My exwife's brother is getting married next spring and has asked me to be in his wedding. I agreed. Since then I met a pretty solid chic I've been with for about 7months now. We are in a committed long term relationship. I've been there done that, I've pursued enough women in my life that I've got a good clue of what I have and don't want to ruin it.

I haven't told my gf that I am going to be in this wedding. I am sure it will be a schitt storm when I do. :yes: Her and I had the talk about not communicating with our exes etc. The reason for me being in this wedding is my ex-brother-inlaw always looked up to me like a brother and I promised him I'd do this a long time ago. His family always did a lot for me as well and I feel like this is a way of giving a final thanks and closing a chapter of our lives. It has nothing to do with my ex wife.

I just dropped the bomb on my gf the other day about I don't want to ever get married. That was a miniature war that lasted a day, but when the dust settled she respected my wishes. I told her if she didn't like it she could leave and would never be welcome again. She stayed.

I doubt she'll understand my wishes for wanting to be in this wedding. Women just don't relate well to those types of reasons. Has anybody crosses this bridge before? I know I need to set the frame right from the start when I bring this topic up. Got any ideas.

On a side note, she has a motorcycle that she financed for an exboyfriend that isn't paid off yet. Its supposed to be paid off this month. Whenever she accuses me of having relations with my ex I remind her of this. You know how that goes. Typical female won't admit it her own fallacies but deep down she knows.

Yeah I agree with Espi. You can tell her you are sorry it might hurt her feelings, but you're going because this guy was a friend in your life before you ever met her. Incidentally he happens to be your ex wife's brother.

Tell her you'd love for her to come, but if she is going to be sh!tty about it then you'd prefer she didnt. It's not a discussion, and it shouldnt be because it doesnt directly concern her.

You made a prior commitment, an you're sticking to it. It has nothing to do with the ex. Your current girl is welcome to join.

I would tell but just explain the real reason and shell respect that...