Hello,
I'm a long time lurker. This forum has helped me in so many ways. I don't have much to contribute. I just want to share an observation or two about women in this post.
My female neighbor got divorced and the guy who's had a thing for her for 12 years kind of went into rescue mode and he pretty much gave up everything, including a job with NASA to be with her and pay half her rent and fix up her house so she can sell it. Anyway, the whole rescue thing has been addressed a lot here. But, there is another aspect I would like to discuss.
My neighbor is a women that grew up without a mother and needs lot's of male attention. She lost her mother, only had her father. So getting male attention was kind of a child survival instinct. She acts out this same behavior to this day.
What is really interesting is that when the couple shows public displays of affection in front of the the 2 young girls, the girls immediately try to stop the couple.
At first I thought it was loyalty for their father, but that's not it at all. Every time the girls broke up the affection display, they got the attention of the boyfriend. They successfully keep redirecting the boyfriend's attention from their mom to them.
It's not about loyalty to their father, it's about the girls getting more attention from the boyfriend than the mother gets. They're competing with the mom. And these 2 girls haven't even hit puberty yet. This behavior isn't that much different from adult women in competition for a man.
My conclusions:
1) Most women aren't that much different from little girls. Essentially, the behavior that governs adult women, is pretty much identical to how they behaved as a little girl. However, adult women are much better at masking their thoughts and attentions than little girls.
2) Adult women's behavior definitely reflects their childhood. In this case, the 2 girls are taking after their mother's need for lot's of male attention at a very early age. And in some ways, being able to get the attention of the live-in boyfriend after a divorce is an childhood instinctive survival technique.
3) The need for attention is driving factor in male-female relationships. There are so many posts here on how to get control of that need.
OK, that's all I have to say. I'm going back to lurking now. Keep up the good posts!
I'm a long time lurker. This forum has helped me in so many ways. I don't have much to contribute. I just want to share an observation or two about women in this post.
My female neighbor got divorced and the guy who's had a thing for her for 12 years kind of went into rescue mode and he pretty much gave up everything, including a job with NASA to be with her and pay half her rent and fix up her house so she can sell it. Anyway, the whole rescue thing has been addressed a lot here. But, there is another aspect I would like to discuss.
My neighbor is a women that grew up without a mother and needs lot's of male attention. She lost her mother, only had her father. So getting male attention was kind of a child survival instinct. She acts out this same behavior to this day.
What is really interesting is that when the couple shows public displays of affection in front of the the 2 young girls, the girls immediately try to stop the couple.
At first I thought it was loyalty for their father, but that's not it at all. Every time the girls broke up the affection display, they got the attention of the boyfriend. They successfully keep redirecting the boyfriend's attention from their mom to them.
It's not about loyalty to their father, it's about the girls getting more attention from the boyfriend than the mother gets. They're competing with the mom. And these 2 girls haven't even hit puberty yet. This behavior isn't that much different from adult women in competition for a man.
My conclusions:
1) Most women aren't that much different from little girls. Essentially, the behavior that governs adult women, is pretty much identical to how they behaved as a little girl. However, adult women are much better at masking their thoughts and attentions than little girls.
2) Adult women's behavior definitely reflects their childhood. In this case, the 2 girls are taking after their mother's need for lot's of male attention at a very early age. And in some ways, being able to get the attention of the live-in boyfriend after a divorce is an childhood instinctive survival technique.
3) The need for attention is driving factor in male-female relationships. There are so many posts here on how to get control of that need.
OK, that's all I have to say. I'm going back to lurking now. Keep up the good posts!
