Okay, here's the back story. Two of my friends dated for about 3 years (The girl is like a best friend, the guy is a good friend.) They broke up about 6 or 7 months ago. His girlfriend (the best friend) had a crush on me way back a few years ago when we were teenagers. I didn't pursue cause I knew he liked her and they seemed good for eachother.

Now that they're broken up, they hate each others' guts. I have always stayed neutral about their situation and still remain friends with the both of them.. Although I think her ex boyfriend is pissed at me cause I hangout with her more than him.. Even though he has a different girlfriend now and is always with her. (This dude is always down on himself, negative about everything, and he's just a bummer to be around nowadays.. he wasn't like that before.)

Fast forward to just recently.. And I get the vibe my friends ex, who is also one of my best friends wants to fvck me. She's kinda crazy but she's fun to hangout with. I don't know if I should do this for a variety of reasons.. Even though she's smokin hot.

1.) I don't want to date her short term or long term
-Although she's responsible for her own emotions in this situation too.

2.) I don't want her ex to be pissed at me. I'm not scared of him or anything.. I just don't see sex being worth the drama.
-He has a new girlfriend and has no right to be pissed about this.

3.) I don't want to fvck up our friendship.
-This might be a problem if she gets attached.. Or even if she doesn't.

4.) I wouldn't want any of our other friends finding out. (Lots of our guy friends are really into her, want an LTR with her, and act super AFC for her.. I don't want them being all pissy about this. They don't really understand the whole FWB thing.)
-Not my problem they didn't make a move on her.

5.) I've made out/gotten BJs from two of her good friends and had short relationships with them. One of them is still into me and I feel like this could open up a pandora's box of drama.
-Again, I'm not responsible for any one else's emotions

A few signs that give me the impression she wants my d1ck..

1.) Always asks me to hangout.. Most of the time she's alone at her place.
-We are friends and I've never made a move on her though.

2.) Kisses me on the cheek and hugs me when she's drunk (she's kinda insecure.)
-Whatever. Girls like to kiss.

3.) Was telling me about how she bought some new lingerie the other day from some store. (huge hint)
-This gives me the impression that she wants me to picture her in sexy undies in her bedroom.. Which I did.

4.) Always maintains eye contact in conversation.
-Big hint of attraction.

5.) Tells me how I'm really confident.
-Another big hint of attraction.

6.) Has always defended me when the other girls I dated that she's friends with call me out on being a d1ckhead lol.
-Maybe she thinks they should be more appreciative of me?

7.) Tells me I'm handsome and dress nice.
-Whatever. Lots of people tell me that. Guys and girls.

There's a million more little things I picked up on, but I can't remember them at the moment..

I'm completely cool with my emotions and know I won't get attached to her. It's a weird situation, cause I was never really sexually attracted to her until recently.. Always thought of her as that girl you always ask for advice from when dealing with b1tches. She always mentions that she doesn't want a relationship ever when she rants about relationships (all girls say that though).. But I think that might be a hint of womanspeak saying "Hey you can fvck me and we can still be friends.. It's no big deal."

Has anyone else been in this situation? I feel like I could go the individualistic route of satisfying my own desires, but at the same time I don't want to create any drama within my social circle and I sure as hell don't want to lose a best friend or weird her out over some casual sex.

Sounds like you are attracted to her giving you attention. Are you spinning other plates?

If yes, then you already know what the answer is: don't bother.

If no, you should weigh your options. See if all the drama is worth it.

Sofomore said:

Sounds like you are attracted to her giving you attention. Are you spinning other plates?

If yes, then you already know what the answer is: don't bother.

If no, you should weigh your options. See if all the drama is worth it.

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Well I haven't been dating much lately. Just been way to busy with my job and studying for a master's degree which is really draining me. I only get one day a week to really do any leisure activities.. So I guess that could be considered spinning plates haha.

Yeah I don't know about this. I would bang the sh1t out of this girl. She's hot.. But she's too much of a best friend if you know what I mean. I hate using that lame-ass excuse cause chicks do all the time... But now I see where they're coming from haha.