I'll try to keep this as concise as possible.

I started seeing this girl from work about a month ago. Before I started seeing her I would flirt, but she wasn't giving me much openings to work with. Eventually she started making it a lot easier for me.

Things went really well, we connected, there was chemistry. She eventually told me that she had just got out of a long term relationship with her first love and that's why she wasn't as receptive before.

Things progressed pretty quickly and we ended up sleeping together last week. It wasn't amazing but it was pretty good. Things seem fine, we texted the next day and still things seemed fine. I didn't text her for a couple days but when we did I could tell something was wrong.

She opened up to me and said she had been having a hard time dealing with her breakup and it was something she needed to deal with. With her ex it turned into a long distance off and on again relationship and I guess they decided it was for the best to end it. She thought she was ready to see other people, but I guess not.

If the guy was still around I would probably forget about things, but he's not and I am. I also really like her. I know she wants to keep things more platonic right now while she deals with her feelings. She was honest to say she doesn't know how she will feel in time.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Do you think it can be salvaged? I would like to be patient and see if things will turn around, but don't want to get burned if in the meantime someone else pops into the picture.

In my opinion the girl sounds like she has a decent amount of emotional baggage to work out first before you get into a relationship with her.

I know its hard but I would move on to someone else and maybe come back to her when she gets her emotions settled. Until then you might be in for a long ride.

Sorry I don't mean to stop on any toes but some of these women that have too many emotion problems are just not worth sticking around for...:nono:

But I wish you luck man!!

spartanfan said:

In my opinion the girl sounds like she has a decent amount of emotional baggage to work out first before you get into a relationship with her.

I know its hard but I would move on to someone else and maybe come back to her when she gets her emotions settled. Until then you might be in for a long ride.

Sorry I don't mean to stop on any toes but some of these women that have too many emotion problems are just not worth sticking around for...:nono:

But I wish you luck man!!

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I appreciate it man. It sucks because I have strong feelings of attraction for her. She is beautiful and has a good heart. I'm leaning towards letting my feelings cool down. I would still like to see her and maybe we can restart at sometime.

I think it is important to let go of the strong feelings I have because I don't want to get crushed if I do keep my feelings while seeing her in a more platonic sense and she meets someone else.

I also don't want to give up completely because I really think we could have something and I think she does too.