So I started talking to this girl around May of this year, and got her number. I thought I was in, but then I messed it up by texting her way too much, and so the attraction kind of faded and she stopped responding to my texts at around June.

So school started again in august, and after meeting her after school, we started talking again, and texting regularly, even giving her hugs and going out of my way to try and talk to her. Then it seemed like the interest faded again after she walked past me one day, and I always had to initiate conversation. So I said **** it and started taking my attention away from her, not talking to her basically, then one day she started talking to me again, asking me why I didn't say hi to her that day, and we flirted and hugged.

So after putting on some phone game and having pretty long conversations with her, I decided to ask her out, and got my dreams shattered as she said she was interested in someone else, so I didn't sweat, and said alright cool. My goal was to cut off contact, but my touchscreen ended up calling her by mistake, so I sent her a text explaining why she got called and never got a reply back, and now when she sees me she ignores me (I haven't tried to initiate contact since the rejection).

How do I go about recovering?

pj72394 said:

How do I go about recovering?

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You find a new girl.

Let me put this in clearer words from someone outside the situation:

You got a girl's number and things started off well. Then they went downhill. You realized that the downfall was from too much contact over the phone/text. After a break, you start talking again. You go back to talking too much and giving her too much attention, which you admit was your initial problem. Same thing happens, and she stops talking to you.

Then you go No Contact, and she starts talking to you again. You jump right back into the same old plan, which made her ignore you twice already.

Time to cut your losses and move on. Look back at your story and key in on what the issue was each time: "texting her way too much", "texting regularly", "pretty long phone conversations"...

Next time, keep the texting/phone calls to a minimum, and get out on a date.

I'm sorry, but I think it's a lost cause with her.

Initially, you might have had a chance to date her, but you waited too long. Even when you got back in touch, you were bordering on friendzone.

Finally, while I'm glad you had the b*lls to ask her out, it was too late. She was interested in someone else. Then, she got uncomfortable still being friends with you while it's clear that you want her. I know you dialed her by accident and meant well by trying to explain yourself by texting her. But that just made her MORE uncomfortable. While you meant no harm, she read it as a guy (she's not interested in) getting too clingly.

Don't call or text her anymore. If you run into her in person, you can say hi, but keep it to an absolute minimum. Go after other girls.

Alright thanks, gonna pursue some new avenues and never get a touchphone again lol.

she is probably a sunshine girl: huge flirt, but never actually commits
gotta watch out for them