if you truly CAN kick ass, make good money, take good care of her (sexually and otherwise) the smart women can SEE that in you. To hell with the dumb ones and the ones who need you to be dressed up, etc. Until you truly HAVE the above abilities, don't count on scoring much, if any decent *****, cause if you do, it will be pure luck and you won't be able to keep her, at least, not without ruining your bank account.