Lets hear your Stories of REJECTION! + my story of rejection

[hydroponically inclined]

A great idea came to me when I was working today... instead of posting all of our successes. We can post our stories of being rejected! That way, we can analyize what went wrong and how to roll with the blows if any of us encounter such a situation and hopefully make a recovery.

Like it would be good to hear the plunders that we encounter so other people can learn from your experience on the bad things.


OK, so here's my story:

It was a Saturday night, about 11:30 or so. Parents are out of town, the grandma is in her room sleeping, the cousin is in her room on the 'net, and the sister is in her room on the 'net also. I rolled up a decent .7 or .8 joint, and smoked it in the backyard. When I'm done, I go to the street to throw out the filter in the sewer, and my 17 or 18 year old neighbor (who is pretty good looking) is sitting on the curb with her bf waiting for his souped up car to arrive (he had a something painted onto it) so they could go watch racing (Street Racing). I chat the two of them up for a good 30 or so minutes while I'm stoned. Anyways, when the car finally comes, the guy who brought the car, brought around 5 other cars along, some souped, some not. And these two hot chicks are walking down the street, looked like they had just came from a party or something, cuz they were decked out. One chick looked around 13-15, not sure. The other one I swear could have been her mother, but she could have been around 17-25 yrs old, w/ long brunette hair. Anyways, the cars left, and the two chicks are almost out of sight, so I being all blazed and not controlling myself, took out my parents Lexus 4x4 http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif and raced down to the chicks, and tried to pick em up! hahahaha. I asked them if they needed a ride to their house(not knowing wtf to say!), they were polite about it and stuff, but nevertheless, I got shafted. And floored the car back home. I think I should have gone with my neighbors to watch racing.

Lets hear some of YOUR stories of rejection! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

[face]

this one chick whose # i got last year sometime.... I called her up the next day and she pretended not to know me.... I only talked to her for like 2 hours. Needless to say I was pissed.

-Face

[syncmaster]

Which story of rejection do you want ? http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif. We all have too many stories to share. Otherwise we wouldn't be here. Am I not correct?

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Syncmaster signing out.
a.k.a ... Adam

[hydroponically inclined]

Originally posted by syncmaster:
Which story of rejection do you want ? http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif. We all have too many stories to share. Otherwise we wouldn't be here. Am I not correct?



Give us your worst one. It should be a straightforward shaft though.

[Juan_Man]

My worst rejections occurred on the dance floor. I would go up and try to dance with a girl, she would look around and look at me like I was crazy. After about 30 seconds, she would walk away. I hate going to parties!!!

[Desperateforhelp]

Ok here's my story of rejection.

I had just been clinically depressed for 3 years. Suddenly all of my life seemed to open up and I started to get a sort of good feeling. Next thing I know it one of the hottest girls in class starts flirting with me. This sort of stuff never happeend to me I mean never.

Anyways the girl went on with words like "hotty", "pretty boy" and all of that normal average stuff. But then she passed a point when she said "I wanna have your baby". After all of that hot talk I was like oh yea I am gonna get my first date. To my surprise when I asked "hey can I get your number" she totally rejected me. This afterall was the most popular and one of the hottest girls in my class. After getting over my depression I seemed to dive right deep into it again http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/frown.gif.

Hope this experience doesn't happen to anyone http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/frown.gif.

[DonJoey]

Worst one that stuck was a girl i used to work with (serial c0ck teaser now I know) would sit on my lap, flirt with me, call me all the time, me reading the signs think "I'll ask her out". When I do, she tells me she's booked. (what da?!?!)
I back off, she does the above again, I fall inlove, ask her out - "She's booked till Nov." (its March)
I get shytty and back off. Months go by, I dont speak to her, she does the same stuff again. I say "Can I make an appointment with you since you're always booked" being sarcastic. She says yes, but only as friends. But she starts messing around with me sexually so I take the bait like a chump again and ask her out on a real date. She tells me no, she's inlove with another guy she just met.
That series of rejections really killed me emotionally - one as I shouldnt have gone back for more, another that I was confused to what amount of interest level must a woman show to go out with me and secondly as I felt like a reall idiot.
Now I know better (thanx to you guys), I dont make the same mistakes again. I take a more dominant role rather than let the woman play the cards and deal me the hand.

[nautica34342]

heres my story me and my friend were at a club we found these girls and danced with them for 3 hours!! so we thought we were set then right at the end of like the 40th song they were like bye and left we were to stunned to say anything

[deuce20]

Read the topic titled "pursue ex" by the deuce. If any of you are participating in this post, I think it would be a good idea. I don't know how to link it, otherwise I would. There are many examples of what you are looking for, trust me.
the deuce

[Shadow]

I'd always not really been a social person my whole life, rejected by every girl I'd ever liked.

