So after this girl from work flaked on me saturday and didn't even contact me to "reschedule" until several hours after we were supposed to meet, I was pretty mad but I let it go. I haven't contacted her at all since then and saw her for the first time today and I did my best to play it cool. When I first got there I didn't even aknowledge her when I first saw her and just kept talking to the guy I was talking to and it felt awkward as all hell. A couple hours later I ran into her in my dept and she kind of mouthed hi to me so I walked up to her and kind of lightly bumped her and said, there you are I guess I can cancel the amber alert now to which I got a blank look so I explained that an amber alert is for missing children to help find them. My quip seemed to get her on her heals and she said she wasn't missing and with some terrible timing a few seconds later she says maybe I am on that list. I was busy and walked away and went on to talk to another girl, a married girl but I have fun with her none the less. I few mins later we cross paths again and she gives me a hand signal to go by and I said oh no u go right ahead with some sarcasm but a smile too kind of being a gentlman but a prick at the same time. Too bad she wasn't watching but I flirted with some other girls from work to help my bruised ego and that helped alot.

At this point I have no idea what her IL is or if she was ever interested but I thought I had a smoking gun after I stepped up the flirting or I wouldn't have tried to mess with her in the first place, and she is smoking hot. I'm planning on trying to play this cool like it doens't bother me and being cordial but sarcastic and waiting to see if she make any kind of move but some ppl on here suggest waiting a while and trying again. What do u think, do nothing unless she act more contrite and comes to me or wait a while and try again?

Assess where you two stand first. If you see that her interest level is low, drop her, as she already flaked on you once. And you don't need to set up another date too see her interest level.


If its high, game as usual.


Oh and just a little word of advice, be really really really careful about dating your coworkers. Its just not a good idea.


Oh, and I forgot to add: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=183686

I would think acting sarcastic, would not really come off as playing it cool. Just my opinion though. I had a work crush once that seemed to have promise but sort of fizzled, partly b/c of my hesitation to date someone I work with, basically this girl would talk to me all the time at work, text me outside of work and we even hung out a couple times, then it just stopped. I didn't understand it, but I just kept going on about my business, at first it was an act, then I truly stopped caring. I still have small talk with her every now and then, but it's not the same, but I'm still nice, her loss. Not sure if she'll come back around but i'm not gonna dwell on it, pretty sure she's dating someone who used to work with us, and not a single f*ck is given b/c from what I remember, the dude ain't all that interesting.

I would say you are better off truly not giving a crap and just being nice and polite and going about your day like she's not even a second thought. She would prob sense the sarcasm as you being hurt or whatever from her flaking. If she comes back and you still want to move forward seize it.

Again, no expert, just my $.02 from some personal experience.

Diaforetikos said:

Assess where you two stand first. If you see that her interest level is low, drop her, as she already flaked on you once. And you don't need to set up another date too see her interest level.


Oh, and I forgot to add: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=183686

Click to expand...

Things r fairly awkward between us right now so how I am going to access her interest? I thought she was fairly interested before cuz she has always made good eye contact and smiled, she touched me one day for no reason when I wasn't looking and the smoking gun was after I stepped up the flirting a few days later she says hey look at my legs jiggle they're fat. I took her last comment as hey look at me and y haven't u asked me out so a few days later I did. Hence my confusion when she flaked.

aron77 said:

Things r fairly awkward between us right now so how I am going to access her interest? I thought she was fairly interested before cuz she has always made good eye contact and smiled, she touched me one day for no reason when I wasn't looking and the smoking gun was after I stepped up the flirting a few days later she says hey look at my legs jiggle they're fat. I took her last comment as hey look at me and y haven't u asked me out so a few days later I did. Hence my confusion when she flaked.

Click to expand...

Eye contact, smiling and touching are like everyday things for me. Those don't really sound like buying signals at all. But I'm not there, and you are. So you can feel it out better.

How did you ask her out? Was it a casual thing like "Hey, I wanna go to happy hour Thursday. You should come with me."

Or was it a big "DATE" situation like, "I want to take you out to dinner."

I ask because the bigger you make it, the more likely a girl is to flake. No one in our age group likes the pressure of a "DATE"

why you afraid to ask her what happened? whatever BS answer she gives to you, just accept it and let that be the end of it. You can flirt with her and stuff as you wish, but don't ask her out again. If anything let her ask you out.