the advantage.
Anyone can raise their standards. Many schools in Europe require children to begin at as young an age as 3 years old. In the USA it is around 5 or 6. Yet somehow neither seem to have a problem with their age. Have you ever set a goal and made a determined effort to complete it, when you were just unable to? I doubt this has occured in most cases. Did you really look to all the possiblities and think about the situation?
The reality is, everything you need to know to be the best you can be with women, as an employee, spouse, friend, pet owner, anything, is out there already. But there is also a lot out there that is garbage. How can we determine what really works with women when one man says to treat her like a princess, when another says to treat her like another girl you see everyday, and both tell you to expect the same results?
Once can come to the conclusion that there are many forms of advice out there that can change everything for you if taken seriously. Just to name a few cliches:
Practice makes perfect
Treat others as you wish to be treated
Respect yourself
Anything about determination and effort
However, how often do you actually take these things seriously?
Everyone has a different perspective on everything. Everyone's "perfect" is flawed in the perspective of someone else. You must find your own utopia. But how?
It can be said that the most important things in life are the most down to earth and basic. Whats more important, a yacht that you can buy with a few million dollars that has the latest technology, employed staff, etc, or food? Obviously food is much more basic and much more essential.
So what ARE the essentials? Well everyone knows that you need food, shelter, clothing. These are all standards for survival. Everyone has shelter, even if it's a bridge. Food, if you're alive you have access to at least some food.
So everyone has the essentials right? Well what about the all the stuff like cell phones, airplanes, the internet, education, MONEY, that everyone is trying so hard to get?
Well, most people have the essentials, correct? This is where I'm asking you to think a little further. What about the emotional aspect of this? What are the EMOTIONAL essentials?
If you asked someone what one thing they could have if they had a wish, I wouldn't be surprised if "happiness" was the reply. So what is happiness?
On the emotional side you have happiness as the ultimate emotional aspect of life. The physical? Survival is probably sufficient, since anything more would be feeding the emotional part (for example being in better shape would help you feel better about yourself).
so, the two things we strive for are survival and happiness. Lets see if we can break that down even further.
Survivial
-Food
-Shelter
-Clothing
Happiness
-Fulfilling urge of Reproduction (to continue species)
-Desire of Importance/Belonging
-No pain (physically/mentally)
So the survival aspect was previously covered, but now the happiness part. We have fulfilling the urge of reproduction, this is an instinctual drive and many people want to raise children. No pain, obviously you can't be mentally satisfied if you're in pain. Then the desire of importance. This is where everyone is trying to be better than everyone else. This is where people want the very best. They want to feel like an accomplished individual, with a place to belong to and people to look up to them. It can be said that all during a person's life they are trying to become something other people admire, depending on their perspective of where to stop (for example the people with no motivation due to the fact that they would rather sit on the couch all day and save their energy, however if you're here chances are that's not you). That being said, you can see that everyone has basic ideals that help define their "perfect", but somewhat distorted and warped compared to other people's.
Everyone wants and needs the basics. But on top of that there are different proportions as to how much of what is needed to be happy.
Everyone has their own opinion on abortion. Everyone has their own opinion on what food is good/bad. Everyone has their own opinion on what our leaders should be doing.
All that being said, let me refer back to a portion of what I said earlier.
However, "practice makes perfect" is not as subjective. Sure, you could say that in certain situations you just can't improve, but then it's one way or the other. Also, with this particular phrase you can't really practice and in effect get WORSE at it. If anything it won't change. But everyone knows that if you add 2 digit numbers up all day then you'll get pretty good at it.
But how do we incorporate these basic ideas into our lives? By consciously using them. Pick one. Think about it. Think about it's potential. If you practiced everything you did more often, chances are you would get better at them. consciously evaluating situations also helps your brain consider it better.
You can start by finding a few basic ideas that you can see work. Don't tell me practice doesn't work. That's just common knowledge (and why I used it so much). Think about multiple situations you've been in that are similar, such as interacting with girls, and see if you can form a rule that will help you in another similar situation. We do this all the time, but subconsciously. Now I'm telling you to make it conscious. It will speed up the process, I promise.
One of the things we learned in history, is to look for a broad answer to a question that can answer 100 questions. Or 1000. For example, you can say that the reason John died is because he had a bullet to the upper left side of his heart, at 3:00 am. Or you can say that Guns have the potential to kill people. Then you can narrow it down to the appropriate situation, and make the necessary adjustments.
So how will all this help you? By forming simple ideas and thoughts that apply to many situations (including girls!), everytime you come to a similar situation again, you already have a possible starting point. Then you can think about it, and see if it fits and how you can make it work. They often say the hardest part about doing something is starting it. For example, if I noticed that all the girls I talk to laugh at a certain type of joke, I can make note of that and I'll have something to build off of the next time I talk to a girl.
Like I said, we do this subconsciously already. But you don't recall those facts as readily and you don't think about the effects of them (like if I came to this conclusion subconsciously, I couldn't think about it because it would be my brain and not me that was processing it) in the same manner.
Last of all, you might want to know how to start forming these thoughts/ideas. Practice! Talk to girls. Think about "ok did I do good or not". Obviously we already have an abundance of ideas (like confidence etc) here, but it will do you good to discover them for yourself and find your own.
. I wrote this at 4:30 AM with a spinning head. Yes I know I float around a lot and go off tangent but I tried to put it all together somehow .A rather intelligent man once told me, if you are training for a one mile race, practice by running two miles. I don't know if this was reiterated from another source, but it is very good advice indeed. Imagine, after running your maximum speed for as long as you normally do, you will begin to tire and slow down. However, if you increase your standards to two miles when your goal is one mile, you will probably not slow as much after the first mile. When competing with other runners who have trained by running a single mile, you will have the advantage.