Here I was 18 years old attending a church youth group when a girl I'd never even seen before approached me and introduced herself. The moment I saw her my heart jumped. She was a cute little brunette and she'd come up to TALK TO ME!! That was when we started talking. Soon after that she was sitting next to me in youth group and staying after just to talk to me. It was like my whole life I'd been living in a dark tunnel and finally I could see the light at the end of the tunnel! I thought for sure she liked me. My prom was coming up so I thought what a great idea for a date with her. Me being shy however, I was too intimidated to ask her for her number. So when they were passing out a sign up sheet for a church event where you have to put your phone # down I saw her name on the list and memorized her phone # [DONT EVER DO THIS]. When I called her she was like "How'd you get my phone number?" and I made up some BS about a church phone directory. She seemed to buy it and I would call her up and stay on the phone with her for long periods of time [yes I know thats a BIG NO NO.....now]. She even said I could call back to talk to her anytime. I finally asked her to my prom and she initially said yes! But then I gave her a chance to back out later saying "are you sure its ok?" [DONT DO THIS!!] and she backed out, she'd also tried to feed me the line "I don't know if my family has something planned for then".

She told me she didn't like me, that she liked this other guy. She told me she couldnt tell me the reason she didn't like me cause she didn't want to hurt my feelings. [It was probably you're too ugly or something]

SLAM!!! Lights out.......back into the darkness.

Basically she was a tease who would flirt with all the guys[I wasnt the only one who was crushed by her] and would mooch off of anyone who could provide her with status, or that she could get something out of. She also ended up accusing me of stalking her cause of the phone number thing, and being obsessed with her. She shouldn't flatter herself, I couldn't possibly be more obsessed with her than she is.

Needless to say I no longer believe there is a God.

God my life sucks...........

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It's not who's wrong or right, but who's stronger.

[maranathaman]

Originally posted by hydroponically inclined:
A great idea came to me when I was working today... instead of posting all of our successes. We can post our stories of being rejected! That way, we can analyize what went wrong and how to roll with the blows if any of us encounter such a situation and hopefully make a recovery.

Like it would be good to hear the plunders that we encounter so other people can learn from your experience on the bad things.


OK, so here's my story:

It was a Saturday night, about 11:30 or so. Parents are out of town, the grandma is in her room sleeping, the cousin is in her room on the 'net, and the sister is in her room on the 'net also. I rolled up a decent .7 or .8 joint, and smoked it in the backyard. When I'm done, I go to the street to throw out the filter in the sewer, and my 17 or 18 year old neighbor (who is pretty good looking) is sitting on the curb with her bf waiting for his souped up car to arrive (he had a something painted onto it) so they could go watch racing (Street Racing). I chat the two of them up for a good 30 or so minutes while I'm stoned. Anyways, when the car finally comes, the guy who brought the car, brought around 5 other cars along, some souped, some not. And these two hot chicks are walking down the street, looked like they had just came from a party or something, cuz they were decked out. One chick looked around 13-15, not sure. The other one I swear could have been her mother, but she could have been around 17-25 yrs old, w/ long brunette hair. Anyways, the cars left, and the two chicks are almost out of sight, so I being all blazed and not controlling myself, took out my parents Lexus 4x4 http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif and raced down to the chicks, and tried to pick em up! hahahaha. I asked them if they needed a ride to their house(not knowing wtf to say!), they were polite about it and stuff, but nevertheless, I got shafted. And floored the car back home. I think I should have gone with my neighbors to watch racing.

Lets hear some of YOUR stories of rejection! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

I don't know where YOU live, but here in Cali, most gurrlz won't get into a stranger's car! Do they do that where YOU live? Maybe if you had chatted them up first before driving up to them and asking them to get in, you might have had a better chance.



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"You miss 100% of the shots you never take"
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[Rico]

He was high...you can't blame him for that one. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Well one my worst rejections happened when I went to spend the weekend with this girl I'd met at a camp. We really hit it off during the camp, and were really close. We were holding hands, flirting, and having a lot of fun crushing on each other. It happened when I was learning how to ski and she and her friend invited me to ski with them. It was magic from then to the end of the camp. So...we'd planned that I'd visit her house in Baltimore for a long weekend because my highschool (I went to an all male boarding school by the way was out for a few days).

