Hi buddies. Sorry for disturbing but i really need to get this **** out of my fvcking head.
I was project mates with this girl (Samantha), and somehow i had feelings for her, and she did tell me she likes me ask well.
But when i asked her for a relationship (which im quite confident of), she says she had feelings for me but didn't want to get into a relationship that fast (whatever the fvck that means -.-)
I have never been too desperate towards her or anything, but she just fvcks with my mind these days, i keep thinking of her (afc - although i didn't tell her that)
I feel that she's just playing me around (although she does initiate contact with me most of the time), because when i gave her a miss call, she takes like 5 hours to call back, plus she's always late for dates, sometimes i feel that she gives excuses for being unable to meet up (when she says she's free that day earlier in the week).
I really need some insights from professionals like you and hopefully know whether is it right to give up now, because i don't want my feelings to grow.

Thanks alot guy, pretty long but i feel much better after complaining. LOL!

sk3ptics thoughts

dang man, you sound soooooooooooo needy.

Sherlock-Holmes said:

i asked her for a relationship

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my guess is you haven't fvcked her yet, and she wasn't begging you to date her, and she

wasn't dropping hints daily that she wants to date. So you asked for a relationship

prematurely huge mistake. You gotta give the impression you are the catch, she should be

begging you to be commited to her! Your frame is completely wrong.



My advice is, threat her like you would threat a fat little sister from a different dad, that annoys the **** out of you. If she wasn't your half sister you would cut her off immediately.

Focus on getting other hotter girls, when you are successful you will have samantha.

Sherlock-Holmes said:

Hi buddies. Sorry for disturbing but i really need to get this **** out of my fvcking head.
I was project mates with this girl (Samantha), and somehow i had feelings for her, and she did tell me she likes me ask well.

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It'd be interesting to know just how the subject of "feelings" and you two liking each other came up.

You couldn't have been working on some project with her,then all of the sudden out of the blue she goes,"Oh,and by the way....I like you".

But anyway...

Sherlock Holmes said:

But when i asked her for a relationship (which im quite confident of), she says she had feelings for me but didn't want to get into a relationship that fast (whatever the fvck that means -.-)

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Dude,you should have known not to ask for a relationship. That's standard Sosuave teaching. Even if you do want one,you should have known not to verbally "ask" for it.


You mentioned how you two are working together on some project and about liking each other,but what is this? Do you two date? Have you two been going out for a while,or is this just some "classroom crush" you're trying to turn into a long term relationship?

Have you ever even asked her out before?

Sherlock Holmes said:

I have never been too desperate towards her or anything, but she just fvcks with my mind these days, i keep thinking of her (afc - although i didn't tell her that)[/B]

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You say that you keep thinking about her,but you haven't told her that.

Yes you did. Yes you did,my friend.

You DID TELL HER that you were thinking about her.


You want to know when? You told her you were thinking about her WHEN YOU ASKED FOR THE RELATIONSHIP.



People don't ask to get into relationships WITHOUT taking time to think about it and the person with whom they want the relationship.

And if they try to get into a relationship with someone WITHOUT THINKING about the other person,then they're desperate.


So to her,you either have been thinking about her for a while,or you're desperate....BOTH OF WHICH are bad. But it's one of the two.

Sherlock Holmes said:

I feel that she's just playing me around (although she does initiate contact with me most of the time),

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Well if she is "playing you",it's your fault.

Yes,if a girl is playing you and making a fool out of you,it's YOUR FAULT.

If you were to stand up and be a MAN,she wouldn't be able to do this.

You two would either be dating each other,or YOU would have just moved on,there is no in-between. Anything other than those two options is a failure on YOUR PART.



If you HAVE NOT BEEN DATING HER and you asked her for a relationship simply based on your "feelings" for her and her "liking you",then her response of not wanting to get into a relationship too fast was legit.



It's simple:She doesn't trust you. How can she if you two haven't even had a single date yet? And you trying to get her into a relationship without even a short term dating "courtship" first makes her uncomfortable.

She's right,that is moving too fast.


I rarely say this,but you may want to have a look at the DJ Bible.

There may be a way to turn this around to your favor,but you seem to be lacking basic fundamentals concerning dating.



There's no point in trying to teach you algebra if you can't even add or subtract first.

Its posts like these that make me realize that there should be Game 101 as an elective in college, I'm dead serious.

I'm willing to bet over 90% of the guys who have come and gone from this board came here completely clueless and have became totally changed from the knowledge they have acquired here. Whether they have improved or implemented what they've read and learned is a different story.





PIMP

Sherlock-Holmes said:

Hi buddies. Sorry for disturbing but i really need to get this **** out of my fvcking head.
I was project mates with this girl (Samantha), and somehow i had feelings for her, and she did tell me she likes me ask well.
But when i asked her for a relationship (which im quite confident of), she says she had feelings for me but didn't want to get into a relationship that fast (whatever the fvck that means -.-)
I have never been too desperate towards her or anything, but she just fvcks with my mind these days, i keep thinking of her (afc - although i didn't tell her that)
I feel that she's just playing me around (although she does initiate contact with me most of the time), because when i gave her a miss call, she takes like 5 hours to call back, plus she's always late for dates, sometimes i feel that she gives excuses for being unable to meet up (when she says she's free that day earlier in the week).
I really need some insights from professionals like you and hopefully know whether is it right to give up now, because i don't want my feelings to grow.

Thanks alot guy, pretty long but i feel much better after complaining. LOL!

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Sherlock, FYI, you are the smiley on the left...

:kick:

NO MA'AM said:

Sherlock, FYI, you are the smiley on the left...

:kick:

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Love that!!

Sherlock, if you actually ASKED her for a relationship and haven't f*cked her yet, then you're dead in the water. That sounds so needy.

Missed / late calls and canceled / late dates are a surefire indicator that it's probbaly not going to work (what girl, if she's into you, would act like that?), unless you back off, keep her as a possibility, but also go after other girls.

Never ask a woman for a relationship. In fact, don't ask for anything.

Just take what you want, and use actions not words.

If she's not into you, she'll let you know either way, and at least then you haven't handed your balls over to her on a platter with a note reading "Smash these, I don't need them".