Reading Rollo's post in the cheating wife thread, I like myself to the point where I think people actually give a **** to what I have to say, I have stopped becoming mysterious.

There is a fine line you have to walk between being confident, liking yourself, and not blabbing all day long about you (giving everything away). This is why I still come here, to realize stuff like that. No real damage has been done but, that's how you become the guy where your girl runs off and ****s someone else becuase she has "grown tired of your act" or you become "common" to her becuase you have said way more than necessary. Realizing that regardless of what you have done, silience is always more DJ than non silence if possible. Let your actions speak for themselves as much as possible.

Even when you hit a level of success, women, whatever it is, you have to work constantly on remaining mysterious.

If you want to be mysterious, why don't you wear a cloak? Cloaks make you look mysterious.

Seriously, if a girl is going to grow tired of your act it's going to happen sooner or later anyway. If you're the type of personality that tends to talk a lot, maybe you could try to curb it a bit, take the edge off. But ultimately you're going to have to be you.

Well hey there have been some powerful rhetoricians who had quite the way with the ladies...words are not the trouble...it's when to use them and how in the right combination that is the tricky part...

your beliefs and opinions and ideas are worthwhile for others to hear.

One thing I catch myself (and everyone else) doing a lot is that we all have trouble listening...instead we just wait for our turns to talk.

Architect the dream...let her fill it with HER subconscious, and be subtle in your contribution so she doesn't recognize it as foreign and try to reject it.

squirrels said:

One thing I catch myself (and everyone else) doing a lot is that we all have trouble listening...instead we just wait for our turns to talk.

Architect the dream...let her fill it with HER subconscious, and be subtle in your contribution so she doesn't recognize it as foreign and try to reject it.

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squirrels as usual

fantastic

squirrels said:

One thing I catch myself (and everyone else) doing a lot is that we all have trouble listening...instead we just wait for our turns to talk.

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I don't think people even listen to themselves talk. Constantly i have people deny having said something when I remember it clear as day. I'm able to repeat it back verbatim months later, and they claim to have no memory of it even if it's not something negative that they need to lie about.

Listening is a good skill to work on.

I'll play this game, although I hope this isn't hijacking the thread:
"Just realized the biggest flaw in my game is" I am way too indifferent.

I'm in a LTR, and most girls I know are aware of this.
According to this forum, Taken + Indifferent = women should be throwing themselves at my feet.
But in reality it's more like: Taken + Indifferent = women don't think I'm interested in them (because I'm not).

My married buddies on the other hand, flirt like crazy with girls, because they want the female attention. And they usually get it.
Me, I'll flirt if I feel like it, depending on my mood. But I don't flirt as much as they do because I am genuinely indifferent.

Now I know I am attractive to these women, and I know I can snag one of them up if I want because I've always been able to. But on a day to day basis they don't really think I'm interested in them (because I'm not). To get women interested in you, it helps to throw at least a hint at them that you might be interested in them. And that's my biggest flaw.