The whole time we were at camp she was the one really digging me and I was just being cool and not really trying to commit to anything because there were a lot of other girls at this camp too, but Lisa and I just hit it off. Well we would call each other and instant message (that was the thing for me back then...I hate IM now...oh well). Well during one IM conversation with her, I joked with her about her boy situation and teased her about not having a boyfriend since she had all these guys going after her. She came right out and said, the reason I don't is because I'm waiting on you to get here. That's exactly what I wanted to hear being that I'm this lonely, undersexed kid in all male boarding school, but I played it low key. I said, let's not rush things and let it happen naturally if it's going to happen at all.

Well anyway...I get to her house and right from the get go, she's acting weird. I'd already reneged in my mind about that letting it happen naturally crap, because I saw my opportunity to have a girlfriend I otherwise wouldn't have. However she met some guy during the weeks before my visit and they hit it off. She never came right out and told me this though. I had to put the pieces together. Anyway, she claimed that she really liked me and that she didn't want a boyfriend right now, but if she did I'd definitely be the one. I also broke every Don Juan rule in the book, but I was still very much an amateur in those days. This is actually one of the episodes that led me to find this forum my junior year in highschool. One piece that I forgot to mention is that she was going through some abuse shyt with her father then too and I really helped her through it. As a Don Juan move that probably wasn't a good thing, but I was being a true friend. Also when I got to her house I absolutely worshipped this girl...Another BIG mistake.

Anyway I left her house feeling bitter and she viewing me as a nice guy wimp probably. But she let me leave with that lie of how I was the guy she liked most and having nothing else to hold on to, I held on to that. Well..back to phone calls and IM where we had a huge falling out because she told me she was dating this guy. I let into her about how she lied and she let into me about how she lost all the respect she once had for me. We both completely lost it with each other. I feel really horrible recalling all of this actually because she and I, if nothing else, were great friends. Anyway, I haven't talked to her in over 2 years. I wish I knew I how to find her...

We were young. We both had a lot of stuff going on in our lives that caused us to act the way we did, and we lost something beautiful...the genuine care that we shared with each other. I was hurt badly and still am to this day, but I do take responsibility for the way I handled myself...which wasn't like a Don Juan with any self respect at all...Oh well!!!

[hydroponically inclined]

Originally posted by maranathaman:
I don't know where YOU live, but here in Cali, most gurrlz won't get into a stranger's car! Do they do that where YOU live? Maybe if you had chatted them up first before driving up to them and asking them to get in, you might have had a better chance.



LOL, I know! hehe, I was blazed out of my mind though (because I don't smoke too often). Oh well, heh, at least I tried!

[bondjamesbond]

Not too long before I met my wife I had stopped in a Ponderosa to get a steak and there was this gorgeous creature of a hostess working there. I gave her a big smile and hello and went and found a seat. She was one of those chicks that come around and refill your coffee so I knew I'd be getting a visit. When she stopped by I started chatting with her and really seemed to be hitting it off well. I decided to go back a few days later hoping she'd be there. She was, and was taking a break, sitting by herself, no less! It was a golden opportunity, so, not being shy, I grabbed my tray and walked over to her booth. "Hi" I says, "Mind if I join you?" She said, "If you don't mind, I'd much rather be left alone."........I was a little taken aback so I went off and ate my dinner. When I finished, I noticed she was still sitting alone so I figured I'd try again. I walked over and just asked her if she had been working there long. She looked up real annoyed and said "You're kind of a pain, I'll be glad when you leave!"
"Damn!" I said, "I guess that rules out that blow*** I was hoping I'd get!"
I never went back...........

[shyguy]

well i guess ill give soem input. alright i was taking this hottie out really good looking for a little while. we set another date i call her to see if she is ready and all and she is at a birthday party and doesnt want to leave. then again she invites me to her college and i say ok then she is like no. what the f. messed up but i dont need her i can do better
shyguy

[hydroponically inclined]

Originally posted by bondjamesbond:
Not too long before I met my wife I had stopped in a Ponderosa to get a steak and there was this gorgeous creature of a hostess working there. I gave her a big smile and hello and went and found a seat. She was one of those chicks that come around and refill your coffee so I knew I'd be getting a visit. When she stopped by I started chatting with her and really seemed to be hitting it off well. I decided to go back a few days later hoping she'd be there. She was, and was taking a break, sitting by herself, no less! It was a golden opportunity, so, not being shy, I grabbed my tray and walked over to her booth. "Hi" I says, "Mind if I join you?" She said, "If you don't mind, I'd much rather be left alone."........I was a little taken aback so I went off and ate my dinner. When I finished, I noticed she was still sitting alone so I figured I'd try again. I walked over and just asked her if she had been working there long. She looked up real annoyed and said "You're kind of a pain, I'll be glad when you leave!"
"Damn!" I said, "I guess that rules out that blow*** I was hoping I'd get!"
I never went back...........

