I've past the stage of women giving me wrong or fake phone numbers but this is also an interesting topic that I always thought about bringing up. I'm sure most men on here could relate to having received at least one, two or slightly more wrong numbers during their early college years from some women whom they approached. My question therefore is: why would a woman not simply be more direct with a man by telling him "Sorry but I'm not interested," or perhaps even lying that she has a boyfriend instead of having to either memorize or make up a fake number to give out? I remember a very long time ago during those days, I used to talk to some of these women and before they give out a wrong number they would stop to think/recollect exactly what wrong number they want to give out. Some of them would actually be squinting in deep thought/concentration in the process.


I had the opportunity to come across some of them a bit later on in life (those who attended the same college as me) and from the look in some of their eyes I sensed some regret...as if they would have liked to engage me in conversation. But human pride and ego being what it is, that rarely ever happened.

I've only ever had one fake number, and it was a really bizarre situation. I was at a local pub for some friend's birthday. The people there were mostly middle aged, while our group are late 20s to late 30s. The place has a very cute bartender who's about early 20s. Keep in mind that we don't do tips down here, so she wasn't fishing for tips. I'm a sharp dresser and on that night, I stood out from the crowd. She opened me asking about my hat, then started flirting with me while I was more or less laid back. She asked me all kinds of questions, and eventually we got to the point where she said she'd give me her number so we could go to some music gig. She went away to write it down on a piece of paper and I remember reading the digits out loud to her so I could be sure of her handwriting. The next day (or two days later) I called but there was no answer, so I texted her about the gig, with some ****y joke about my hat that we shared. A guy responded and told me I got the wrong number. He was pretty friendly too and even wished me a good day, so obviously not her boyfriend or even knows her. The whole thing didn't really bother me, but I was quite curious to know why she would go through all that to flirt with me and give me her number (I didn't even ask directly) only to give me a fake one. My wingman and a good, observant female friend were there to witness it and couldn't figure out why. Weirdest failed pickup I've had!

Women in general tend to be indirect, subtle, & non-confrontational. Their personalities tend to gravitate towards the nurturer/supporter side of the spectrum. A personality like this won't want to ruffle feathers and create a tense scenario where she may take the brunt of it.

There are a lot of puss bag guys who can't seem to handle simple rejection and when a girl tells them no they tend to get angry. So don't expect them to be direct with you, they've learned what happens when they are and prefer not to create that scenario again.

The more experiences you have with women the more you will understand this. I used to fault them for their shortcomings, but its their nature. I can't expect someone to be something they aren't. After you get good enough with women, you will know if their interest is legit or not before you even walk away. They give off a million subtle signs, learn to read them.

Afterall, I like women for being women, I don't want a woman who acts like a man(direct). So you gotta be willing to take the good with the bad.

Dear Howie Stern,
A brilliant post,says it all.

I dont get fake numbers anymore because I have the woman call my phone when we are exchanging numbers.