Or am I reading way too much into it?

So a few nights ago I met this girl at a family's superbowl party. She approached me and insisted that I take a few shots with her. I took a few with her, and we talked for a little. She then says "Maybe if you're lucky you can take me home tonight if you ask Selena(my aunt in law, also this girl's cousin)" and walks away. We go do our own thing for a while, and then she comes back to me. We talk for a bit more and I find out that she lives 3 hours away. So she tells me "If you want my number you have to ask Selena."

So then I say "Why do I have to get it from her, and I can't just get it from you? Also, what makes you think I WANT your number?" in a flirty tone. She smiles at me and tells me it's because "the way I look at her." I asked her how and what way I looked at her and she tells me "Well you know..the way guys look at girls when they want them." She gets my phone and puts her number in it. After this she tells me let's go take a walk outside. We go outside and walk around for a bit, and then sat down and had a chat for about 30 minutes.

During these 30 mins we talked about our past relationships, what went wrong, and what we wanted in possible future relationships. After a bit, she then tells me that I'm very cute/good looking and very mature for my age (she is 4 years older than me). Our chat gets briefly interrupted by her friends looking for her and worried about her because she just disappeared.

So we go back inside, and my drunk ass mom goes up to her and is like "You better give my son some ass tonight!" LOL..this was very embarassing. The girl then tells her "Nope if your son wants to be with me he has to wait 9 months!" Yeah...this was all infront of about 40 people, family and friends. So anyway, party ends and I'm too drunk to drive, so I decided I would crash there. The girl tells me to come with her and her friends to her friend's house and I agree. Well, her friends forgot that I was riding with them and I just ended up crashing there. I texted her saying that her friends forgot me and I'm just gonna crash her. She gave me directions and was like "Come over!" but then I explained that I was too intoxicated to drive and she said "Okay...good night sleep tight =)"

So the next day (yesterday) I called her and asked when she wanted to grab some lunch. We got lunch and got to know eachother a bit more, I'd say we had a good time. She then asked me to drop her off at the mall (her friend she was staying with was there) so I dropped her off. She said "Bye and thanks for lunch! See you tonight?" I replied "I had fun. Yeah, for sure."

30 minutes later she texts me and says "Thank you for lunch =)." Come night time, I texted her asking what the plan for the night was. No response. I shrugged it off and assumed she was busy because she and some other people threw a surprise birthday dinner for her cousin. Fast forward to today. I texted her this morning and asked if she had left yet (she was supposed to go home today for a new job training). She told me her company pushed back her schedule and she'd be here for a few more days. I asked her what she planned to do for the next few days and she said she had no plans. I then texted her "You can take me out to dinner then =P". This was 5 hours ago and she hasn't responded.

I also wanted to ask her what happened to last night but I don't want to text her too much and make it seem like I'm overly infatuated. Actually I don't really care that much if she lost interest in me. I just hate not knowing something for sure and playing the waiting game. If she doesn't like me, I'd be cool with that and move on.

What do you guys think?

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Girl was really interested me at first, and now it seems like she's not. Am I overreacting?

My first instinct says that you failed to be a challenge.

You couldn't catch up with her that night, so you asked to catch her the next afternoon. After catching her the next afternoon, you agreed to catch her that night. Texting all the while, I'd imagine.

Who knows what goes through a girl's head. It could totally be her, man. But as a rule of thumb, try to avoid seeing some chick on 3 separate occasions within a 24 hour span.

And for God's sake. When a girl asks you to hangout after a night of drinking, find a way to make it happen. It's been my experience that once you turn down a girl's obvious request for sex, there's no coming back from that. It's very responsible of you to not drive while intoxicated.....but man, you would have had to tie me down to keep me off the road.

sir, i give my humble inputs.

when the she said "if you're lucky.." the first thing you should have thought was "ha! who is this crazy b*tch? David Deangelo's daughter?" and just proceed to neg and throw some sh!t at her not b/c the DJ principle says so but b/c a man of at least some self-respect won't tolerate that kinda bs: "laugh at her face, who are you? Hilary Clinton?"

honestly im not anywhere i want myself to be but this girl is showing so many opportunities to neg. ask Selena for Her number? tell her "lol what is this, are you not old enough to that you have to share phone with her?" or "dam am i talking to a celebrity? is selena your manager or something what are you?". of course keep it light and playful.

i think you managed the situation well that far. but i wouldn't talk to a girl about past relationship and that kind of boring subject. i can get an input on this from master dj.

also i learned recently that in beginning, the man has to game women by keeping her hamsters rolling; meaning let her call you then don't reply immediately, make her go "why is he not calling me?" and let her wonder.

you are pretty good at game so keep it up! btw, isn't she related to you ? even thought it's not blood relative?

ps; i posted a thread about my condition, so guys please give me some insightful advice. i need it. thanx

B*tches is crazy. Interpreting their actions from a logical standpoint is the path to destruction. That said...

During these 30 mins we talked about our past relationships, what went wrong

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Probably a terrible choice for a girl you just met. Saying anything about your ex beyond "She was a really nice girl, it just didn't work out" is dangerous territory.