LOL, holy fukk eh? That is a mad shaft! heh. That's a good story though! She must have been having a bad day or something. Maybe PMS? or MAYBE, you didn't leave a big enough tip for her! hehe. I tip too big. Esp at restaurants. Once I was out with friends at a Casey's Restaurant and we got a babe of a waitress, fukk, lol, I left a decent tip in there lol, never saw her again! heh.

[Dancer]

Yo guys, reading this is painful. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Anyway, it's the funniest thing. I've had almost all of those things happen to me, one way or another, except for getting blazed. Good Lord that was hilarious.

In any event, my special one is this:
I met a chik at a Church youth dance and she seemed to dig me a whole lot.. we close-danced, b&g, the whole bit despite the lame atmosphere. I was thinking, LAWD I is the pimp, because I can get a woman to do this with me at a CHURCH dance! it was funny.

Anyway, this girl has a really distinctive voice. I called her several times and she waxed passing tired of me, so one time when I called her house, she answered:
"hello is Rachel there?"
"No, she's not here. Goodbye"--
and I could swear that it actually was Rachel who answered the phone. I never called her after that, I was too embarrassed. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Anyway, I have many more stories than that, but that's the one that comes to mind at this moment. Happy D-Jing.
*S

[Neophyte]

Haha this is a funny thread here. By the way, a nice idea.

(At least it's funny after some time and not on the moment itself)

Well in my "desperate" days a long time ago, there was this stupid girl who didn't even acknowledged my existence when trying to get a conversation. She saw me, didn't even uttered one word. (was she deaf?? haha)
...and I kept on standing there without knowing what to do. I just kept on standing next to her. Man this was a big mistake!

Haha, it's really funny now. Now I laugh at a rejection. Just think : "next", smile and walk away.

Cya,
Neo

[hydroponically inclined]

Can we please get some more stories here? http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/smile.gif

[Rico]

This rejection story happened to me this past year at college.

Okay so I get this hot girl and her friend to come back to my room to drink after a big ball at our college. Anyway the three of us are drinking and telling stories, and I'm playing a video game (Super Mario Brothers - A Classic) I invite the hot girl to play Luigi. So she and I are playing and teasing each other until we build up this thing about wanting to wrestle!! Of course I'm all for that! There was the little problem of her friend, but eventually she realized where this all was heading and decided to leave (plus all my beer was gone...unfortunately). Anyway me and this girl start wrestling. Oh my she was so hot...her body was damn near perfect! Of course it's very sexual and I move in for the kiss. We start kissing, and at this point I can damn near see the promised land! The lieutenant was almost at salute when she stops with this quizzical look on her face. WTF! The lieutenant orders the eager troops to be at ease. And then she drops the bomb-----I've got a boyfriend. So what I say in soo many words, but she goes on about how it just wouldn't be right. Looks like the promised land was just another mirage! I did get to spoon with her, feel her body and kiss her neck for awhile though....but then she sent in reinforcements!!! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

[Taz]

Hahaha, nice thread. This is my first rejection story:

I was 15, me and some friends were hanging out the mall. We were in the arcade, and I see this cute chick. My friend tells me to go get her number. Little did I know that there was more to it than just "getting the number."

So I go up to her and just kinda stand there for awhile, she was busy playing air hockey. When she looked up, I just said,
"Um.. do you think I could get your number?"

She replied with "I don't just give my number out to people." I was crushed and confused, but it was a great learning experience. I realized that some sort of introduction would need to be incorporated into my gameplan.

[PortugueseMeatball]

OK, here's mine:

I see a girl in my college that I really like; she's not a 10 physically, but she has a way to carry herself and (latter I found out) a very interesting character. I wait some 4 months for the right opportunity to get in contact with her (BIG mistake... but then again, I didn't know anything, not even this Forum!).

I get the chance to meet her and talk to her through one of her lady friends (which I had my eye on, also). Poor Meatball is wrapped around her little finger! I talk this over with a friend and I confide with him that I'll ask her to be my girlfriend until a pre-defined time --- go or bust. I was expecting a "no", I admit... I was just curious to see the outcome.

The day has arrived. I was really nervous! I even broke some lab material and make an utter fool of myself. But I didn't back up on my decision --- imminent disaster!

I'm walking out of college with her to the bus and at a traffic lights stop I pop the question. She smiles, doesn't say anything for a few seconds, and then confesses that she would "be fooling herself and me if agreed to that". And gave me the LJBF talk. In summary, "The Treatment", first class.

