Married Man hasn't had "relations" with his wife in 10 years!

[Solomon]

I was in the break room at my part time job reading this aloud, me and my male co-workers had a good laugh, enjoy


Dear Harlan: I have been married for almost 23 years. I have two teenage children. My wife refuses any kind of intimacy with me, and we have not had sex (let alone any kind of intimacy) for the past 10 years of our marriage. I used to be able to count on having sex on Valentine's Day, my birthday and our anniversary, but now not even those days. We have gone to counseling, and my wife says she feels bad about us not having sex. She knows how much this issue has caused me pain, but she has stated that she will never have sex again. The counselor says that I need to be supportive of this and just be patient; maybe she will change her mind. The lack of sex is causing me to really hate her. Should I wait for her to turn around? Should I leave her now, or wait till the kids are gone? I just don't understand this. I have told her that I will have an affair, and she responded that I never would because I am loyal like a dog. - Loyal Like a Dog

Dear Loyal Like a Dog: Hating your wife isn't being loyal like a dog. Loyal dogs do not hate. I just feel so very sad for you and your wife. You sound like you're in bad marriage, but desperately don't want to be. While she might be thinking "For better or for worse," you might be thinking "It's only going to get worse." And you're both completely right. I don't know who picked this marriage counselor, but 10 years in a sexless marriage is called being patient. I'd find yourself another counselor who will tell you that you couldn't have been any more patient, compassionate and understanding. Don't invite your wife to these counseling sessions. Then, either commit to staying together in your sexless marriage or put together a detailed plan of what life will be like once you separate. It's time to do something. Stop hating and start living life again.

http://www.athensnews.com/ohio/article-32545-married-man-in-sexless-marriage-isnrst-happy-ndash-surprised.html

^^The only reason a wife shouldn't be able to have sex is


She is handicap

She got burn marks

She is dying/cancer


The fact that he has stood around for 10 years and done nothing is pathetic, I really hope that guys like that don't exist, I just can't fathom any man sticking around in a marriage for 10 years without getting any.

[sharkbeat]

Oh the dilemma! This is an example of how a woman can be so poisonous to a man's life.

If he cheats on her, he would get bombarded with ridicules, insults, divorce, and his asset taken away by her -- and that's the best case scenario. If he stays, he would never get laid for the rest of his life while his wife would continuously **** random men.

It hurts just to read a story like this.

[Scaramouche]

Dear Solomen,
Being in a sexless relationship is not so strange as we might believe.....Surprisingly it goes both ways,many Men are just not interested...A relative of mine is 72 his wife is 60.They were both good looking people a month after his Wedding Day his tearful wife begged her Father in Law to talk to his Son about neglecting his husbandly duties.this he did and yes to some effect because in short order she was pregnant....The years passed and gradually their svx life became more and more desultory,then just stopped somewhat over thirty years ago....He just gets on with his life,and she with hers,they seem reasonably happy but in confidences is very bitter about her lack of Svx....Latest development is that this guy is showing Homosvxual tendancies....Illicit meetings,cyber Svx with young guys....It's a funny old World.

[romangod]

This reminds me of an old joke:

Q. Why is the bride always smiling when she walks down the aisle.

A. Because she realizes she's given her last blow job.


Cheers!

[WaterTiger]

He needs to get another therapist! Even 1 year with no sex is highly disturbing. If she refuses to get help, then he should see a lawyer. A life with no intimacy is existing no living.

[mrRuckus]

No man a woman wants to fvck is going to write to advice columns.

[SoldMySoul]

Then there is no consummation of marriage. As a result, the marriage is null and void. Many religions would see that as well. This is so insane!!! I bet there are many relationships that are similar to this one too. Maybe just not as extreme.

Marriage, uh... no!!! A small prison, yes!!!

[samspade]

If you've done everything you can to turn things around, stayed in shape and provided for your family as a man, and she still won't put out....then you have every right to seek sex outside the marriage. That's my opinion.

[SoldMySoul]

If you've done everything you can to turn things around, stayed in shape and provided for your family as a man, and she still won't put out....then you have every right to seek sex outside the marriage. That's my opinion.


