This other thread where the guy mentions a woman asking him to go to an event where her boyfriend will be, while they both have something running, reminded me of situations when something along those lines happened.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=178355

OldFashioned said:

The day before the second date, she cancels saying she can't make it and I find out her vacation was with her boyfriend of 1 year. I ask her if he proposed, he didn't, she says that's strange I asked because her family did too...and that he just needs some time before proposing. Next she invites me to this BBQ a few weeks from now with her friends, family, and boyfriend. I say no thanks, and because it's obvious I'm interested, it wouldn't be right for us to hang out anymore since she's serious with someone else. I tell her to have a great life, and wish her the best. She kind of freaks out and asks if that means we can't talk anymore. I say it wouldn't be right to hang out and say goodbye to her. She says nothing.

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In one case I had allready had made out with the girl, the game was running smooth, then her bf (long distance) comes to visit and she wants me to hang out with them. I was like, to myself, "WTF, no way, are you retarded?". Some other similar situations where things were not as advanced , but the game was obvious, also happened.

I never thought it was sensible to put myself in that situation, too much can go way wrong.

However, it allways intrigued me why women find this to be a good idea, is it like a ultimate sh1t test, or just pure and simple retardedness? Or are they just itching to have a sh1tload of drama erupt? Or is it like they are wanting to see how you fare facing the competition? Pure ego feeding?

I would like to hear some of the more experienced guys take on this, I was never able to reach any definitive conclusions on this.

However, it allways intrigued me why women find this to be a good idea, is it like a ultimate sh1t test, or just pure and simple retardedness? Or are they just itching to have a sh1tload of drama erupt? Or is it like they are wanting to see how you fare facing the competition? Pure ego feeding?

All of the above^^^You are right. Do not put yourself in the middle of it. ALOT can go wrong. Nothing good comes of this nonsense.

Let me put it this way:

If I had a chance to place two beautiful women in a gladiator pit and have them fight over me to the death while I and a bunch of other people get to watch the carnage... would I take that opportunity?

One of them loses, but no matter what, I always win.



Same for women. They know that no matter what, this situation is only win-win for them. In either case, the man loses no matter what. The guy who gets to "keep her" isn't keeping a "winner". She's not worth it. The only guy who wins in a situation like that is the one who doesn't get himself placed into that pit.

It could be a way of keeping you in her life - get you to be friends with her boyfriend. A way to keep you around as an orbiter, perhaps? Maybe she sensed you were going to drop her and this is a way to keep you reeled in.

My girlfriend recently was telling me that a woman she knew was trying to hang out with her as a way to get to me. Normally I woud tell her she was being paranoid, but that appeared to be true in this case. I wasn't interested in her anyway though. I wonder how common a ploy this is?
I've had girls tell me before that I should hang out with their boyfriends, and I wondered about their real motives.

For that matter, do guys ever strike up friendships with a dude just so they can be around his wife/girlfriend?

All you guys make good points. I guess its two things that I have the greatest trouble understanding:

1) If I had two girls interested in me, and wasn´t commited to none, I wouldn´t have much trouble throwing the 2 of them in a pit, but if one of them was my gf I would never do that, it would be incridibly low-life of me to do that. Cause her that humilliation just for my entertainment.

2) Girls like these are really reckless to try to pull something like this, that can blow up pretty bad in their faces. It just takes the bf snapping. Besides it´s like she has no problem whatsoever broadcasting to the world that she´s a slut.

Well, I suppose in the end it just comes down to that particular woman being a sh1tty person.

Funny.
Exactly this happened to me too and I tried to understand the reasons but failed.
I wasn't exactly on top of my game (hesitation on physical part I guess) and it started by mentioning her bf. At first she was hesitant informing me who she lives with. I thought it might be jealousy shyt test and I hold my line but it got worse. She even invited me to celebrate her birthday with her bf. By then I knew something is seriously wrong and went there just for a piss of it.

Her girl friends were "crazy" about me, telling me in front of her bf stuff like..."That's what real man looks like." etc. It got me a little sick, to be honest. He was a wussy (buying her a house) but seemed to be a good guy and he did not deserved it. I told her I think he is a good guy. And those girls should have known they can't say that in front of other men. What if men told one of her "That is what real woman's like." No manners B!tches.

At one point he got pisssed and asked me "Who (the f@ck) are you anyway?" He was really frustrated but he did not say that too hard.
He should have asked her that. But he probably had not that courage for confrontation.

My reasoning was probably the same as stated in these posts. She wanted ONS with me, if that did not happen, she wanted have fun on dates (she insisted on splitting the check, mind you) and to play games (when she can't throw me out of balance she tried to kick my balls once-wtf?) and finally get some jealousy play, probably to do the ultimate shyt test on her bf. So, controlling, power hungry, heartless chic. She tried to contact me several times probably to continue her games but I declined to play and she married him a year after.

But bottom line is. I f@cked up by being indecisive - not physical enough and instead of brushing of the shyt tests I should call her on her BS more. And basically f@ck her or dump her right on. I guess I enjoyed the games...I was new to the game. And she definitely had her IL in her 60 at best not much more. I'm happy not to "win" her....I think her behavior showed bad character. I could understand if she tortured her bf for another reason than to marry him later. Poor guy.

Kailex said:

Let me put it this way:

If I had a chance to place two beautiful women in a gladiator pit and have them fight over me to the death while I and a bunch of other people get to watch the carnage... would I take that opportunity?

One of them loses, but no matter what, I always win.



Same for women. They know that no matter what, this situation is only win-win for them. In either case, the man loses no matter what. The guy who gets to "keep her" isn't keeping a "winner". She's not worth it. The only guy who wins in a situation like that is the one who doesn't get himself placed into that pit.

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This is it ^ .
Just to add to what Kailex said -

IT may look and sound retarded for a woman to do this, but you have just glimpsed a snapshot of the lack of character that resides in some women.
Her lack of loyalty to her B/f is appalling.

So why would a woman take such a risk ?
That situation has the potential to explode in her face, BUT evidently she regards that possibility as merely jolly good fun .

Male attention is like money to some women- enough is never enough.