Of course, things didn't return to normal as she proposed! We gradually went our separate ways. Now we're both out of college, and I get no news from her except forwarded lame jokes by email. Of course, now I blocked her email; if she wants to talk, she'll have to contact me directly (as if!).

Oh, last time we actually exchanged messages (SMS) she said that "we should make arrangements to have lunch together". A few weeks later I ask her (by SMS again) for lunch... nothing much, just to know how she's doing... a friendly talk, that's all. The b!tch says that "her boss is on top of her" (her words!) and she's too busy. Well, needless to say I stopped waiting for her boss to get off her http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif Maybe I should have a talk with her boss http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

Her other friend? Same deal. I hate being around her, but I treat her like she's a good friend. When we're with other people, it's very common that I ask a question and it's as if I didn't say anything --- she just turns to someone else to ask something or talk about anything else. I've had it with her. Last time we met she said she was "under the impression that I was angry at her". I said no, everything is fine. Why I play this games? She has a new lady friend that I have my eye on http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif and I'm planning to put my DJ lessons at work, once I get back from vacations.

Oh well... I think this is enough for now.

[Don the Legend]

This isn't my worst. But it still sucked. I made many DJ mistakes on this one.

Anyway, I was looking at furniture to get for my new apartment. Lo and behold there is a girl who was like a 9 or 10. She was blonde, a great body, great personality, etc.... I chatted her up for a while and asked her if she would like to go out. She says she has a boyfriend http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/frown.gif, blah, blah, blah. And then gives me the old thanks for giving me a self-esteem boost smile and I said thanks and goodbye.

Then it gets better. 2-3 weeks later I was thinking that I should have given her my business card in case she broke up with her boyfriend in the meantime and that she might have made a mistake in not hearing me right http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif.

So, I go back to see her again, and gave her a similiar pickup, thinking I could change her mind http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/wink.gif and then gave her my card. Same response and no phone call. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/frown.gif

How pathetic!! I now know what not to do.

Legend

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"I have always believed that when a man gets it into his head to do something, and when he exclusively occupies himself in that design, he must succeed, whatever the difficulties. That man will become Grand Vizier or Pope"..... Casanova

"You are what you are, You are where you are, by what goes into your mind, you can change what you are, you can change where you are by changing what goes into your mind" ....Zig Ziglar

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[ambidexter]

this is the story that got me here...i started at girlproblems.com, and wasn't getting much good advice..then syncmaster answered a couple of posts, and i ended up here. Anyway, thank god!

I met her at the neighbors party, we rapped for several hours, i got her number, actually on one of her bank deposit slips! which i guess implies high interest. i called her a couple days later and over the course of the next 6 weeks we had a helluva good time, and i made EVERY MISTAKE I COULD HAVE, so naturally she ended up leaving. Her last boyfriend had been a total ass and she'd been with him for 2 years, so i was as nice as i could be, catering to her needs, doing everything she wanted to, hanging out every day, always making time for her. i actually thought this stuff was the way to win a chick over at the time, a way to ensure she'd stick around, when the whole time she just viewed me as weaker and weaker by the day.

i fell for her really hard, really fast, and she knew it. She knew she had me no matter what she did, knew She was in control of the situation, knew i would be a wreck if she left. I stopped asserting myself, got whipped in a hurry, and..Suprise! suddenly she was no longer attracted to me. It really killed me, and i let it show, became a desperate wreck and got her back for a couple weeks, only to have her leave again.

Anyway, long story short...she was amazing, she seriously dug me, and i managed to make every mistake i could have..got nobody to blame for losing that one but myself. It's almost a good story of rejection, though, because if it hadn't happened, i wouldn't have ended up here, and i'd have just kept blowing it indefinitely, always wondering why they left when i'd been so Nice to them, done everything for them...

[Dee-Zy]

Oooh!!!

WOOOOOOOOOO!
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

DZ is Rollin On the Floor Laughin his F#ckin Ass Off

This is too much.

This was a great Idea.
Tons of ideas for futur crash and burn.

ROFLFAO

I'm postin' my stories soon, I haven't read them all yet, but I have some pretty nasty ones too!

http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

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[chick magic]

ok, here's my story. i was at a party chatting up a chick (8ish). the mood was right and we were about to get down to the business. then i saw 2 of her friends (7ish) standing nearby and decided to propose to make out with them all! they made faces and pushed me to the floor and one of them actually sat on me for a few seconds (the b**ch!!). i was too drunk to fight back http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/frown.gif

[SWED]

I started getting really good signals from a girl at work so i eventually (maybe too late?) called her up and asked her if i could take her out to dinner sometime. She tells me she doesn't know and that we would have to talk about it. This blew my mind, considering it seemed to be pretty obvious to everyone that she was interested in me. I still have to assume she wasn't when I didn't talk to her for weeks afterwards.

