Anyone with any experience knows that women say one thing, but mean another. They say they want a sensitive nice guy when they really want a bad boy. They claim they're sick of guys only thinking about sex, when they're desperately craving a dominant sex god. It can be real confusing and frustrating for us guys. We try to be prince charming, treat them like ladies, and then we get rejected for being "too nice". We try to play the bad boy, be forward with sex, and we get brushed aside for being too desperate or sleazy.
I got real irritated by this indecisiveness in recent years and decided I was going to try playing into their whims, telling/showing them what they want to hear/see, then giving them what they want. It's quite simple really, but so effective.
Lately I applied this approach to online dating. I wrote a profile describing myself as a gentleman who believes that chivalry is not dead. I say that I'm seeking a meaningful relationship, with deep conversation and how my ideal dates would involve walks along a beach or a picnic by a lake. I nearly vomited a little myself at how sickly sweet it all sounded, but decided to run with it.
Next thing I know I'm getting bombarded with mails from women. They're all saying how refreshing it is to see a guy with my values, how wonderful I appear to be and how I sound like their ideal man. When I reply to them I continue telling them what they want to hear, showing interest in them as individuals and even talk about how I feel I've met someone special. Many of these women I speak to become infatuated quite quickly and enamoured with the idea of their dream man.
The first few times I tried this strategy, I decided to approach the dates in the same way I had been talking to them, acting the gentleman, being polite and respectful. By all accounts I was being a "nice guy". First dates usually went amazingly well, increasing their infatuation levels, but when it came to the second and third dates, things invariably turned bad. I got rejected and LJBF'd with the old "you're too nice". I asked a few of them to elaborate and they did (respect to them). One woman told me I appeared to be trying too hard. Another told me the idea of being sexual with me made her feel guilty because I seemed too sweet. Another said that she needs more of a dominant man for her to feel sexually comfortable and that I seemed "innocent".
One girl really p!ssed me off. She seemed so sweet and sensitive, was acting obsessed with me, talked about cuddles and how she felt I was the man of her dreams, then the week of our 2nd date, she arranged a date with someone else instead. Moral of the story: don't ever get sucked in by the sweet and sensitive act. Thankfully I wasn't that keen or she might've really hurt me.
Ok, so I changed tactics a little. I did everything the same, except just before the first date I started increasing the sexual tension, dropping suggestive comments into texts and mails. After the first date, I began escalating the sexual tension even more. Depending on how they responded, I would take it to the point of describing what I want to do to them (slamming her against the wall, carressing her body, licking her breasts, thrusting between her legs and things like this).
Now I had engaged her both emotionally and physically, and these women were absolutely wild for me. They were acting irrationally, inviting me to their homes in the middle of the night, offering to book us into a hotel and two even cut work with an excuse of feeling ill so they could come and see me.
I've been getting so much action lately. I started applying this approach to offline pick ups, among work colleagues and friends of friends, and it had the same effect.
Some might think of this as manipulative and to some extent it is, but I am simply playing into the fantasies of women, giving them what they want, while getting what I want. It can feel a bit bad when you have to brush them off or explain you don't want a relationship, but it could easily be them giving you the old "nice guy" rejection or making a date with someone else the week they're meant to be meeting you.
I got real irritated by this indecisiveness in recent years and decided I was going to try playing into their whims, telling/showing them what they want to hear/see, then giving them what they want. It's quite simple really, but so effective.
Lately I applied this approach to online dating. I wrote a profile describing myself as a gentleman who believes that chivalry is not dead. I say that I'm seeking a meaningful relationship, with deep conversation and how my ideal dates would involve walks along a beach or a picnic by a lake. I nearly vomited a little myself at how sickly sweet it all sounded, but decided to run with it.
Next thing I know I'm getting bombarded with mails from women. They're all saying how refreshing it is to see a guy with my values, how wonderful I appear to be and how I sound like their ideal man. When I reply to them I continue telling them what they want to hear, showing interest in them as individuals and even talk about how I feel I've met someone special. Many of these women I speak to become infatuated quite quickly and enamoured with the idea of their dream man.
The first few times I tried this strategy, I decided to approach the dates in the same way I had been talking to them, acting the gentleman, being polite and respectful. By all accounts I was being a "nice guy". First dates usually went amazingly well, increasing their infatuation levels, but when it came to the second and third dates, things invariably turned bad. I got rejected and LJBF'd with the old "you're too nice". I asked a few of them to elaborate and they did (respect to them). One woman told me I appeared to be trying too hard. Another told me the idea of being sexual with me made her feel guilty because I seemed too sweet. Another said that she needs more of a dominant man for her to feel sexually comfortable and that I seemed "innocent".
One girl really p!ssed me off. She seemed so sweet and sensitive, was acting obsessed with me, talked about cuddles and how she felt I was the man of her dreams, then the week of our 2nd date, she arranged a date with someone else instead. Moral of the story: don't ever get sucked in by the sweet and sensitive act. Thankfully I wasn't that keen or she might've really hurt me.
Ok, so I changed tactics a little. I did everything the same, except just before the first date I started increasing the sexual tension, dropping suggestive comments into texts and mails. After the first date, I began escalating the sexual tension even more. Depending on how they responded, I would take it to the point of describing what I want to do to them (slamming her against the wall, carressing her body, licking her breasts, thrusting between her legs and things like this).
Now I had engaged her both emotionally and physically, and these women were absolutely wild for me. They were acting irrationally, inviting me to their homes in the middle of the night, offering to book us into a hotel and two even cut work with an excuse of feeling ill so they could come and see me.
I've been getting so much action lately. I started applying this approach to offline pick ups, among work colleagues and friends of friends, and it had the same effect.
Some might think of this as manipulative and to some extent it is, but I am simply playing into the fantasies of women, giving them what they want, while getting what I want. It can feel a bit bad when you have to brush them off or explain you don't want a relationship, but it could easily be them giving you the old "nice guy" rejection or making a date with someone else the week they're meant to be meeting you.
" and talk about being their "personal trainer"
