Hey guys, was looking for some advice from some of you older ones (40+) and in particular guys who have decided to stay single though they have no trouble finding a lady who would want to settle with them.

I am nearly 31 and considering a vasectomy and think the concept of marriage has expired in today's world - if you're a man that is, if you have a vagina well that's a totally different story and you would want to get hitched asap as it's a win-win.

I enjoy my freedom and want to fulfill all my dreams and I feel having a wife will hinder any progress towards achieving my goals - (keep in mind one of my goals is do some more traveling and sleep with as many women as possible!) I believe with when you have a wife she puts herself first, then the kids second and then lastly her other half.

I have been with about 30 women and have had a great time so far but do you get over chasing tail? Does the desire to settle down get stronger and stronger as you approach your 40's? When you are in your 40's and 50's do you have any problems getting laid and do the women flow as easily as they do in your 20's and 30's?

Also just so you know I am in Australia - and pre-nups are not worth the paper they are written on here (same as UK I believe) rather we have binding financial agreements (BFI's) but good luck trying to get your Mrs. to sign one! One of the many things I find off-putting about marriage.

Thanks in advance guys!

I'm 37 and have no trouble getting laid....provided I stay trim. Nothing kills my sex life faster than allowing myself to put on weight.
I think a man approaching his 40s and in good physical shape should have no trouble aiming for girls on the 25 to 40 age bracket. And I have absolutely no desire to settle down with just one woman, even as I approach 40.
The ages of my current plates are 35, 30, 29 and 28 and they're all around a HB 7-7.5.
I do worry about ageing and the pvssy becoming scarce but I'm sure keeping trim, well groomed and running tight game will keep any man in the pvssy for a long time.

I'm 49 this year, and although I'm on a ... vag sabbatical right now for personal reasons, last year I was quite active.
It was likely the easiest time for me to get intimate with women yet.

However as you age, expect a lot of moms. Difficult to quickly game she-captains of industry! Also expect to be slotted into certain stereotype (life bachelor) which has negative associations with hit. Might be ok if you formulate a fictitious common law marriage that dominated many years!

The game as well as where you meet women will change too.
But hey, for now, you're still very young and don't have to really worry about such things.

Regarding the Vasectomy, no opinion. I don't have one, won't get one either.

SH

I really think that the desire to 'settle down' and the desire to sleep with as many women as possible varies from man to man. I've always enjoyed the companionship aspect of being with a woman which is why my relationships generally last longer than a month. If I didn't enjoy that aspect of relationships, then I would certainly be out there poking as many women as I possibly could.

If you still aren't feeling that need for companionship, then why contemplate it? You know what's going to bring you satisfaction in life, so there's no need to squeeze yourself into what everyone says is the proper thing to do (settle down).

If you genuinely don't want kids, nor do you want a woman as a constant companion, then I see nothing wrong with the vasectomy.

My situation is different - I have a kid and I got a vasectomy. My gf doesn't have any kids and knows about my vasectomy. What I've noticed about childless women is if they're with a guy they really like, they WILL give up on the idea of having children. Women make themselves slaves to men who leads them through life.

I turned 50 last December. I can say in absolute honesty that I have no trouble with women. In fact, I'm amazed at how much *easier* it's become. I should qualify this by saying that I keep myself in very good shape. Fortunately, I've never smoked and I'm not a drinker. By the time you hit your 40's the health effects of both habits really begin to accelerate, so that alone helps separate me from the competition.

Upon reflection, I think much of the reason it's become easier is that I've become comfortable in my own skin, so things that would bother an AFC like rejection become almost cute and funny. Strangely enough, you begin to even appreciate what used to be blows to the ego as simply a part of life, so you tend to not take things like that as personally. I also don't worry about psychodrama. Is she a goldddigger? Is she cheating on me? Who cares really - I'm never going to marry them and modern technology can easily mitigate any potential biohazards.

Please trust me on this. Keep yourself physically fit, don't do anything reckless, live your life competently, and you will not have to work very hard at attracting women at this age. Of course, you also have to have realistic expectations. A very hot 25-year-old female is doable, but the maintenance costs would be sky high. Yeah, it would be about money, and she'll most likely cheat...but you must **accept** that as baked into the female DNA and make your decisions accordingly. Personally, I prefer over 35 and lower maintenance. I liked older women even when I was in my 20's, so it works out for me just fine. Ultimately, I would be just as happy on my own. I don't need a female to complete me - and ironically that may be my single, most attractive trait. Women can sense that.

Dear Sixers,
And I thought Cricket was a Gentlemans game....There you are!...Look I will be Seventy in eighteen months and it gets easier and easier...Who told you Pre Nups are a waste of time?....some Beta for sure,well I had one made up in 1989 when they were in their infancy,tested it in 2005...Sure it was thrown out as a Pre Nuptial,but accepted as a Contract...That is an offer,an acceptance and a willingness to be bound...I was very happy with the outcome,and think anyone who is stupid enough to bring the State into their personal affairs by marrying,is twice the fool by not stitching her up.

I've thought about this myself, but I believe a male pill is just a couple years away.

Dear Don,
I like your style Mate,everything you say is Gospel...Me? must be lucky,been drinking at least a pint (600 mil)of White Wine a night for nearly fifty years,liver tests show me as clean as a bell....At times I drank really heavily,in New Guinea I used to knock over a bottle of Johny Walker a night...Its a question of genetic inheritance,the Anglo Celts have been using alcohol for countless millennia,have inbuilt tolerance,most other races don't,in the same way most are lactose intolerant.

SecondHalf said:

However as you age, expect a lot of moms. Difficult to quickly game she-captains of industry! Also expect to be slotted into certain stereotype (life bachelor) which has negative associations with hit. Might be ok if you formulate a fictitious common law marriage that dominated many years!

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I'll probably just claim I was divorced or come up with a story of how I had a fiance who died in a car crash.

mrRuckus said:

had a fiance who died in a car crash.

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dude you made me laugh. Wicked.