Eventually I got a call from her sayin she was sick and thats why we hadn't talked. Whatever, a few months later she invites me to come over to her friends house that shes watching while they're out of town. I ask on the phone if I can bring a bottle of wine -- she gets flustered and tells me that she doesn't drink anymore (yeah right!). Needless to say that night was a little ackward.

[HonoluluBlue]

This one is bad: I worked with this awesome brunette in a restaurant in college. We'd hang out and drink after work. All of us went out to drink after work one night, I flirted with her like crazy, then got up and said I was leaving (my only good move of the night). So she said she was leaving too, and in the parking lot, I TOTALLY BOMBED. I asked her for a kiss, she gave me a quick peck, and told me she did not like to kiss in public. In my alcohol-induced fog, instead of saying "Let's go somewhere more private", I overreacted and took that innocent remark to mean she was just a tease, and LEFT???!!!! Of course, the next day she gave me the cold shoulder at work, and everyone was at a loss. We remained friends and nothing more happened. Lesson: drink less, and think more.

[Rico]

Doood...how many times have I fukkin' overreacted! I sympathize.

[josiahcy]

Wow, I really like the idea of posting rejection stories. It is a good way to let go of the past (if it still gnaws you) and to make you stronger if you are able to laught the whole thing off at the end.

Anyway, since I'm supposed to write a rejection story and not ramble or my philosophy, here it is. There was this chick I had liked intensely for about 3 years, but I never had the opportunity to move in. I pretty much gave up on trying to hook up after a while, and saw and treated her as a friend. Just recently, she broke up with her b/f of old, and was completely heartbroken. As a good friend, I comforted her and we spent a lot of time talking about our lives. Needless to say, my feelings came back up again as we spent more and more time together. Instead of playing it cool, as I had done previously, I began to rush the process. Prior to my decision, I gave her an impression of confidence and strength and I could tell she was getting interested. Unfortunately, thanks in no small part from advices from my friends, I started to dispell this image as I began to tense up and to become nervous and did the unthinkable by unwantingly revealing my past insecure side in a conversation.(don't know how that happened) Anyway, she called me up one day, and she told me she didn't see me that way and blablablabla.... She said she didn't feel too comfortable with how I was acting lately and needs space. Usually, I'm really sensitive to rejection, which means I get really devastated if a girl blows me off. I thought I wouldn't survive this rejection because I liked her so much (I saw the rejection coming), but strangely I shrugged it off really quickly and returned to normal the following morning. The only thing I regret is losing 3 years of time. But hey, it is really her loss... (sucker!)

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"I just want to be friends" -- line dreaded by every single male on his planet

[hydroponically inclined]

It's really great that you guys are posting your stories... I never thought that this thread would take off and be pretty popular.

It's good because we realize that we got shafted and even though it sucks the big one when it actually happens, it's laughable (hopefully) when you post the story. You get to see where you went wrong, and even though it's hard to admit that you may have fukked up, it's fun.

It also gives lets us know that everyone on this board isn't invincible and will get shot down once at least once. I know that I'll probabably crash and burn more often that I would like, but that's all part of the DJ game! Until I can pull off that "Jedi Knight shyt" on a chick, I might crash and burn 6/10 times.

Keep 'em coming! It's nice to see people opening up. Doesn't have to be embarrassing or anything, just a shaft that sucks. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/smile.gif

[PortugueseMeatball]

Originally posted by chick magic:
ok, here's my story. i was at a party chatting up a chick (8ish). then i saw 2 of her friends (7ish) standing nearby and decided to propose to make out with them all! they made faces and pushed me to the floor and one of them actually sat on me for a few seconds.

LMAO!!! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif That girl wanted it bad!!! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif Had a second one sitting on your lap, and you'd have a party!!! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

[chick magic]

yeah, i wish... i laid on the floor and she sat on my face http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/frown.gif

[ACTION]

Originally posted by chick magic:
yeah, i wish... i laid on the floor and she sat on my face http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/frown.gif

Yeah, I'll bet it was a while since she got eaten out.

As for rejection, here's one:

There's this chick I've seen on the train a few times and I caught her a few times really giving me the eye. So cool. The next time I saw her I stepped to her and intro'd myself. I noticed she was walking very fast (all of a sudden) so I asked "Are you in a hurry?" "Yeah, blah, blah. Oh I forgot; I have to go buy a mop."

