Hey gentlemen,

I've been seeing a new plate for a few days now. Typically, I'll give a woman 2 red flags before blowing her off permanently.

The first red flag was her blowing up on me (10 minutes of raging/venting). I said something that pissed her off and she started having a tantrum. Having grown up with emotionally volatile women, I can typically handle them very well, and they don't throw me off like they would most men. I basically just told her if she wants to talk, she needs to behave like an adult, and I finished my drink and watched the game. I essentially calmed her down, and let her spill her guts/cry about what it was that had her so pissed (things that had nothing to do with me).

I distanced myself for a few days, and I didn't respond to her texts after this happened. I found it funny how prior to this event she never sent any texts. I just assumed she was the hard to get type, and since her responses were always positive when I contacted her, it wasn't a big deal.

Last night we met up again, and things seemed relatively fine. Some sexual escalation and decent conversation. Then she starts in again with a few random *****y remarks clearly aimed at pissing me off. I didn't respond defensively. In fact, I didn't even call her on it. I basically just laughed it off and didn't pay much attention to it.

We're all used to the standard sh!t tests from women we initially contact. We handle them skillfully and treat the b!tchiness as interest.

What is the best way to handle these sh!t tests that come up after the initial meetings?

There are some who would argue that remaining unshakable during a woman's emotional tizzy is the manly move (one of the 16 commandments of poon, be the oak tree). Others would argue you're a beta fool for putting up with it. Others would argue that if you don't put her in her place, she'll think you're a weak spineless tool.

I'd like to assume I handled this the right way since she tried extensively to contact me the next day.

People aren't perfect, and every woman I'm dating or have dated has had some undesirable qualities. I've accepted that as a man in my 30's, it's probably a wise move to expect women in the same age range to have some level of baggage, so I work with it. Where do we draw the line? What is the best way to handle this woman's completely unexpected b!tchiness? Is this just straight up disrespect?

Just when you think you've got your game down, the curveball comes.

Great question.....wish I knew the answer. I've tried the same things as you. I've used the let it blow over method and don't say much. I've called them out on it and argue with their nonsense. I've also let them know if they didn't stop I was walking out of the room.

I think it happens for a variety of reasons. One reason women do this is because this is their way of acting out and trying to communicate they are feeling insecure.

Another reason is because they love drama so much. This gets them all emotionally fired up inside.

In the end most women truly are little girls and they are emotional not rational. I don't think there is a end all to it. They just aren't capable of what men are. You just deal with it and have another beer.

After my girlfriend throws her tantrums she always says "I just want you to hold me and love me...thats all I need". I laugh inside thinking how can you expect someone to hold and love a raging tiger that is mad at the jungle?"
Silly biatches.

I dont think there is any problem is a girl screaming and b1tching, the real problem is when she is cold and uninterested.

In fact showing such strong emotions to/against you means that she considers you important, therefore you have ground to play.

Personally when a girl is angry at me I feel very satisfied and my trolling on her gives me even more satisfaction, sarcams and teasing facial expression on a angry women are things which gives me a satisfaction very other thing do but to each his own.

Regarding your question, its hard to tell which one is the best reaction since it depends on the relationship, who you are and who she is.

As long as you dont apologize or "lower your head for the couple harmony" its all ok.

Dear Origen,
Why bother with someone like the Women you describe,her behaviour is abnormal...by accepting you encourage her,next thing she will become violent...if you just want to pump and dump,fine but otherwise take care Will Robinson!

Origin- how attractive is this girl? Would she make the top 15pct?

I've seen the best turn around/reaction to a woman like you described from a former friend.

She was all up in his face *****ing in a fit of rage basically rejecting him for his approach and all he did was stay calm and say:

"you are making me so hot right now, you need to stop it's such a turn on!"

and he kept drilling that response without a care in the world. She eventually started laughing and her mood did a complete 180, she was impressed with how he handled it.

Now I'm not saying this will work all the time, but it was damn funny and profound to witness. Give it a go, worse case scenario she hates you anyway :crackup:

Reframing to the sexual should be in every man's toolbox.

scrouds said:

Reframing to the sexual should be in every man's toolbox.

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Amen to that. It's one of my most favorite and effective "tool" you can never feel rejected by doing this.

***UPDATE***

Went out with her again tonight loaded with steely resolve to walk out at the first sign of deliberate *****iness/rudeness/needling. As we were drinking our wine, she looked at me and said, "You come from strong stock. Most men would have been out the door by now. In fact, I laid it on very thick with you. We women test a lot, this way we can sift the wheat from the chaff and keep those who would hurt us away from us."

Victory.

Lessons I learned from this:

Never lose my frame or focus on my mission REGARDLESS of what she says she wants in a man.

Make romantic interest known quickly.

This girl was deliberately testing me to see if I would switch my values/goals/ideals over the course of a few dates to fit her laundry list of the ideal man. It didn't happen, and she picked up on it.

By being clear about who I am, where I'm going, and being completely independent and in control of my life, I passed her sh!t tests with minimal effort and didn't even realize it.

Thanks for the input gentlemen, I was 1 sh!tty remark away from tossing this one.

LOL, she's just setting you up for the next one. She gave you a false sense of security. Prepare for a nuclear holocaust.

She will feel compelled to "test" you forever.

Chalking this one up to another lesson hard learned.

Wish I knew why this sh!t keeps happening.