LOL..this was very embarassing. The girl then tells her "Nope if your son wants to be with me he has to wait 9 months!"

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Bad if you got visibly flustered. Your mom probably f*cked you over by calling both of you out in front of everyone. I would have told her she was sh*t out of luck if she excepted me to wait 9 months for her.

The end parts: You texted her too much and sounded needy. Reading your post it's as if you're communicating "I'll really do whatever it takes to spend time with you if you let me!!!"

Next time: less communication/texting when she's not around you. If she gets at you to do something, cool. If not, whatever. But that's just me and I hate chasing.

The way you handled her sh*t with the aunt and the number was good.

It's been my experience that once you turn down a girl's obvious request for sex, there's no coming back from that.

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I have also found this to be generally true.

My humble opinions, of course. KJ theory and I'm still a rookie.

Actually she brought up the whole relationship thing. On our 30 min walk and lunch date, she brought up relationships and past relationships both times lol.

Edit: She's 27 and been with 3 guys only. I'm sure she wasn't looking for sex, lol. She only sleeps with guys she's in a relationship with.

Udyr said:

Actually she brought up the whole relationship thing. On our 30 min walk and lunch date, she brought up relationships and past relationships both times lol.

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Of course she did. Girls are always the ones to bring that up. It's your job to change the subject.

Edit: She's 27 and been with 3 guys only. I'm sure she wasn't looking for sex, lol. She only sleeps with guys she's in a relationship with.

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Hah. Yeah me too, pal.

Was her flirty dialogue with you at the party innocent? Was her invite to hang out after drinking your face off at the party innocent? Then don't buy into this idea that she's innocent. That she's "not that type" or that she only sleeps with guys that she's in relationships with. Remember the day you heard that Santa Clause isn't real? Well, I know it's sad. But no one ONLY sleeps with people they're in relationships with...no one attractive anyway. All due respect, that's pretty naive.

How do you even form a relationship with a person before knowing that you're sexually compatible? You think that she first dates a guy, then determines that she's in love with him, and then has sex with him? I'm genuinely curious. How does this "only have sex with people you're in relationships" idea play out in your head? I need to see your logic behind this belief.

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Of course she did. Girls are always the ones to bring that up. It's your job to change the subject.




Hah. Yeah me too, pal.

Was her flirty dialogue with you at the party innocent? Was her invite to hang out after drinking your face off at the party innocent? Then don't buy into this idea that she's innocent. That she's "not that type" or that she only sleeps with guys that she's in relationships with. Remember the day you heard that Santa Clause isn't real? Well, I know it's sad. But no one ONLY sleeps with people they're in relationships with...no one attractive anyway. All due respect, that's pretty naive.

How do you even form a relationship with a person before knowing that you're sexually compatible? You think that she first dates a guy, then determines that she's in love with him, and then has sex with him? I'm genuinely curious. How does this "only have sex with people you're in relationships" idea play out in your head? I need to see your logic behind this belief.

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Lol so I fked up, and there's no coming back from this. I blew my chances right?

She must've been lying when she said she doesn't like sex then lol. Either that, or 3 of those guys are fail in bed

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After this she tells me let's go take a walk outside. We go outside and walk around for a bit, and then sat down and had a chat for about 30 minutes.

During these 30 mins we talked about our past relationships, what went wrong, and what we wanted in possible future relationships.

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This is where you blew it. You should've attempted to hook up with her outside and leave all that relationship BS for after you've pounded her into oblivion. You had her isolated (at her suggestion aka she probably wanted you to make a move!!!) and you fumbled it. We've all done it, and we always regret it in retrospect.

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Lol so I fked up, and there's no coming back from this. I blew my chances right?

She must've been lying when she said she doesn't like sex then lol. Either that, or 3 of those guys are fail in bed

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I don't think there's zero chance. You just gotta walk away from it. Disappear for a week or two, and pass her another text after she's had some time to wonder about where you've been. If she doesn't respond, then it's a done deal. If she gets in touch with you, then it's game on.

And yeah, come on man. Who doesn't like sex? That's like saying "I don't like food." The purpose of sex is to be enjoyed, to encourage you to create offspring. She said that? That's laughable. Maybe she was trying to sound "different from the others"

lol. I just got a call, she was busy today. But yeah she wants to see me again tomorrow. I didn't blow anything, I guess.

Think of it this way. You and her are kicking a ball back and forth, you were doing pretty well, but you started messing up a bit. Now the ball's in her court, but she's not doing anything with it. The only way to get her to play again is to start walking away from the game which is not contacting her anymore. Asking her out the second time after not getting a reply the first was like begging her to kick the ball back to you. She might enjoy the power for a while, but eventually she'll get bored and she'll be the one to leave. In your case I don't think it's too late yet.

She has your number, you know what to do. If the game is still on, she'll contact YOU.

my take, she wanted you to bang her that first night, should have snuck off somewhere and delivered the goods

chalk it up to learning experience, don't feel bad I am still a tard myself when it comes to situations like this, girls won't come right out and say fook me because they don't want to be called a hore, they will hint at it, especially when drunk