So there is this girl I'm kind of seeing, she sleeps over often, we have sex and we like each other. However, she usually never texts me first, however when I do she's pretty responsive. The only other girlfriend I've had was in High School and we texted all day long. Now I'm 21, and I go to college with this girl. i'd like to talk to her and see her everyday. What do you guys think?

From my experience it is easier to screw it up if you think about how often you want to text/talk to her her. Youll give off wierd vibes if you set a certain amount of texts you can send. Dont go overboard with it and give her some time to miss you so she dont get too accustomed to have you present all the time.

Don't get sucked into the texting game, if she genuinely likes you she will text you after not hearing from you for a while.

When you do get a text wait a few hours before replying, even if you're not busy you need to act as if you are. nothing worse then replying the instant that you hear from her.

Pretty sure this is a big part of where I went wrong with my ex. Mobile phones are evil things sometimes! My advice is, if you're not confident that you won't end up texting her, just leave your phone at home when you go out unless you desperately need it.
It's amazing what the impact of a few texts can have.

texts can drive you insane, avoid them for anything other than general crap, voice and face to face wherever possible, body language is a bigger communicator than text, if you ely on text to heavily, you will be pissing into the wind

Jonblood said:

So there is this girl I'm kind of seeing, she sleeps over often, we have sex and we like each other. However, she usually never texts me first, however when I do she's pretty responsive. The only other girlfriend I've had was in High School and we texted all day long. Now I'm 21, and I go to college with this girl. i'd like to talk to her and see her everyday. What do you guys think?

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My last girlfriend (I've written a few posts about it here last year) was just like that.

She would never turn me down for anything (going out, travelling, sleeping over), but she would never initiate contact. And it was like that for 4-5 months, before we got into a relationship...

It's anyone's guess what the specific reasons are for that behavior (insecurity, not wanting to be clingy, bad past experiences, feeling that you're too much of a player); but actions speak a lot more than words.

If she didn't like you she would turn you down.

If I were you I would take the same path I took. Keep going out with her, keep the pressure off... Eventually she will begin to show more and more interest in you...

(in my case the chase was all the fun, after that we've dated for 8 months before I got tired once again)...

you wanna talk to her and see her everyday????
well that sounds nice in the short term, you get what you want.
but longterm, it kills attraction and you end up losing the girl... I know from experience the more I see my date, the more we are likely t end up getting emotiona,, argumentative, fighting....

if you guys are just dating its best to keep it casual, 2 times a weeks should be ideal, then you can talk in the phone every now and then,

pipe007 said:

you wanna talk to her and see her everyday????
well that sounds nice in the short term, you get what you want.
but longterm, it kills attraction and you end up losing the girl... I know from experience the more I see my date, the more we are likely t end up getting emotiona,, argumentative, fighting....

if you guys are just dating its best to keep it casual, 2 times a weeks should be ideal, then you can talk in the phone every now and then,

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pipe007 nailed it

The seeing each other every day stuff just kills all desire, passion, and mystery that build your attraction in the first place.

Eventually your interesting conversations become "So what did you do today?" "Well, you should know. We've spent every day together."

Yeah this girl is your 2nd girlfriend, and you're excited, but seeing each other everyday gets old real F'n fast. Develop a life of your own and she'll like you even more.

Unless you're both boring and unattractive. If neither of you have other options, then I suppose getting boring and predictable won't really affect your relationship. You both can just cling to each other for dear life.

Iceberg said:

pipe007 nailed it

The seeing each other every day stuff just kills all desire, passion, and mystery that build your attraction in the first place.

Eventually your interesting conversations become "So what did you do today?" "Well, you should know. We've spent every day together."

Yeah this girl is your 2nd girlfriend, and you're excited, but seeing each other everyday gets old real F'n fast. Develop a life of your own and she'll like you even more.

Unless you're both boring and unattractive. If neither of you have other options, then I suppose getting boring and predictable won't really affect your relationship. You both can just cling to each other for dear life.

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Completely agreed, you need to have some time apart, i know you enjoy seeing each other but the more you spend time together the quicker the attraction will die, just find a hobby you like doing and start concentrating some of your time on that.

Chicks dig guys who have something about them, be it a hobby, an interest or something in between, remember absence makes the heart grow fonder.