Razor Sharp said:

TALKING
Slow your speaking down. Only nervous/insecure people talk fast. Look at how entertainers do it. Very deliberate tone, with lots of thoughtful pauses. No "uhms", "ers", or "duhs". If you want a Boot Camp for speaking check out your local Toastmasters chapter (google it). They will whip you into shape real good

POSTURE
Take up a lot of room physically, let your body be loose and relaxed. Spread legs, lean back and "take over" the space. No fidgeting/hunching/sitting like a b*tch. Your body language should be the same as it would be in your own livingroom hanging with your buddies. It's no longer a public spot when you are there it is YOUR space, so own it.

PACE
Confident people move with slow grace. Avoid waving your arms around like crazy when you talk. Gesticulate, but in a relaxed manner. Take easy strides as you move around. Take time to absorb your surroundings instead of rushing from point A to point B. Same goes with eating - many women will watch how you finish a meal because it says a lot about how you treat the pleasures of your body (including sex). Savor each bite like its an orgasm you're trying to suppress, women will LOVE eating with you.

EYE CONTACT
So crucial to make that connection and demonstrate you are not afraid of new experiences/people. If you have a real problem with it, or find it too intense just look at people in the spot between the eyes till you get over your hangup. NEVER break contact by looking down, it's a sign of submission. Break it to look at something/one else in the room and then return to the gaze.

CROWD JUGGLING
Don't commit yourself into one long conversation with just one person or group of people, especially not in highly social settings. Mingle, use segways or trips to the bathroom/bar/etc to spark up convos with other people. Don't be afraid to bail on people that you aren't feeling. Excuse yourself and work the room, remembering to claim the space wherever you go. The world is your home!

DOMINANCE
Don't be afraid to talk over someone if what you have to say is more relevant/interesting/funny. Sometimes you gotta jockey for your slot in a social exchange. Also do not be afraid to amicably disagree, even if it goes against the general consensus. You only come off as strong as your opinions. If the current topic of conversation is not that interesting feel free to steer it in another direction. Take control!

PHYSICAL CONTACT
If someone is in your way, gently move them by the shoulder with your hand and say excuse me.
If you meet a girl shake her hand firm but gentle and hold it a couple more seconds than you should while making eye contact and exchanging pleasantries
Feel free to kiss girls on both cheeks and tell them it's a European thing. When they ask if you are European tell them no, but you think its cool.
Do not fear the power of touch - it's by far the biggest tool in your arsenal.

HATERATION
If anyone insults you, pretend that you are a pit bull who just got challenged by a chihuahua. Act more amused than offended and ignore their BS. Same goes for women who are catty or have their b*tch shields set on "STUN". Even if you are really angry, do not let it show - do not give them that satisfaction. Laugh at their pettiness and keep it moving.

CHARM
Compliment people who you feel are deserving, even if its a small detail. I cant tell you how many times I broke open a good set just by saying "I like your bracelet/watch/shoes/etc". Brownie points if you can say why/what exactly it is that you like (basis of the compliment). Being genuine goes a long way here.

HUMOR
Not everyone is a Dave Chappelle, and you shouldn't try to be a clown if it don't come naturally. But that doesn't mean you can't use humor to put you into a fun state that people will enjoy being around. Before you head out, watch some videos of your favorite comedy sketches or stand-up routines. You should have laughed a few times FROM THE GUT before you walk out the door. Carry that lightness with you for the rest of your day. It will serve you well.

RESPIRATION
Breathe deep and easy. It will put you in the right mind-state. Shallow or fast breaths only build on the anxiety which is already there.

SELF-HYPNOSIS
Look in the mirror, right in the depths of your pupils. Take slow deep, relaxed breaths and try to find your soul in there. Now, super-impose the image of someone you admire, or aspire to be over your own image, never losing sight of your eyes. Now say all the things you'd like to say to that person to yourself. Feel and accept that admiration, let it sink in. Repeat daily.

WORD ASSOCIATION
Just some adjectives to help you create the right vibe

• Light
• Free
• Open
• Loose
• At Ease
• Fun
• Bright
• Witty
• Insightful
• Honest
• Secure
• Deliberate
• Frank
• Warm
• Engaging
• Social
• Connected
• Persuading
• Reframing
• Leading
• Attractive
• Winning
• Effortless
• Joyful
• Natural
• Unfazed (nothing ruins your good mood!)

GRADUATING
A time will come where you will have reached the threshold of fakery - it will only get you so far. At that point you will really need to work on several things aside from game and social skills. It will be time to lead a life that you can truly be proud of. Have goals, vision, a DREAM of what you think is an ideal future. Write it down, draw pictures or put together a collage - whatever it takes to translate the vision in your mind to reality. Be passionate about whatever that is and follow it because it's the only way you can throw away these crutches and really SHINE as a confident man.

Yes, its true you will deal with hardships and setbacks along the way and sometimes life will suck and you will feel defeated. But unlike the debilitating effect it has on weaker men, these trials will only serve to make you MORE confident as you push forward and gain strength/character from the effort. They will also make your victories that much sweeter when you achieve them.

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