When I go clubbing and count all the beautiful girls I see that night, I think 75% of them are girls walking past me, instead of standing somewhere in my vicinity. They are difficult to approach because of the following:

It's mostly crowded and difficult to move through the club. When you walk through the club, you can't just decide to stand still randomly coz you'll be in someone elses personal/dancing space (it's like that where I go out, anyway). So when two girls are walking through the club, they're mostly set on going to the toilet or finding a spot with enough space fore them to stand/dance. They just wanna pass through, reach their destination, that's what they're focused on. Other people are just obstacles they have to get past on their journey. They don't look at guys, they first need to find 'their' spot, where they can stand and dance. Only then will they start looking at the guys around them... So when they happen to pass me, I need to have something good to snap them out of their "mission" to reach the other side of the club. It often happens that I just lean a bit towards them to draw their attention and then I say something like: "Hello there!" Some respond very interested and say "hi" back, I can just tell from their facial expression that they'll let me pick them up if I want to. But even so, they walk on because it would be weird for them to suddenly stop and stand still, there's often not even enough space to do so.

You have to act quickly to get their attention when they walk past, you can't just say: "Hi, I would like to ask your opinion about blah blah blah". She would be like: "Dude, I'm trying to make my way through this f*cking crowd of people, I don't have time for this!"

I'm good at quickly drawing their attention and finding out if they're interested. I often just say the same thing: "Hello there!" with a huge smile on my face, or I say: "Don't look so angry!" (a lot of them have a serious expression on their face coz they're focused on getting through the crowd). After this 'opener', I can easily tell if she's interested or not from her facial expression. I'm quite good at this thing, sometimes I just let my hand slide over hers very subtle the moment she's directly walking beside me (like it could've been just a coincidence but was most probably intentional.. She'll never know for sure..) and she'll turn her head around and look at me very interested and smiling. I smile back...but at that point, she's already one or two steps further away from me (some other person already between her and me) and can't stop, let alone turn around. She'll just walk on, goddamnit!

I just never know how to keep them from walking further, I need to offer them a good reason to stop their "journey". The worst thing is, if she stops to talk to me, her girlfriend (who's walking behind her) will have to stop also and just stand their in the middle of the crowd (with little space to stand and a good chance of dancing people bumping against her). Her girlfriend will not like it when she stops and she knows that...

So what the hell do I do in those situations? I've had countless beautiful girls walking past me, knowing that they were interested in me from a short moment of eyecontact or a short "Hi". Later on, I go looking for her and can't find her anywhere...

A hilarious pickle you are in... Ad I can't think of an easy solution.

You could disrupt her pattern, sure, but you have pointed out logistic problems in that.

Yeah, it's really FRUSTRATING! I guess when I would grab her hand and pull her close to me and just start talking away in a "tantalizing" manner, she'll forget everything around her, forget the whole fact that she was on her way to somwewhere . The kino, pulling her up close and holding her with my arm around her waist or something, her head very close to mine, looking deep into her eyes and saying something "tantalizing", it would work. But some girls don't like this sort of approach and prefer a less aggressive approach, so I still need a solution for those...

It would be weird to ask her where she's going to, so I can go there later (they often don't know themselves, they're still looking for a good spot to stand!). I could just start walking along with them, like I'm a part of their 'group' and say in a ****y way: "So where are we going to stand?" I could even take the leader role and say "follow me, I've seen a good spot for us all to stand!", take her hand and lead her there. That would make a great first impression, right? I just think my pal wouldn't like me walking away so suddenly without any warning (since we're often glad to have found our own spot to stand anyway!), let alone if I do this a couple of times during the evening, haha.

Or maybe this would be a good idea: Stop her and directly tell her: "I know you're on your way but if you give me your phone number, I'll text you later tonight to find out where you're at in the club". Even if she's reluctant to give her number to a guy so soon, your move is quite bold and also quite original, which might've raised her interest enough to keep standing still and continue conversation anyway.

Die Hard said:

You have to act quickly to get their attention when they walk past, you can't just say: "Hi, I would like to ask your opinion about blah blah blah". She would be like: "Dude, I'm trying to make my way through this f*cking crowd of people, I don't have time for this!"

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So you're a mind reader. Either that, or you're a fortune teller. I'm not sure why you're having so many issues if you can tell the future or read people's minds.

Oh wait, no you're not. You're just using that as an excuse to not approach. Stop overthinking it. If she says "Dude, I'm trying to make my way through this f*cking crowd of people, I don't have time for this!" then so be it. If she doesn't, then you're already in a much better place.

Just freakin try it.

That reply makes much sense, haha. You're right, I'm acting/thinking like a p*ssy.

Thanks!