Anyone can raise their standards. Many schools in Europe require children to begin at as young an age as 3 years old. In the USA it is around 5 or 6. Yet somehow neither seem to have a problem with their age. Have you ever set a goal and made a determined effort to complete it, when you were just unable to? I doubt this has occured in most cases. Did you really look to all the possiblities and think about the situation?
The reality is, everything you need to know to be the best you can be with women, as an employee, spouse, friend, pet owner, anything, is out there already. But there is also a lot out there that is garbage. How can we determine what really works with women when one man says to treat her like a princess, when another says to treat her like another girl you see everyday, and both tell you to expect the same results?
Once can come to the conclusion that there are many forms of advice out there that can change everything for you if taken seriously. Just to name a few cliches:
Practice makes perfect
Treat others as you wish to be treated
Respect yourself
Anything about determination and effort
However, how often do you actually take these things seriously?
Everyone has a different perspective on everything. Everyone's "perfect" is flawed in the perspective of someone else. You must find your own utopia. But how?
It can be said that the most important things in life are the most down to earth and basic. Whats more important, a yacht that you can buy with a few million dollars that has the latest technology, employed staff, etc, or food? Obviously food is much more basic and much more essential.
So what ARE the essentials? Well everyone knows that you need food, shelter, clothing. These are all standards for survival. Everyone has shelter, even if it's a bridge. Food, if you're alive you have access to at least some food.
So everyone has the essentials right? Well what about the all the stuff like cell phones, airplanes, the internet, education, MONEY, that everyone is trying so hard to get?
Well, most people have the essentials, correct? This is where I'm asking you to think a little further. What about the emotional aspect of this? What are the EMOTIONAL essentials?
If you asked someone what one thing they could have if they had a wish, I wouldn't be surprised if "happiness" was the reply. So what is happiness?
On the emotional side you have happiness as the ultimate emotional aspect of life. The physical? Survival is probably sufficient, since anything more would be feeding the emotional part (for example being in better shape would help you feel better about yourself).
so, the two things we strive for are survival and happiness. Lets see if we can break that down even further.
Survivial
-Food
-Shelter
-Clothing
Happiness
-Fulfilling urge of Reproduction (to continue species)
-Desire of Importance/Belonging
-No pain (physically/mentally)
So the survival aspect was previously covered, but now the happiness part. We have fulfilling the urge of reproduction, this is an instinctual drive and many people want to raise children. No pain, obviously you can't be mentally satisfied if you're in pain. Then the desire of importance. This is where everyone is trying to be better than everyone else. This is where people want the very best. They want to feel like an accomplished individual, with a place to belong to and people to look up to them. It can be said that all during a person's life they are trying to become something other people admire, depending on their perspective of where to stop (for example the people with no motivation due to the fact that they would rather sit on the couch all day and save their energy, however if you're here chances are that's not you). That being said, you can see that everyone has basic ideals that help define their "perfect", but somewhat distorted and warped compared to other people's.
Everyone wants and needs the basics. But on top of that there are different proportions as to how much of what is needed to be happy.
Everyone has their own opinion on abortion. Everyone has their own opinion on what food is good/bad. Everyone has their own opinion on what our leaders should be doing.
All that being said, let me refer back to a portion of what I said earlier.
This goes hand-in-hand with those cliches such as "practice makes perfect". This is a very basic idea, its not something like "if you throw a ball over a roof at 37 degrees with the wind blowing east at 30 mph it will ____". That can be much more subjective because there are so many things that can change the outcome of throwing the ball. What if the person is weak? What if the ball is a baseball vs. a basketball? What if it hits a bird?
However, "practice makes perfect" is not as subjective. Sure, you could say that in certain situations you just can't improve, but then it's one way or the other. Also, with this particular phrase you can't really practice and in effect get WORSE at it. If anything it won't change. But everyone knows that if you add 2 digit numbers up all day then you'll get pretty good at it.
But how do we incorporate these basic ideas into our lives? By consciously using them. Pick one. Think about it. Think about it's potential. If you practiced everything you did more often, chances are you would get better at them. consciously evaluating situations also helps your brain consider it better.
You can start by finding a few basic ideas that you can see work. Don't tell me practice doesn't work. That's just common knowledge (and why I used it so much). Think about multiple situations you've been in that are similar, such as interacting with girls, and see if you can form a rule that will help you in another similar situation. We do this all the time, but subconsciously. Now I'm telling you to make it conscious. It will speed up the process, I promise.
One of the things we learned in history, is to look for a broad answer to a question that can answer 100 questions. Or 1000. For example, you can say that the reason John died is because he had a bullet to the upper left side of his heart, at 3:00 am. Or you can say that Guns have the potential to kill people. Then you can narrow it down to the appropriate situation, and make the necessary adjustments.
So how will all this help you? By forming simple ideas and thoughts that apply to many situations (including girls!), everytime you come to a similar situation again, you already have a possible starting point. Then you can think about it, and see if it fits and how you can make it work. They often say the hardest part about doing something is starting it. For example, if I noticed that all the girls I talk to laugh at a certain type of joke, I can make note of that and I'll have something to build off of the next time I talk to a girl.
Like I said, we do this subconsciously already. But you don't recall those facts as readily and you don't think about the effects of them (like if I came to this conclusion subconsciously, I couldn't think about it because it would be my brain and not me that was processing it) in the same manner.
Last of all, you might want to know how to start forming these thoughts/ideas. Practice! Talk to girls. Think about "ok did I do good or not". Obviously we already have an abundance of ideas (like confidence etc) here, but it will do you good to discover them for yourself and find your own.