Hey guys,

I've posted on her maybe once, but do frequent and lurk. I feel I've come a long way, and am working on myself and trying to improve myself daily. I am attempting to spin plates and just meet and talk to women, not pressuring myself to always go for the close, basically just get comfortable with talking to anyone. My question regards kino as the title says.

I am not an overly touchy feely person or super affectionate naturally. I can be with someone i've known but it takes time. I even shy away from affection with my own mother. Question is, how do I overcome this? Answer seems simple, but truth is, I feel awkward and creepy trying to randomly subtly touch someone without expressed interest or consent.

Any suggestions?

Start off with the very "non-obvious" kino. Brush up against her when you are walking, hand graze hers as it moves across the table, even taking some lint off her shirt.

Kino isn't meant to be anything sexual or overly physical. You just don't want to give off the vibe that you are so uncomfortable that you make sure to never make any contact with her. Any touching, as long as it feels natural, or at least not forced, will do the trick.

PDubb and godsgift got it right.

I'll just add that if you wanna get comfortable quickest, work kino with everyone you come in contact with. I touch people's shoulders whenever I bump into someone. I will gently brush a women's back to guide them away from me if I need to get through. Small steps.

I worked from small touching, to grabbing a women's hip, old and young, and guiding them away from me as to not bump into them. They don't mind, because I'm not being creepy and rude about it, and since they weren't paying attention, they realize I was just being cautious.

You'll get it down. Just escalate. You won't be comfortable, but to get better, you gotta push through your comfort zone and expand it.


YOUR A MAN!! Touching someone is not a problem for you. That will be the least of your worries once you start flirting and dating women. And you'll be glad you conquered your kino early, because you'll see how much it helps with attracting women.


GOOOOOOOOOD Luck!!

Thank You Gentlemen, will most definetly try to keep this in mind.

Yeah man really get your balls out and force yourself to do it a couple of times. You'll have some good and some awkward moments and after some time you know what to do.

Think of a french guy, how they always gesticulate with their hands when they're talking. That'll get you started.