Buy a fukkin mop? The chick practically undressed me with her eyes, I step to her and she's more interested in buying a fukkin' mop? Go figure.

[This message has been edited by ACTION (edited 08-24-2001).]

[IntermediateDonJuaner]

I have my bad days too.Here's my story:

There was once when I was still new in this game and was still as clueless as before. During that time, I am like so-called being insecure and have difficulties carrrying out conversation with the opposite sex

There was a scenario when I got the phone number and called up for a chat. I had extreme difficulties in talking and the situation just got awkward as the conversation continued. Until a certain point of the conversation through the telephone, she cut into the conversation and said "You never talk to women before? "

DAMN!!!!. I felt so embarassed and dont know what i should do next but fortunately after visiting this web site, I had improved by leaps and bounds.
Huh, sounds funny right?

Anyway, I felt better after spitting out everything!

Have a nice day!

[Don the Legend]

Originally posted by IntermediateDonJuaner:
I had extreme difficulties in talking and the situation just got awkward as the conversation continued. Until a certain point of the conversation through the telephone, she cut into the conversation and said "You never talk to women before? "


Intermediate,

Your reply next time:" Yes I have. But not to such a beetchy(Thanks Terminator for this spelling) girl like you before. Bye!"



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"I have always believed that when a man gets it into his head to do something, and when he exclusively occupies himself in that design, he must succeed, whatever the difficulties. That man will become Grand Vizier or Pope"..... Casanova

"You are what you are, You are where you are, by what goes into your mind, you can change what you are, you can change where you are by changing what goes into your mind" ....Zig Ziglar

[PortugueseMeatball]

Originally posted by chick magic:
yeah, i wish... i laid on the floor and she sat on my face http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/frown.gif

THAT'S MY POINT! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif LMAO!!! F***ing threesome, yeah!!! AH AH AH AH !!!!

Imagine it: "chick magic, the only guy capable of completely satisfying two girls at that party... at the same time..." whoa! http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/biggrin.gif

[PortugueseMeatball]

Originally posted by ACTION:
I noticed she was walking very fast (all of a sudden) so I asked "Are you in a hurry?" "Yeah, blah, blah. Oh I forgot; I have to go buy a mop."


Yep, she wanted to mop you away from her. Tough luck, man.

[Neophyte]

Yep, she wanted to mop you away from her. Tough luck, man.

LOL

A new way of saying I'm not interested.
= She want to mop you away. http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/smile.gif

Cya,
Neo

[Mount Everest]

I'll never forget it most of my friends say this is the main reason I am now a introvert.
O.k. so I am a freshman in highschool and trying to get to know everyone especially girls. So my boys(we were probably about 7 deep) and I are at the school basketball game.
My boy calls over this chick he knows and starts talking to her.I trying to be cordial inject my self in the conversation. She says she was here to see her brother play bball."I say so so and so is your brother".She says, "uhh uhh I know your not trying to talk to me"."Who are you" and "Where did you come from" " I know your ugly ass isn't trying to talk to me"."Do I know you".Before I could get at her with a comeback all I could her was a chorus of laughs and people pointing at me (it was just before the game and it was fairly quiet in the gym so it resonated through out the whole gym).I never felt so embarrassed in my life. Ohh Well she's probably pregnant with 8 kids and like 10 babby daddy's now f her.

[Envy_Da_Game]

Mt. Everest, I'm sorry but that was the funniest thing I've heard in a looong time! I was rofl, damn that is so cold. Did eventually say something to her? Wow, that is wrong on her part. Well anyway, since I did laugh so hard at that story I might as well throw one up.

I'm a young guy (16), so I've have a few stories, anyway this girl and I used to hang out, on coincidence. She came on to me, since I really didn't like her- she had an ok face and her body wasn't nice- I thought she was overrated ( a lot of guys wanted her badly). So she came on to me and we were chillin after school where everyone usually does, and my boy comes up to us. He starts talking trash to her and she's like, "You better be quiet or I'll get my bf to beat you up!" I said to myself wtf???- I then said, " Nah, Me and A**** are cool." She got pissed cause I didn't say something to defend her (even though it was a joke). Then, I had skipped track practice so she and I chilled and talked on the stairs at my school. I think I bored the hell out of her because she kept on talking about she was hungry and she didn't laugh at anything I said (my downfall- humor). One of my friends comes up and he had a lunch with him and she starts devouring his food- I said, as a joke, " Jenna you're such a pig". She didn't say anything we were talking for an hour- then I had bounced.