No you don't.. You have ever right to get a divorce and make it morally, ethically and legally right.

[samspade]

Under these circumstances I see nothing morally or ethically wrong with it. And it's not against the law.

I do agree that a divorce is in order though.

[SoldMySoul]

Under these circumstances I see nothing morally or ethically wrong with it. And it's not against the law.

I do agree that a divorce is in order though.

In the state I currently reside, it is against the law. Under the name of adultery. Sam, I tell you one thing though... If I were going through this, I would be doing just as you suggested!!! It is wrong, and I know two wrongs do not make a right. I would ultimately want to ascertain that my a$$ ets were safe... so a BIG D would and should be in the works before I start searching from elsewhere trim.

[5string]

I'm not laughing. Heck, at the end of my first marriage, I didnt tap it for 1.5 years. Just didnt want to. Should have kicked her out and divorced her earlier. That was my mistake. At least I ultimately gave her the walking papers.

Better late than never as they say.

[sodbuster]

I knew it was over a couple years before it actually was. I waited until my oldest son could choose where to live legally. In the meantime, I invested in things she wouldn't want to be involved with and stashed cash in my office desk. When SHE filed, I' d been ready

[mrRuckus]

In the state I currently reside, it is against the law. Under the name of adultery. Sam, I tell you one thing though... If I were going through this, I would be doing just as you suggested!!! It is wrong, and I know two wrongs do not make a right. I would ultimately want to ascertain that my a$$ ets were safe... so a BIG D would and should be in the works before I start searching from elsewhere trim.


She's violated the contract which makes it null and void and thus you are not breaking the contract by fvcking around because she's already broken it implicitly.

If I am married it's not just legally. The government should have nothing to do with marriage. The only thing I'm concerned about is the agreed upon unwritten marriage contract between her and me. She violates it - the real, meaningful, and moral agreement we figuratively signed before some sort of official contract is void regardless of what the government says.

There's two marriages. The one the government invented in their own heads, and the one i'm actually in. The government one is irrelevant outside of their retarded laws that are against me anyway.

[curiousgeorge]

Then there is no consummation of marriage. As a result, the marriage is null and void. Many religions would see that as well.


^ but unfortunately no lawyer would seeing as the couple have children which seems to imply that consummation has occurred at some point! :P

( http://www.lectlaw.com/def/c294.htm duh!)

[sodamnsmooth]

^ but unfortunately no lawyer would seeing as the couple have children which seems to imply that consummation has occurred at some point! :P

( http://www.lectlaw.com/def/c294.htm duh!)

She's probably f*cking someone else... if he can turn his attention to finding that out, he'd have a great case when it came to the divorce.

[casaanova]

Oh she's having sex, just not with you. You're out of your mind if you think a middle-aged woman can go 10 years without having sex


We have gone to counseling, and my wife says she feels bad about us not having sex.

Female-male translation: I know it's messed up, but I'm a one-penis kind of woman! I'd be a slut if slept with my main guy AND you!

[casaanova]

^ but unfortunately no lawyer would seeing as the couple have children which seems to imply that consummation has occurred at some point! :P

( http://www.lectlaw.com/def/c294.htm duh!)

To be brutally 100% honest, I'd ask for paternity tests. Assuming they were having sex on special occasions before they got married, she may have already been cheating on him regularly and became pregnant, and just told him "it's yours, now let's get married".


P.S., when a girl gives you the "either we get married or I'm leaving" ultimatum, this is exactly how it pans out. She's gotten what she wants (marriage), now there's no need for her to give you ANYTHING you want. You will become her celibate roommate and she will "feel bad" that she has to cut you off while she bangs the guy she actually does like. And all the feminist advice-bloggers will tell you is "be a better loyal dog!"

[MatureDJ]

I've got no problem with this, but the wife should let the husband fool around with other women - either amateurs or professionals (in which this should be budgeted for just like anything else.) Now, if this guy is staying married because he still pines for her, then he is a severe AFC and can't be helped. If OTOH he is staying because he doesn't want to set up such a situation for the kids, doesn't want to the family as a whole to have 2 residences - or pay alimony, etc. - then he shold demand that he have the ability to get sex elsewhere.