Basically there's a girl I'm trying to hook up with, however I rarely get the chance to see her (only met her a few times). I do however see her friends relatively often and they're aware I'm after this girl.

The problem is that now they're 'aware' of the situation, they're trying to get us two together but I can't work out whether this is a good thing? My experience from the past has shown girls to be incredibly annoying when in this situation.. jamming their oar in a little too much, if that makes any sense? All I want them to do is just get me to the same social events as her so I can work my magic.. not try and guide my pen1s into her vag1na..

Anyone been in this situation before?

If they're aware, then she already knows. If she already knows, then every time you run into her and you don't make a move, she sees you as more and more beta. Actually, it's probably already too late. Look for someone else.

Better she see them as on your side than NOT. But LL is right...once the all-clear has been given by her friends, you need to MOVE on this. If you hesitate, you run not only the risk of turning HER off but making THEM look like fools for trying to set you up with her as well.

You should not be doing ANYTHING through her friends. They can go work their meddling on their own. YOU focus on the target and closing the deal.

squirrels said:

Better she see them as on your side than NOT. But LL is right...once the all-clear has been given by her friends, you need to MOVE on this. If you hesitate, you run not only the risk of turning HER off but making THEM look like fools for trying to set you up with her as well.

You should not be doing ANYTHING through her friends. They can go work their meddling on their own. YOU focus on the target and closing the deal.

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Ha! No pressure on me now..

But you're right, I don't agree with working through her friends either. The whole situation arose because my buddy (that I told in confidence) let it slip to her friends and now they're being all giggly trying to play 'matchmaker'. I've told them to just get me to a situation where I can see her then i'll take it from there but now they're turning this whole situation into a giant pressure cooker! They're sending me all these stupid emails saying 'yea we'll tell her you're a great guy and she should give you a chance'. WTF? Talk about making me appear like a pu55y...

I'm pretty confident I can get this girl (my gut instinct is she's into me) but I need to work alone on this. I can just picture them all making this incredibly awkward...

SteR said:

I'm pretty confident I can get this girl (my gut instinct is she's into me) but I need to work alone on this. I can just picture them all making this incredibly awkward...

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You don't need to "work" on anything. What is there to "work" on?? Ask the girl out for coffee/drinks/bowling/whatever sometime. Or if you're hanging out with her and all your other friends, put some kino on her and work for either the number or an all-out "close" that night.

What her friends do is between her and her friends...treat it like background noise.

It is YOU and YOUR frame that decides whether it's "awkward" or not. Don't make too much out of it. You're not solving Unified Field Theory, you're not building an empire, you're seducing a woman. Have FUN with it.

KISS.

Keep it simple stupid. You have her number? Good. Invite her to your place. You should know what to do once she's over.