I hope this posts reads to be about me overall. The catalyst has been that the last girl I saw said 'I had a chip on my shoulder'.

That has bounced in my head a LONG time. I have reflected and yeah, I think she is right. My dad left when I was a 7, my brother and I were poor although spoilt for love and attention.

That said, could not have wished for a better childhood. Seriously lived a dream. Not perfect sure, yet you roll with the punches. I have done that through my life then working my butt off to study (paying for myself working jobs on the side) then working professionally, now have a great job that is also paying for me to complete my mba. I live well below my means for a better future. And yes, I have a chip on my shoulder as I see trust fund kids living it up the entire time with their inheritance parachute whilst i work my butt off.

Yes I choose not to go to some awesome events/catch up with friends because I am working/studying/exercising or tired from the week.

I really understand the risk and price I pay for 'success' in the many friends I have grown away from and the many opportunities with women that I have passed over.

Any comments/wisdom? What do I do about this? I wonder if it holds me back or if it something where I just accept who I am?

Doesnt sound like a chip on your shoulder, have you ever considered your ex was full of sh!t and making excuses?

betheman said:

Doesnt sound like a chip on your shoulder, have you ever considered your ex was full of sh!t and making excuses?

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Yeah, I was wondering how many guys on here actually took feedback versus dismissed it from an ex.

I doubt this girl had special powers to know what was going on and doubt even more that she or anyone really knows what is good or bad.

I think about it though from that perspective but also the objective 'does a chip on your shoulder hurt/help drive for success'?

Eg. I am very wary about supporting my family and I financially because I have been there once in this lifetime. In a sense that drives me forward. In another it may make me more risk adverse than a high flying entrepreneur who will make a calculated risk and bet everything.

Make sense?

I see comparisons with business/women behaviour in terms of risk taking/return on investment/multiple options etc. Is that a negative frame/paradigm?