I'm crazy about her. She's a client of mine. After every one of our meetings I begin thinking of her and can't stop it! She's so down to earth, talking with her is so easy. I can be myself around her and I love it! Not everyone can make me feel this way. And she's so beautiful. It felt like a dream come true at first... on the phone (she called in about a quote), I loved her voice, her tone, everything about her on the phone. I fantasized about her as she spoke. And when we finally met for our meeting, she was everything I expected and more. We hit if off, she laughed, we had fun and barely took care of business! We made jokes about traveling with each other, I was to take her to my hometown and she was to take me to hers. But then I made a terrible mistake only a week after our first meeting. I became needy and rude, because she took over two days to reply to a message of mine. I know, it was stupid. And when I did hear from her, it was anything but good. She phoned me to say she wanted only a business relationship with me and nothing more. Then she brought up the dreaded boyfriend, a subject she never brought up before or in the numerous text messages we shared days leading to my stupid mistake. We met once more just yesterday. The meeting went well. As before I felt so good around her.And again, texted her frantically afterwards confessing my "love" for her. For instance, I told her how good she makes me feel and how I know she is for me. She again reminded me that we can only be business associates and maybe friends. She is in a committed relationship. I told her no one knows what the future holds. She wrote I had a point but it's how it is at this point. I don't know what to do. Help!! I have yet to tell her how much I like her in person. And how I want her to be the mother of my children. I know what you're think, it's only an infatuation and it will go away. But I don't want it to go away! I want to feel this way forever, and as of now, only she can make me feel this way. I just know she's for me. I knew it from the moment I first spoke with her on the phone. She's a special girl. Special to me. I just wish she felt the same way about me. I'm meeting with her again tomorrow and am thinking of telling her then.

LOL - Mother of his children. ... off the deep end I see.

Get a grip dude. :kick:
You must be "trollin". Drunk?


(hopefully my rudeness will bring you back to reality)

Please do it. And then write down an exact account of how it went.

Oh dear... I know how you feel mate, in fact most of us here knows how you feel. It's because of these situations that bring us here to SS.

What you need to do now is to back off her, you're being way too needy and it's scaring her. You're not involved in anyway yet and you told her you "love" already! No wonder she's running miles from you.

Tomorrow when you see her, don't tell her anything, don't put your heart out or it will get stamped on and you will get hurt. Act very normal when you see her from now, as if nothing has happened. Stop texting/calling her regularly outside your professional life.

I don't think anyone can help you get her now! my advice is to back off her and start reading the materials on here to learn how to deal with situations like this, maybe try hooking up with her in the future. Right now the more you chase, the further she will fly.

He's going to have to go ahead and continue professing his love for her.. then when that fails he'll either come back for real help or just disappear and be another of those 1 post dudes.....

Hey thanks guys, sometimes all you need is a little tough love from others who've been there done that to realize your mistake and snap you back into reality. I'm actually not new to this forum, just using a new name. Haven't been here for a while tho. But yea, I did come on too strong in the beginning and probably put up some red flags for her but thanks to the service I offer that she needs right now, I'll get to see her again and I'll be sure to play the game with more finesse next time But fo'sure, I'll use some of the advice shared in this thread to take it easy and just back off and be cool and while not indifferent, not confessing my love or even showing any kind of romantic interest like I've been doing. Fortunately I have a "scapegoat"... alcohol. The two times we've met we've done so over drinks to discuss business. So what I did yesterday (the day after I met up with her last) was I sent her an email explaining how silly alcohol makes act and the silly things it makes me say, citing the big tips I gave the waitress and valet person as an example and how I don't normally over tip. I also mentioned that I've started talking to my ex and that we may start dating again. Hopefully this puts her at calm and makes her think I'm not really interested in her (at least not as much as I said I was). The plan is to hopefully start over and get her to feel attraction for me again, which I think I was able to accomplish in our first meeting.. after all we were talking about traveling together (it seemed to have became a real interest after all the joking) It wasn't until after my neediness that she mentioned her bf (and never again traveling lol). So I'm guess my neediness had something to do with that :/ I'll be sure to keep every one following this thread posted! Thanks again for the two cents!!

lol what the **** did i just read.

The_Crack said:

lol what the **** did i just read.

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lol... hey im from Cali, the people here are ****ing strange lol