She kept on touching me and playing around with me, but after a few weeks after that she COMPLETELY ignored me. I wasn't really upset because I really didn't like her, but I did miss her attention. She started talking to this other kid that I didn't like, but I went on and talked to other chicks. She ignored me for the rest of the year, except for a little small talk. But I could tell she hated my guts. I guess that's not really a bad rejection but that was the most recent rejection I've had.

[katoom]

Ok heres my story.
So theres this girl that I would see every day and we would always flirt and sit close to each other. Always touching and she would sit on my lap and give me back rubs all the time. When sitting close I would have my arm around her and when walking together we would link arms.

I was thinking to myself wow this girl sure is straight forward. None of this 'I wonder if he likes me' bull****. We talked on the phone and through IM's all the time (I think that was my first mistake). She initiated conversations and would call me all the time.

I really fell for her, I would hang out with her as much as possible. Now this next part is where I think I really messed up. I talked to a friend of hers about asking her out and things got blown waaay out of proportion. It was like ****ing front page news for a week.

So finally I just say **** it. Im gona ask her out now. I pick her up and carry her away from everyone and just go for it. She gives me this look like she's sorry and gives me THREE not just one but three excuses for not going out with me. The first was that she had this pact with a friend of hers that they wouldn't have any boy friends (sounds like a pre-made excuse for both of them) and second that she was already in a relationship (what the ****? look at the last excuse) and third that its summer and she doesn't want a boyfriend. I give her a smile and say 'ok maybe some other time'.

I got totally shafted there but I still talk to her once in a while. I made it clear that I wasn't interested in her anymore though.

[SoSuave.com]

Just moved to Archive. Bump.

[Don Juan the Fantastic]

Multiple rejections in one!!

I was out at a dance club recently (let's hear it for under 21 night), and this one pretty hot girl comes up and starts grinding with me. At the end of the song, I ask her what her name is.. she tells me, and walks away. I think alright.. whatever.

So I spot another girl in the crowd who wasn't dancing, and I try to start a conversation with her.. I asked her what school she went to.. she told me, and turned around and walked awway. Ok.. not going well.

So a little later, I was waiting by myself for the friend that I came with to get back, and this girl who wouldn't tell me more than her school came and sat down right next to me.. there was no one else close to us. So I'm thinking what the hell? ok.. I'll try again. More 1-word answers, she wouldn't dance, and then she got up and left. Um.. so when I saw her at the end of the night when most people were leaving, I smiled and said
"So Allison, what have you got against me?"

She ignored me and walked away. Ouch. Maybe I just caught some girls on a bad day.. but the club scene doesn't seem to treat me too well.

[The Main Event]

Originally posted by bondjamesbond
Not too long before I met my wife I had stopped in a Ponderosa to get a steak and there was this gorgeous creature of a hostess working there. I gave her a big smile and hello and went and found a seat. She was one of those chicks that come around and refill your coffee so I knew I'd be getting a visit. When she stopped by I started chatting with her and really seemed to be hitting it off well. I decided to go back a few days later hoping she'd be there. She was, and was taking a break, sitting by herself, no less! It was a golden opportunity, so, not being shy, I grabbed my tray and walked over to her booth. "Hi" I says, "Mind if I join you?" She said, "If you don't mind, I'd much rather be left alone."........I was a little taken aback so I went off and ate my dinner. When I finished, I noticed she was still sitting alone so I figured I'd try again. I walked over and just asked her if she had been working there long. She looked up real annoyed and said "You're kind of a pain, I'll be glad when you leave!"
"Damn!" I said, "I guess that rules out that blow*** I was hoping I'd get!"
This one was worth bumping, even if only for his come-back. Every once in a while you read something that makes you think, "can't wait until my next rejection".


I am
The Main Event.

[JAS760]

bee you em pee

[classy broadside]

Here's one I've gotten through email. This was after I wrote her (after due introductions, flirting, etc.) to get her number so that I could call her and set up a date.

Her response? (I edited some parts out in the middle for redundancy/length)

"Give you my number? What do you think I am? Just a thing that you can command? I will not be ordered to do anything. Did I ever mention a desire to talk on the phone. That would be a no. Did you ever politely ask if I would consider doing so? Again, no. Do I care if you think we have a lot in common? ROFLMAO NO! […] Here's something for you to ponder when you're home alone tonight with nothing to do, maybe, just maybe, this is why you don't have a girlfriend and aren't getting laid."

Admittedly I was knocked a bit off balance by this. But I wrote her back letting her know that I'm glad she responded this way, and that it's clear we didn't need to waste time with one another.