Alchemystic
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Here is some of the reasons why.
The longer you wait for a woman to have sex with you, the higher your time investments will be thus placing you near the point of falling in love with her (point of no return) and actually risk becoming a long-term partner. Higher investments equal higher risk and higher risk comes an increase in the “perceive” and “real” fear thus, increase fear of losing; that means it is difficult to escape from an investment even if it is losing, in “relationship terms”, this fear of losing from an investment also creates the fear of losing or breaking up which results in, “you”, fearing to back out, getting entangled up, stagnation and eventually you will be trap in relationship/marriage as a rationalization because you now “fear” a “perceive loss” of an a potentially huge investment whatever or how little the returns may be.
If she won’t have sex with you then throw her away and find someone else. Why?
During the first time you meet a girl pheromones are released causing attraction excitement and in your first year of your interaction with her;
the dominant hormones release are epinephrine (adrenaline), testosterone and estrogen, these hormones; are responsible for the initial attraction excitement that happens in your first year of interaction
but....
after two years of interaction sex hormones that once cause excitement for short term attraction is replaced with feel good comforting neuro – chemicals like norephinephrine, dopamine and endorphins. This is the time wherein you start to feel fewer emotions blinding your judgement and you now see each other’s previously unperceived hidden flaws. This is the phase wherein couples break – up and lose interest with each other.
But if continued after “four years” these feel good hormones are replaced with long term – bonding neuro – chemicals vasopressin and oxytocin required for raising children and family. This is the reason why you should never make friendships with women as these neuro – chemical processes can affect you regardless of distance, age, status or circumstance. Whether it may be friendship, love or a competitive partnership or as an enemy, “YOU” will undergo this process and cause yourself to bond and fall in love with her by merely being exposed.
In other words, permanently-monogamous relationships are not necessarily natural. Relationships were never meant to last. They are partly a modern, social construct. Or, put another way, they are a social construct, the evolutionary purpose of which lasts for as long as Nature considers it useful. Love doesn’t make relationships or marriages last, it is comradeship that makes these relationships last. But how comradeship built? That would be an advanced neuro - science topic which will be discussed on a different thread.
People rationalize everything depending on what they believe is the cause.
If you fail to have sex with the girl then the girl will rationalize it as being meant to be. This is called by other names such as a mental escape hatch, plausible deniability or simply a scapegoat but that will be a different topic on a different thread.
More hesitation means more rationalization and for every rationalization there is rational reinforcement.
We only believe what we want to believe. People only see what they want to see.
(Note: Time frame is not really absolute. Some could even reach 10 years but my point is that our interaction goes to a series of phase.)
P.S.
Okay, maybe I am bit too strict on this,
This post was written to help our AFC/Nice Guy friends from wasting their life pretending to be a friend to someone they adore and help our AFC/Nice Guy move on.
This doesn't necessarily to mean that you have to throw them away if they do not have sex with you but it is helpful for them to adopt this kind of mindset so that they can avoid being obsessed/stuck in one-titis friendzone.
Basically, this post is a post for AFC/Nice Guys.
This is not applicable to PUA/DJ's since the PUA/DJ's know how to use/abuse their female friends but Nice Guys are nice! Nice Guys do not use or abuse their female friends.
I think all of you already know what happens with a Nice Guy one-titis in a friendzone so there is no further need to elaborate why.
The longer you wait for a woman to have sex with you, the higher your time investments will be thus placing you near the point of falling in love with her (point of no return) and actually risk becoming a long-term partner. Higher investments equal higher risk and higher risk comes an increase in the “perceive” and “real” fear thus, increase fear of losing; that means it is difficult to escape from an investment even if it is losing, in “relationship terms”, this fear of losing from an investment also creates the fear of losing or breaking up which results in, “you”, fearing to back out, getting entangled up, stagnation and eventually you will be trap in relationship/marriage as a rationalization because you now “fear” a “perceive loss” of an a potentially huge investment whatever or how little the returns may be.
If she won’t have sex with you then throw her away and find someone else. Why?
During the first time you meet a girl pheromones are released causing attraction excitement and in your first year of your interaction with her;
the dominant hormones release are epinephrine (adrenaline), testosterone and estrogen, these hormones; are responsible for the initial attraction excitement that happens in your first year of interaction
but....
after two years of interaction sex hormones that once cause excitement for short term attraction is replaced with feel good comforting neuro – chemicals like norephinephrine, dopamine and endorphins. This is the time wherein you start to feel fewer emotions blinding your judgement and you now see each other’s previously unperceived hidden flaws. This is the phase wherein couples break – up and lose interest with each other.
But if continued after “four years” these feel good hormones are replaced with long term – bonding neuro – chemicals vasopressin and oxytocin required for raising children and family. This is the reason why you should never make friendships with women as these neuro – chemical processes can affect you regardless of distance, age, status or circumstance. Whether it may be friendship, love or a competitive partnership or as an enemy, “YOU” will undergo this process and cause yourself to bond and fall in love with her by merely being exposed.
In other words, permanently-monogamous relationships are not necessarily natural. Relationships were never meant to last. They are partly a modern, social construct. Or, put another way, they are a social construct, the evolutionary purpose of which lasts for as long as Nature considers it useful. Love doesn’t make relationships or marriages last, it is comradeship that makes these relationships last. But how comradeship built? That would be an advanced neuro - science topic which will be discussed on a different thread.
People rationalize everything depending on what they believe is the cause.
If you fail to have sex with the girl then the girl will rationalize it as being meant to be. This is called by other names such as a mental escape hatch, plausible deniability or simply a scapegoat but that will be a different topic on a different thread.
More hesitation means more rationalization and for every rationalization there is rational reinforcement.
We only believe what we want to believe. People only see what they want to see.
(Note: Time frame is not really absolute. Some could even reach 10 years but my point is that our interaction goes to a series of phase.)
P.S.
Okay, maybe I am bit too strict on this,
This post was written to help our AFC/Nice Guy friends from wasting their life pretending to be a friend to someone they adore and help our AFC/Nice Guy move on.
This doesn't necessarily to mean that you have to throw them away if they do not have sex with you but it is helpful for them to adopt this kind of mindset so that they can avoid being obsessed/stuck in one-titis friendzone.
Basically, this post is a post for AFC/Nice Guys.
This is not applicable to PUA/DJ's since the PUA/DJ's know how to use/abuse their female friends but Nice Guys are nice! Nice Guys do not use or abuse their female friends.
I think all of you already know what happens with a Nice Guy one-titis in a friendzone so there is no further need to elaborate why.
