my wife would do little cute things like dog ear wedding rings in magizines and **** she was reading for me to see. then she had her screen saver as a woman in a white wedding gown. she knew even agreed with my whole "i don't want to get married" stance, she knew my terms when i met her.
but i knew i had a real decision to make when she got more and more jealous just of me doing regular things like going to get something to eat with a friend '(who happened to be a female) Like I had this friend in AA who was a female, and while, I mean, from a DJ standpoint, I know the girl had feelings for me, but from a backbreaker standpoint, i'm saying nothing was going to happen because ei wasn't interested but like if we went to a big book study, we would go and grab a bite to eat afterwards maybe, and i could just see it in her eyes, she wouldn't say antyhing, and she didn't so much thing I was going to cheat on her then, in fact i know she didn't, but she didn't like the insecurity of me just running around a single man doing **** like that. I can't say I blame her honestly.
Even though she never like, directly brought it up, i know the woman like hte back of my hand and it was only so long i could keep the current situation going as it was, without either cutting her lose or marrying heer, because someone was going to put a ring on her finger sooner or later. that's just how she (and most women) are. especially the catches.
and een then I struggled with it, about 5 months later, i just a normal ass day, getting my son (and myself) some clothes and walked by a jewelery store, just stopped by browsing, just BSing myself i suppose.. i suppose i instinctively started looking at wedding rings/bands.. once i saw the ring i knew I was ready to propose. even then i kept it for 3 weeks in a safe box debating it just to make sure.
From my experience, and this is just with people in general not women, or not in marriage, the more subtle they are, they more they don't want to lose the sale/lose you/lose whatever is at stake. I know she wanted to get married b ut she never would have came out and said do this or do that or i would have been gone the next day and more than getting married, she wanted me, but in the back of her mind she would have preferred to be married. She basically did her part enough to let me come her own conclusion. In fact it's quite brilliant if you think about it
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.
she knew how i felt about her, but she also knew i was independent enough to not need her. She knew exactly what conclusion I would come to in my own time. This is the game a woman plays when she likes you. lol and her friends would give her **** about me not marrying even though we had been living together for over a year at the time and she would tell them basically to mind their business. lol, eevery last one of them are single now.
A woman that has an agenda, or sees you as part of a plan, or sees you as disposable will be forceful. When I was 21 years old I was in a relationship with a 27 year old, and we liked each other. And she would keep just saying "look i'm not getting any younger" or "when are we going to get married" and blah blah blah "we can't shack up forever". A woman that loves you won't force you into anything you don't want to do. once this talk started coming up more and more the relationship started to die off utnil she cheated on me and i kicked her ass out lol.
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