Been seeing a girl who has a tendency to spiral into depression over her work/life situation. When she gets really moody, I tend to pull back and let her stew. I'm becoming paranoid about losing her attraction.

This morning she was in a real state so I left her place without saying anything. She texted me shortly afterwards:

Her: Left so abruptly

Me: I don't like you when you're moody

Her: Can you really blame me Cheeks?

Me: if at first you don't succeed, blame your parents ;-)

Her: You're not funny. Just leave me alone

Me: k, only meant to cheer you up a little

Her: Not working



As you can see, I attempted to neutralize her with a bit of ****y and Funny and failed massively. Where can I go from here? Have I lost already?

Do you really care if you "lose" a moody, depressed woman who verbally disrespects you?

If the answer is yes, know this sh!t will never stop and you'll be miserable.

If the answer is no, eject and don't look back.

You must have a lot of patience or lack of options to put up with that. Just reading it made me cringe. Time to spin more plates if there ever was one.

It's less about keeping this one particular woman and more about learning how to deal with this behavior in general. When I find that mythical woman who never has mood swings, I'll stop asking these questions.

5string said:

Do you really care if you "lose" a moody, depressed woman who verbally disrespects you?

If the answer is yes, know this sh!t will never stop and you'll be miserable.

If the answer is no, eject and don't look back.

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I totally agree. If you want to keep her around because the sex is really good or she does your laundry, just eject when she gets like that and don't care. If you want to do that, your best friend is how busy you are. She asks why you left like that, just say you're busy. Still in a mood and she wants to hang, busy.

Cheeks said:

Been seeing a girl who has a tendency to spiral into depression over her work/life situation. When she gets really moody, I tend to pull back and let her stew. I'm becoming paranoid about losing her attraction.

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Dude! Let her lose attraction! That way your exit will be quicker/easier.

Run Forrest, RUUUUUNNNN!!

Cheeks said:

Her: Left so abruptly

Me: I don't like you when you're moody

Her: Can you really blame me Cheeks?

Me: if at first you don't succeed, blame your parents ;-)

Her: You're not funny. Just leave me alone

Me: k, only meant to cheer you up a little

Her: Not working

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wow that is some ****y sh!t.

This girl is rude AND needy...such a girl would not have existed 100 years ago, unless she was from the higher aristocratic class...these biatches would have starved to death or become prostitutes.

if you live with her or you share residences pack your bags, leave when she is gone, don't call her again.

if she lives in your house, pack her bags when she is gone leave them outside, change the locks, and don't call her again.

problem solved.

Remember negative emotions are contagious, you need to surround yourself with positive, energetic people and remove negative people with ruthless austere focus.

Dear Cheeks,
Depressives are so destructive......You are actually handling her very well....How can you use the word "Paranoid"?....Just use her for what she offers and do your own thing...were you spinning even one Plate,you could just sit back and laugh at her!

Same chick as here, eh?

I told my buddy today, if you stay with a chic like this there is something wrong with you AND her. His girl is moody, depressive, bipolar. She called the cops on him and tried to get him arrested on a fake domestic charge. He's been dealing with this crap for 5 years and there is no end in sight. Why? Because he doesn't realize he has a problem. He doesn't value himself enough to walk away. He just wants to be "loved" even if it takes him doing all the giving and getting all the abuse, and dealing with all of her bs and supporting her for little tiny miniscule droplets of "love". That's pretty freaking desperate and smacks of low self esteem and no self respect.

There are some women out there who will instantly cheer up when you're in their presence. I often find that I have the ability to bring a woman's spirits up when she's unhappy (and no, it's not from solving her problems!) You can often bring a woman's emotions to the positive side by preventing her negative emotions from bringing you down.

There are also women who literally enjoy stewing in bad emotions. They do it in order to get attention.

Then, there's the women who will change their moods at the drop of a hat, giving off what seems to be a 'crazy' vibe.

You need to figure out what kind of a woman you've got on your hands. If she's just occasionally in a bad mood, then perhaps you could work at bringing her emotions up to your positive level instead of abandoning her. A woman's IL will increase if she finds your presence irresistibly pleasant and causes her emotions to change.

However, if she's one of the other two types that I mentioned, jump ship.

As you can see, I attempted to neutralize her with a bit of ****y and Funny and failed massively.

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One humorous line isn't going to make her current emotional state change. Have you ever owned a fish tank? If you have, you'll know that you can't just bring home a new fish and dump it in the tank because it will die of shock. You have to let the fish stay in the bag, floating in the tank for 20 minutes or so until the water in the bag has become the same temperature as the water in the tank.

It's very much the same as warming up a woman's emotional state. You listen to her, relate to her, THEN maybe throw in a funny line or story relevant to the situation. Women WANT you to lead their emotional state into different directions.

Men feel better when they can solve their problems.
Women feel better when their emotional state changes.

Sounds like low blood sugar. First thing in the morning, bring her coffee and pastry (oranges work well too and show that you care). Inform her that she must eat small snacks throughout the day. This is the proper response to morning grumpiness that shows that you care.

I program my Mr. Coffee to start a half an hour before the alarm goes off. It stays hot for two hours. If she likes tea, get one of those rapid water boilers and an insulated Thermos pot. It's easy to nuke or toast some sort of bread or pastry.

Additionally, you could plant some gripes for a few weeks about how you're getting out of shape, and let her see you reading about exercise on the Internet. Then, start going out for a morning walk or jog as soon as you get her some coffee. Make it a good half hour or more away, so she can clean the cobwebs out.

Give it a chance before you give yourself an 'F' at working things out with a woman.

Down Low said:

Sounds like low blood sugar. First thing in the morning, bring her coffee and pastry

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Make sure you give her a shot of insulin too. After breakfast, take her for a nice walk over to the dialysis unit, and make sure you hold her hand while she's hooked up.

Seriously, WTF???

No, I'm not kidding. I have hypoglycemia. Nobody gives a rat's azz about low blood sugar because of the massive epidemic of high blood sugar (which requires metaformin pills or insulin to control).

Hypoglycemia makes it hard to wake up. I gotta go make coffee with sugar and half-and-half as soon as I can rouse myself. Some years ago, when my hypoglycemia wasn't much of a problem, I dated a gal who had issues. She had to snack every couple of hours or she went into the emotional wastebasket.

I've had run ins with low blood sugar. Stems from eating too many carbs, over the passed 28 years, i've pretty muck broken my carb /sugar / insulin response system. Sucks, but that's what the modern american diet does.

If I didn't get the situation under control, I would have been looking at a diabetic diagnosis by 30. Low carb for life.

But what does it matter, no sense playing capt-n-save-a-whoore