Hey guys this is my first time on any forum site but here goes, I am a 17 year old normal guy with a lot of friends of both sexes. While i was a bit socially secluded in my middle school and my freshman year of high school, I have branched out completely and shown people my true colors. I have more friends then I ever did, most people at my school know me and like me, and I get hit on by a lot of girls.
Im all around known as a funny kid and a player when it comes to ladies, but that is because people see me with a lot of girls and getting female attention. I get people asking me how many girls I've hooked up with at school, or how I get around so much. Problem is, its not really the truth. My problem is that I never choose to go farther than friends with any of them. Its not because they loose interest or because I somehow **** things up with them, its because I'm not attracted to them. For some reason I am very picky I only go after 9s and 10s . All of my friends say I need to lower my standards for girls because Im almost never successful with the top tier girls.Yet no matter how hard I try, I can't bring myself to do anything with girls I'm not like utterly infatuated with. I haven't even hooked up with a girl since I was 13, though I've had the chance about 20 different times. It is frustrating because whenever I actively try to make a girl like me (top tier girls), Im unsuccessful, but whenever I don't give a **** about wether or not they like me and Im not trying to impress a girl, they all seem to really like me. Ive never really been afraid of hot girls, but somehow when im trying to come off as hook up or boyfriend material I stifle the more charismatic naturally likeable part of me rather than exaggerate it. I am wondering what to do about this. Recently I was friend zoned by a girl I have liked for a couple months. I thought things were going well, all the signs I usually get were there for the last 3 weeks and then out of nowhere she just kinda broke things off. Im not so much disappointed as I am wondering why this seems to happen with the top tier girls.

I realize that I have two options at this point.

1. I lower my standards and get with the girls that have been pining over me for the last few months
2. I figure out some way so that I can be myself/ be seductive enough to attract the best of the best girls. (their are only like 3 of these girls at my school)

Number two Is basically why I am here. I am new to Pick up and Im wondering what the basics are for my situation. Any help is greatly appreciated.
Thanks to all

This illusion of "top-tier" girls is your problem. Your labeling is sabotaging you somehow. I can't say exactly why, it could show up in a lot of ways, but general value-taking, rather than value-giving. You are trying to "get" her social value, rather than offering your own.

I know a lot of really cool guys, literally the best guys I know, who are dating cute, but not necessarily hot girls. Chasing only for the hottest is probably a strategy based on ego needs. Maybe it's showing through and causing you problems here.

Be introspective, figure out your own problem, write it down, then fix it.

It's a paradox. Almost like a Catch-22 - You can only get what you want when you don't need it.

When you see these chicks below 9, you simply don't care what happens. This is highly attractive.
With the chicks you've labeled top tier, you experience a complete shift in behaviour and try to win them over, with excessive caring.

Firstly, you need to talk to more of these 'top tier' girls. You need to make yourself comfortable with them. This is both an issue of confidence and ego.

Secondly, you can tell by your post that you are NOT forward. It does not seem like you actively take any steps towards getting girls. Let me elaborate:
You liked this girl for several months. She then suddenly stopped giving you positive signs. Why? Because you did not take action. The window of opportunity passed. If you like someone and she likes you, you take swift action. You shall not be afraid to show interest (not through saying 'I like you' in a serious tone, but rather through actions).

Bottom line, be fun, value-giving, positive, confident, and decisive in your approach towards chicks. Improve yourself.

thank you. Both for your input. I will start talking to more top tier girls and become more comfortable with them, and I will work on moving forward faster when i get the right signals.
on another note, is it worth it to hook up/ go farther with girls in the 7 to 8 range just to get some more experience? I mean I'm really not that interested in them but maybe for practice sake?
Also would you guys know any really good ebooks or videos on pickup. Their is a plethora of these books out there and I'm not looking to waste my time with the sub par ones. Im just kinda lost on what to read up on/ what strategies are working in this community.
Thanks again!!!

MeltedSnowman said:

thank you. Both for your input. I will start talking to more top tier girls and become more comfortable with them, and I will work on moving forward faster when i get the right signals.
on another note, is it worth it to hook up/ go farther with girls in the 7 to 8 range just to get some more experience? I mean I'm really not that interested in them but maybe for practice sake?
Also would you guys know any really good ebooks or videos on pickup. Their is a plethora of these books out there and I'm not looking to waste my time with the sub par ones. Im just kinda lost on what to read up on/ what strategies are working in this community.
Thanks again!!!

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