“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Reciprocity Principle

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The Reciprocity Principle - that is, the social norm that we should treat others the way they treat us. A person must try to repay what another person has provided.

Reciprocity is one of the most widespread and basic norms of human culture.

Apply it to your life. Just something to think about.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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AlexLefty said:
The Reciprocity Principle - that is, the social norm that we should treat others the way they treat us. A person must try to repay what another person has provided.

Reciprocity is one of the most widespread and basic norms of human culture.

Apply it to your life. Just something to think about.
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Would be a great idea if it worked.
 
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BPH said:
Would be a great idea if it worked.
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If you understand him correctly, you are being very pessimistic.

I gave bud to a buddy today. I had a little left and didn't want to bring it home. Maybe that'll pay off.

Also I'm realizing how magnanimous a truly valuable person must be. When you have some social value, it's very tempting to ignore friends that are beneath you, or worse, put them down.

If I'm trying to become better friends with some more popular kids, and lower value kids try to leech and enter the conversation by talking to me. It's so easy to basically ignore them, preferring to instead have a conversation with the people who seem above you, even if you aren't at the center of it.

I have realized since that I should start an interesting conversation with that person (think improv comedy, transition away from normal into something weird but interesting) and then bring other people around me into it. Ask their opinions on it, is an easy way, if they don't include themselves. By then the first conversation will have died down and you're the focus.

And all that comes from being willing to talk to the less popular kids.

Good thread, good concept.
 
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LearningSlowly said:
If you understand him correctly, you are being very pessimistic.

I gave bud to a buddy today. I had a little left and didn't want to bring it home. Maybe that'll pay off.

Also I'm realizing how magnanimous a truly valuable person must be. When you have some social value, it's very tempting to ignore friends that are beneath you, or worse, put them down.

If I'm trying to become better friends with some more popular kids, and lower value kids try to leech and enter the conversation by talking to me. It's so easy to basically ignore them, preferring to instead have a conversation with the people who seem above you, even if you aren't at the center of it.

I have realized since that I should start an interesting conversation with that person (think improv comedy, transition away from normal into something weird but interesting) and then bring other people around me into it. Ask their opinions on it, is an easy way, if they don't include themselves. By then the first conversation will have died down and you're the focus.

And all that comes from being willing to talk to the less popular kids.

Good thread, good concept.
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I mean that people look for ways to not reciprocate.

I don't know if it was meant in a material way or social way but if it was meant in the former I notice how people always look for a way to benefit from somebody rather than to mutually benefit.

Person borrows money and doesn't pay back.

Person gets a peace of gum, never offers one to his giver.

Stuff like that, maybe I misinterpreted it.
 
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It means both ways.

Yeah, I feel really positive and high value and stoned lately and I've realised I'm giving out gum, pizza, compliments...




People randomly come up to me to say hey, pat me on the back, call out cool **** at me. Whatever, it was 50c worth of gum for mad social proof. Worth it.

It's more about the positivity than the material though. Material is just an easy way/method of vibing good feelings.
 
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It's more about the positivity than the material though. Material is just an easy way/method of vibing good feelings.
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Exactly, good feelings are returned with good feelings.

For example, you are traveling in the Middle East. You walk into a shop in the bazaar in Istanbul, you are greeted by the kind owner who invites you in, asks you where you are from, and then offers you a cup of coffee and some lovely Turkish pastries. As you sit there, the hospitality of the owner makes you feel a bit guilty about just walking out without buying anything. If you were already thinking of buying a carpet, you might decide to have him show you his collection. As he displays more and more carpets, taking them down from the rack, unrolling them, and then talking to you about their quality, you recognize that he is doing more and more work for you. You are more likely to feel that you need to purchase one of these carpets. If you were not thinking of buying a carpet - or do not have enough money even if you wanted to - you may find yourself looking around the shop for something small that you could buy, and maybe give as a gift to someone when you get back home.
 
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Bump because i think this is an important concept
 
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